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Do you ever go out, and while you're out, you think, ‘this is exactly why I don't go out’?

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    I will do anything to avoid going to the store on Sunday. It took me too long to learn.

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      And when you look at your bank account the next day

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      Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp

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        I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass for me

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        That's fine. I even somewhat agree with you. However, acting like you are above doing what millions of people enjoy is some real dork shit.

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          I tend to enjoy it once Im out, it's just overcoming that inertia to go out that's hard for me

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            Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp

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            If I don't look at my account online, does it even really exist?

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              If it was planned out and some beer was involved it would have been a lot better IMO... I had already spent the entire morning mowing my buddy's yard and trimming trees for him, so my batteries were already low before all that happened.

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              You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you're not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.

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                Yes. I only want to go out to quieter places, where you can hear yourself think and talk: parks (nature in general), libraries, museums, coffee shops, bookstores, quirky mom and pop shops, tiny restaurants, etc.

                Otherwise, I’d much rather stay at home.

                My old high school friends were all extroverts who loved going out to bars and clubs, drinking heavily (and smoking), and skirt-chasing. That’s what hanging out meant. One day, in my mid-twenties, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I realized “I’m not having any fun with these people at all.” So I ghosted all of them. I feel guilty about it at times, but I had to.

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                  You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you're not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.

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                  Not sure if I am but thank you, I always try to help anyone who needs it. My buddy is terrible at fixing things, so I've been doing a lot of work for him and his mom.

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                    Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.

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                      Yes. I only want to go out to quieter places, where you can hear yourself think and talk: parks (nature in general), libraries, museums, coffee shops, bookstores, quirky mom and pop shops, tiny restaurants, etc.

                      Otherwise, I’d much rather stay at home.

                      My old high school friends were all extroverts who loved going out to bars and clubs, drinking heavily (and smoking), and skirt-chasing. That’s what hanging out meant. One day, in my mid-twenties, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I realized “I’m not having any fun with these people at all.” So I ghosted all of them. I feel guilty about it at times, but I had to.

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                      You could've also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently

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                      • maggiwuerze@feddit.orgM [email protected]

                        You could've also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently

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                        It was also a long time ago

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                          Nah I love going out

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                            No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.

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                              Every. Single. Time.

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                                I can't go anywhere with noisy crowds. The sensory stimulation is too much for me. It's not fun feeling ready to snap at any moment. Anytime I try going to the wrong kind of places I will regret it, so yeah.

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                                  Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.

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                                  Yea, I'm just not interested any more.

                                  I used to want to understand people better, but it's always the same old thing - everyone's got a chip on their shoulder and it's tiresome dealing with that.

                                  I just wanna hang out and get to know you, but that chip really gets in the way.

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                                    No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.

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                                    I hope it get's better for you.

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                                      I will do anything to avoid going to the store on Sunday. It took me too long to learn.

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                                      Lol - I had to. Learn the same lesson.

                                      Google Maps has been a great help to know when to go to places like the grocery store or gym.

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                                        Nah, I always think that it's even better than I could comprehend inside. (being stressed in your own home is not fun)

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                                          No. Never had that thought.

                                          Any night that I'm just sitting alone at home I consider kind of a disappointment. I try to at least go for a walk or something.

                                          I think Lemmy (and maybe social media in general) might have a greater proportion of people who don't like going out and being social.

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