I love bpd girls
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The good times are especially good and the bad times are especially bad, currently dating one and confused a lot of the time
Sometimes she's a "pick any hole" kind of girl with fictional tier blowjobs every morning but the flipside is I'm sometimes the worst person in the world because I said something triggering I don't learn about until days later that isn't even triggering to a normal person
I'm really sensitive like an empath so I've been losing sleep over whether to run or if her gushing love for me part time is worth the struggle, and also it's stressful thinking I already locked in and she might do something bad to herself if I leave now
Girl is insanely attractive like beyond my league too for context, I'm 31 and she is 26, with cutting scars all over her body which don't actually scare me but it means it probably will keep happening and there's nothing I can do about it
So far she's self aware and warns me when she's about to get sick again and I think the maturity and honesty is why I haven't ran yet. But even with warning, and her turning on me soon after, is still incredibly confusing for me
Also she sent me this meme
wrote last edited by [email protected]Yes, you should run. It probably doesn't do you any good to tell you this now, as I know how intoxicating those times can be, but you should run. I was in exactly this situation. Also it WILL be hard to find equivalent sex in the future. Just try not to think too much about the fact that you might have now peaked in that regard.
If you get to the point that you want some helpful answers, consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I read it in one night, it was so helpful back in the day. See if maybe it touches any sensitive areas.
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As a gay man, I had some of the best sex with a man that turned out to be a little cray cray. His place was immaculate but he freaked out on me after one hookup. Granted, I did cancel our second date, but no need to get weird about it. Blocked. Never driving around his place again either.
Yeah I dated a girl for 3 years that was amazing sex. Not worth the emotional abuse though.
Also I guess I shouldn’t have prefaced this with just women being like this. I’ve heard the same about men.
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Yeah I dated a girl for 3 years that was amazing sex. Not worth the emotional abuse though.
Also I guess I shouldn’t have prefaced this with just women being like this. I’ve heard the same about men.
wrote last edited by [email protected]was she honest about her issues or did she manipulate you? was she working on it?
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was she honest about her issues or did she manipulate you? was she working on it?
She was not honest and was not working on it. I was just hopeful it would magically get better. Because I’m stupid and figured it had to if I just kept working on it and being a good boyfriend. But I know now there wasn’t much I could do.
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The good times are especially good and the bad times are especially bad, currently dating one and confused a lot of the time
Sometimes she's a "pick any hole" kind of girl with fictional tier blowjobs every morning but the flipside is I'm sometimes the worst person in the world because I said something triggering I don't learn about until days later that isn't even triggering to a normal person
I'm really sensitive like an empath so I've been losing sleep over whether to run or if her gushing love for me part time is worth the struggle, and also it's stressful thinking I already locked in and she might do something bad to herself if I leave now
Girl is insanely attractive like beyond my league too for context, I'm 31 and she is 26, with cutting scars all over her body which don't actually scare me but it means it probably will keep happening and there's nothing I can do about it
So far she's self aware and warns me when she's about to get sick again and I think the maturity and honesty is why I haven't ran yet. But even with warning, and her turning on me soon after, is still incredibly confusing for me
Also she sent me this meme
Can't it be kept in check with meds?
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*She can fix herself, given the internal motivation, a stable environment, and a whole lotta patience and earned trust
Source: gf has BPD and I'm really proud of her
There's fixing there then. Good
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She’s disordered, but it’s the man’s fault. Typical.
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She’s disordered, but it’s the man’s fault. Typical.
How does the post blame the guy?
Genuinely curious because i'm not seeing it..
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The crazy girls being better at sex thing always confused me. I vaguely understand that correlation but like… it holds so true. What is it about bpd that makes you bang so good?
Less inhibitions.
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Yeah, but what about three legs?
As a leg man, i approve
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Passion, like everything else, is cranked up to 11?
wrote last edited by [email protected]Pretty much. I had a partner with BPD for almost four years. It was extremely intense.
The sex was fantastic but fucking hell was it tough walking on eggshells constantly.
My brother is currently going through something similar with someone else with more severe BPD
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*She can fix herself, given the internal motivation, a stable environment, and a whole lotta patience and earned trust
Source: gf has BPD and I'm really proud of her
Good Luck for both of you!
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DEATH BY SNU SNU
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How does the post blame the guy?
Genuinely curious because i'm not seeing it..
don't get it as well, but I guess it's because of the @toxxxicmasculinity
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Yes, you should run. It probably doesn't do you any good to tell you this now, as I know how intoxicating those times can be, but you should run. I was in exactly this situation. Also it WILL be hard to find equivalent sex in the future. Just try not to think too much about the fact that you might have now peaked in that regard.
If you get to the point that you want some helpful answers, consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. I read it in one night, it was so helpful back in the day. See if maybe it touches any sensitive areas.
It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
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Can't it be kept in check with meds?
The flipside is the meds will numb the qualities that make such people so special in the first place
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It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
wrote last edited by [email protected]Same here. She really, really loved me, in her way, and I love(d) her. Closest I've had yet to something long-term sustainable. But was it tho? She compared me to Jesus and called me a sex god. She drew my penis as art. Touched me constantly. Said I looked and smelled like a French king (it was well-intentioned). Really took an interest in my hobbies--to the point that they became her hobbies and it became a lot. We were really, really close. I ended up having to call the police on her when she finally confessed to the cheating and it ended. She shaved her head and moved to Indonesia. As with the highs, so with the lows.
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Same here. She really, really loved me, in her way, and I love(d) her. Closest I've had yet to something long-term sustainable. But was it tho? She compared me to Jesus and called me a sex god. She drew my penis as art. Touched me constantly. Said I looked and smelled like a French king (it was well-intentioned). Really took an interest in my hobbies--to the point that they became her hobbies and it became a lot. We were really, really close. I ended up having to call the police on her when she finally confessed to the cheating and it ended. She shaved her head and moved to Indonesia. As with the highs, so with the lows.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Dude that is crazy. Are you doing ok now? That would traumatize me for the rest of my life.
What you said is terrifying accurate to my situation, she treats me like some literal god
I don't think she's the type to cheat but you have me questioning that now. I am a lot more concerned she will kill herself rather than cheat tbh but if either of those things happened I'd be a destroyed person
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The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.
Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.
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She was not honest and was not working on it. I was just hopeful it would magically get better. Because I’m stupid and figured it had to if I just kept working on it and being a good boyfriend. But I know now there wasn’t much I could do.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Bingo. Been there. So much better to be alone. Hard to make any progress in life when you have a partner who is totally unreliable and unsupportive and views everything in life as a threat to themselves.
