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When your the big spoon how do you keep your earthward arm from falling asleep?

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    I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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    #6

    There's special pillows designed for this that have a little passthrough for your arm and a small amount of sturdy material so your arm doesn't get crushed.

    Called couples pillows or or cuddle pillows or something like that. I have wanted one for some time.

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    • C [email protected]

      I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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      Took me a while to figure out too! Turns out, it's easier for the smaller person to be a big spoon.

      If you're larger than your partner, lay lower in the bed compared to your partner. Your face should be at their back. Pull that cushion down with you to help your neck. If they curl up a little, your arm can bend a bit forwards as it ends up at their legs, and it won't fall asleep at all.

      Happy napping! 😉

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      • C [email protected]

        I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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        Sometimes sacrifices must be made.

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        • B [email protected]

          You don’t.

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          That's the neat part!

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          • C [email protected]

            I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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            My ribcage rests on a memory foam pillow. My head rests on a buckwheat pillow. My arm goes in the gap between the two pillows. The buckwheat pillow is easily remoldable so my arm can go underneath and find a good angle without making my head feel unstable.

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            • C [email protected]

              I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

              jordanlund@lemmy.worldJ This user is from outside of this forum
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              I mean, how serious do you want to get?

              https://sonusleep.com/

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              • C [email protected]

                I bend my arm and put my hand under my face, thereby converting it into shoulder pain.

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                There’s nothing more romantic than falling asleep spooning, waking up and softly whispering to your partner “my shoulder’s dislocated, get off me.”

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                • jordanlund@lemmy.worldJ [email protected]

                  I mean, how serious do you want to get?

                  https://sonusleep.com/

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                  #13

                  Damn that's slick

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                  • C [email protected]

                    I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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                    I build a bridge out of our pillows. Two bor the base, then one spanning a small gap. I put my Earthward arm's hand up the the gap and my head on the bridge pillow.

                    Nothing falls asleep improperly.

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                    • C [email protected]

                      I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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                      The spoons are the same size. Two different size spoons don't fit against eachother.

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                      • C [email protected]

                        I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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                        #16

                        Along their back or between my legs. Something like this:

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                        • jordanlund@lemmy.worldJ [email protected]

                          I mean, how serious do you want to get?

                          https://sonusleep.com/

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                          wow as a side sleeper that looks amazing. i rotate at night like a 7-11 hot dog i can never stay comfy long so its just round and round all night

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                          • W [email protected]

                            Took me a while to figure out too! Turns out, it's easier for the smaller person to be a big spoon.

                            If you're larger than your partner, lay lower in the bed compared to your partner. Your face should be at their back. Pull that cushion down with you to help your neck. If they curl up a little, your arm can bend a bit forwards as it ends up at their legs, and it won't fall asleep at all.

                            Happy napping! 😉

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                            #18

                            Also called "jetpacking" (especially if the smaller person is gassy).

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                            • C [email protected]

                              I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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                              You don't actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner's shoulders.

                              Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

                              Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn't die, you don't get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

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                              • C [email protected]

                                I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

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                                Because of that I only spoon in space.

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                                • thefunkymonk@lemmy.worldT [email protected]

                                  There’s nothing more romantic than falling asleep spooning, waking up and softly whispering to your partner “my shoulder’s dislocated, get off me.”

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                                  This is the dream ❤️

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                                  • T [email protected]

                                    You don't actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner's shoulders.

                                    Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

                                    Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn't die, you don't get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

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                                    I don't understand. Can you draw a diagram?

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                                    • jordanlund@lemmy.worldJ [email protected]

                                      I mean, how serious do you want to get?

                                      https://sonusleep.com/

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                                      Shut up and take my money

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                                      • jordanlund@lemmy.worldJ [email protected]

                                        I mean, how serious do you want to get?

                                        https://sonusleep.com/

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                                        #24

                                        I've seen a few ideas like that posted before and people had always ended up calling it things like "the spider hole."

                                        As a broad shouldered side sleeper, I would like to test it out, but I can only imagine what things would disappear down that hole...

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                                        • apytele@sh.itjust.worksA [email protected]

                                          Also called "jetpacking" (especially if the smaller person is gassy).

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                                          What if you're the jetpack but your partner is gassy? Damn lactose intolerance.

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