Therapists KNOW the answer, they just REFUSE to TELL US
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It's because they are there to act as a sounding board, not to take away executive power from your mind. You need to come to your own conclusions in life, in order to have peace.
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At least in my professional experience, it really doesn't fucking matter if I tell you what to do... You're probably going to just keep doing the same shit anyway. In fact, most of the time if I actually tell my clients what they should do, they'll just think I'm an asshole. Not a jaded response, by the way, just 11 years of experience, doing it my way and watching others do it wrong over and over.
I deal with people with severe behavioral disorders. They know what they're doing and they know what they're supposed to do, but impulse almost always wins over reasoning. If I want someone to change, my ultimate goal is to make them come to a realization and to feel like they did so on their own. Then I want them to want to tell me about it. So then, when they come so me and tell me something, I can listen and give feedback based on our previous talks to reinforce what they did. Hopefully, the next time that issue comes up, they can then use that to make the right decision again.
The reason it's done this way is because someday, I'm not going to be around to tell you what to do, so you need to be able to figure it out on your own. That's my job. I can give you the tools to change. I can kinda tell you how to use them, but I can't force change on you any more than I can live your life for you.
Think God in Futurama.
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At least in my professional experience, it really doesn't fucking matter if I tell you what to do... You're probably going to just keep doing the same shit anyway. In fact, most of the time if I actually tell my clients what they should do, they'll just think I'm an asshole. Not a jaded response, by the way, just 11 years of experience, doing it my way and watching others do it wrong over and over.
I deal with people with severe behavioral disorders. They know what they're doing and they know what they're supposed to do, but impulse almost always wins over reasoning. If I want someone to change, my ultimate goal is to make them come to a realization and to feel like they did so on their own. Then I want them to want to tell me about it. So then, when they come so me and tell me something, I can listen and give feedback based on our previous talks to reinforce what they did. Hopefully, the next time that issue comes up, they can then use that to make the right decision again.
The reason it's done this way is because someday, I'm not going to be around to tell you what to do, so you need to be able to figure it out on your own. That's my job. I can give you the tools to change. I can kinda tell you how to use them, but I can't force change on you any more than I can live your life for you.
Think God in Futurama.
Well, the post was just a joke, but that sounds reasonable.
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Well, the post was just a joke, but that sounds reasonable.
Oh I know, and it's funny as hell even from my end because it's so very true. I would 100% use a throwback just like that!
I've just known a lot of folks out there who were soured on therapy, even hostile about it, that I felt it might help to kinda explain why one might use it.
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So true. I go to one but he at least gives us insight.
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"What should I do?"
"What do you think you should do?"
"I think I should ask my therapist for advice on what I should do."
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"What should I do?"
"What do you think you should do?"
"I think I should ask my therapist for advice on what I should do."
"And why do you think that is?"
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"And why do you think that is?"
Because I'm paying them hundreds of dollars per hour for their advice
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"What should I do?"
"What do you think you should do?"
"I think I should ask my therapist for advice on what I should do."
Stop asking rapists for advice!
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Oh I know, and it's funny as hell even from my end because it's so very true. I would 100% use a throwback just like that!
I've just known a lot of folks out there who were soured on therapy, even hostile about it, that I felt it might help to kinda explain why one might use it.
Sooo therapists can't just do a magical reconstruction, leaving out trauma and shit?
Why can't shit be easy just once
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Stop asking rapists for advice!
But....but.....but.....
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@PugJesus Also the secret to leadership.
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Sooo therapists can't just do a magical reconstruction, leaving out trauma and shit?
Why can't shit be easy just once
Humans are not easy
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But....but.....but.....
How else should I learn how to do it correctly?
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In my humble opinion, unless someone comes up with an idea all by themselves, there is no way they will take my advice on anything.
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In my humble opinion, unless someone comes up with an idea all by themselves, there is no way they will take my advice on anything.
I like to tell people anyways. Then I ask them what they think I'm going to say. Then they tell me what they think I'm going to say unprompted
And eventually, they're correct
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Humans are not easy
Unless it's your mum
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@PugJesus I went to therapy after my abusive relationship in my 20s. The therapist sat in a chair, SMOKING A PIPE while drawing doodles, and every time I asked "what do you think?" he answered "what do you think?" as if he was a bird repeating what I said.
After a while I lost all respect for therapists, and went and talked to my friends instead. That was much more helpful.
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@PugJesus I went to therapy after my abusive relationship in my 20s. The therapist sat in a chair, SMOKING A PIPE while drawing doodles, and every time I asked "what do you think?" he answered "what do you think?" as if he was a bird repeating what I said.
After a while I lost all respect for therapists, and went and talked to my friends instead. That was much more helpful.
That doesn’t sound like a good therapist.
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At least in my professional experience, it really doesn't fucking matter if I tell you what to do... You're probably going to just keep doing the same shit anyway. In fact, most of the time if I actually tell my clients what they should do, they'll just think I'm an asshole. Not a jaded response, by the way, just 11 years of experience, doing it my way and watching others do it wrong over and over.
I deal with people with severe behavioral disorders. They know what they're doing and they know what they're supposed to do, but impulse almost always wins over reasoning. If I want someone to change, my ultimate goal is to make them come to a realization and to feel like they did so on their own. Then I want them to want to tell me about it. So then, when they come so me and tell me something, I can listen and give feedback based on our previous talks to reinforce what they did. Hopefully, the next time that issue comes up, they can then use that to make the right decision again.
The reason it's done this way is because someday, I'm not going to be around to tell you what to do, so you need to be able to figure it out on your own. That's my job. I can give you the tools to change. I can kinda tell you how to use them, but I can't force change on you any more than I can live your life for you.
Think God in Futurama.
Have you watched Shrinking? I know it’s not a particularly ethical representation of therapy, but I’ve been curious to hear a therapist’s opinion of it as escapism.
