How often do you take him for a walk?
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Excuse me what the fuck? A human being on a leash like a dog?
What is this, how to destroy a child's dignity with one weird trick?
It's usually for the kid's safety. Little kids especially run off sometimes; and while it'd be nice to be able to be a continuously attentive parent, sometimes you need to get shit done out and about while they're with you. Sometimes they're fine with just being carried or sitting in a shopping cart, but if not, a leash & harness (usually just integrated into a backpack) lets them wander safely while you take care of what you're there to do.
I don't think I've ever seen a kid older than 4 or so in one.
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Your American mum bringing a leash over and using it on you somewhere in Europe 51 years ago hardly makes me wrong on all fronts.
Funny you would assume I'm American. You are still wrong on all fronts.
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This leash demeans us both
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Funny you would assume I'm American. You are still wrong on all fronts.
Lemmy, like reddit, skews American and you're referring to Europe as well, Europe, which tells me you're not European. You're welcome to correct me, of course.
Even if you've seen leashes on all continents, they're definitely super rare and not common now. If you decide to be informative instead of assertive you are welcome to educate me on your experiences and expand on which fronts exactly I am wrong and why.
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That, and streets are deadly hellscapes over there a lot of the time. Driving laws are barely enforced and infrastructure is almost like it's intended to kill anyone who dares to exist outside a car.
The most common way children under 4 are hit by cars is not on the street but in driveways followed by parking lots.
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I'm not even from US (Asian) and i see them in my country from time to time, especially in mall. Why would you find it dehumanising when it's merely something that tied to each other wrist? It's not even tied to a neck or something, it's just handholding with extra length. It sounds crazy to me that people actually dehumanising it then call it dehumanising.
I am not referring to a string you hold, I am referring to a leash like this:
I find them dehumanizing and humiliating because they remind me of a dog leash. Look, people parent differently across the world, I remember a British-Indian comedian who was married to a Dane who said that every parenting practice she regarded as healthy and appropriate was basically illegal in Denmark.
The leash will never not be weird to me, but it is what it is. I don't think everyone who uses a leash is literally going to treat their kid like a dog, I know they probably love and cherish their kids like I cherish mine, but the fact remains that it feels off to me and I'd say most other people from my neck of the woods.
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My autistic son would happily play in the park. Just once every few months he would decide that “now is the time to run” and just take off as fast as he could in a straight line. How would that play out in a busy street.
People can’t imagine that: so much of the time things are calm, straightforward to handle, but if EVER you let your guard down for a second at the wrong time, you’ll end up on the news as a “tragic story of grieving negligent parent.”
Yup, sounds exactly like my kiddo too. And they are FAST.
It really feels like damned if you do, and damned if you don't and something happens to them.
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So many people on this thread are defending leashes, yet they don't exist anywhere but in the US, so...
I have never ever seen a kid leash in Denmark or any country I have visited, and yet kids here don't run around in stores acting out or disappearing.
I don't know, they seem dehumanizing and humiliating to me. If other countries can raise kids (incl kids on the spectrum) without them why can't the US?
My grandma was a disabled stay-at-home mom with a hyperactive daughter who tended to run away and wreak havoc, and all the police would soon know who to return her to. Grandma was scolded by neighbors for using a leash but able to explain herself. This was in 1970s Czechoslovakia.
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Lemmy, like reddit, skews American and you're referring to Europe as well, Europe, which tells me you're not European. You're welcome to correct me, of course.
Even if you've seen leashes on all continents, they're definitely super rare and not common now. If you decide to be informative instead of assertive you are welcome to educate me on your experiences and expand on which fronts exactly I am wrong and why.
I see no need to waste my time explaining anything to a closed-minded person. Good day.
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I see no need to waste my time explaining anything to a closed-minded person. Good day.
Thank you for not contributing with anything meaningful to the conversation, I guess!
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Nope. Your observations are simply not representative of the reality.
Oh, okay
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Nowadays that mom would get arrested for neglect or some bullshit.
Hahahaha funny thing about that, that's just a glimpse into who my mom is, and coincidentally I haven't talked to her in 6 years (I'm in my early 30s now)
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It's usually for the kid's safety. Little kids especially run off sometimes; and while it'd be nice to be able to be a continuously attentive parent, sometimes you need to get shit done out and about while they're with you. Sometimes they're fine with just being carried or sitting in a shopping cart, but if not, a leash & harness (usually just integrated into a backpack) lets them wander safely while you take care of what you're there to do.
I don't think I've ever seen a kid older than 4 or so in one.
Then the kid should just be raised properly????
