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What kinds of toxic masculinity have you encountered?

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  • L [email protected]

    You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
    We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.

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    There are a lot of great answers here, but I’d like to add one that I think is often forgotten in these conversations:

    Purposeful incompetence around supposedly non-masculine skills.

    It drives me up the wall every time I hear some dude talk about how they don’t know how to do basic tasks of living because the women in their lives take care of it for them.

    Guys who act like laundry, cooking, dishes, changing a diaper, gardening, grocery shopping, etc. require arcane knowledge they just don’t possess.

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    • L [email protected]

      You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
      We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.

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      #20

      Real men characteristics:

      Uneducated

      Willing to fight after losing a debate

      Only have 3 emotions- mad, sad, horny

      Refer to themselves as alphas

      Impose favors on women for a reward

      Assume women are flattered by attention

      Might makes right

      Ends justify the means

      Say offensive things to assert dominance

      Believe that children are small adults

      Try to take charge by yelling

      Poor impulse control

      Only have aggressive impersonal seggs

      Low Theory of Mind ability

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      • N [email protected]

        There are a lot of great answers here, but I’d like to add one that I think is often forgotten in these conversations:

        Purposeful incompetence around supposedly non-masculine skills.

        It drives me up the wall every time I hear some dude talk about how they don’t know how to do basic tasks of living because the women in their lives take care of it for them.

        Guys who act like laundry, cooking, dishes, changing a diaper, gardening, grocery shopping, etc. require arcane knowledge they just don’t possess.

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        #21

        +1 if they can rp the incompetence into an adv roll. Literal weaponised incompetence

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        • 667@lemmy.radio6 [email protected]

          “Real men don’t put cream in their coffee.”

          No, real men don’t give a shit how others drink their coffee, Stanley.

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          I don't need to drink drugs to stay awake, Stan.

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            Real men cream in their coffee

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            #23

            How else are you supposed to stir it?

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            • scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techS [email protected]

              Music was always the one for me. I couldn't listen to that music or this music because "That's gay bro". It didn't matter that I listened to a large variety, it was instilled in me that some music is okay, other stuff is not.

              One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don't remember ever seeing that CD again. My mom confirmed when I was an adult that dad threw it out because he didn't want me to listen to her. Did he share any of his music with me as an alternative? No of course not, I just couldn't listen to that.

              Now as an adult I've fully embraced it. I love me Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Queen, and other "manly" bands (Yes I know, I chuckle too at Queen), but I'm also an avid Swifty (I even mod [email protected] ) because sometimes you just want a song that feels a bit happier, and I even took my wife to the Eras tour. I love Olivia Rodrigo because damn if we don't all have some teenage angst sometimes, and I've gone back a bit to Britney too - but not as much.

              What a shame that people think that art should be subject to what they think the world is like. There is room to like many different things. Enjoying one thing doesn't mean you dislike another thing. People can like many different things. I can enjoy A24 films while also laughing at Wil Farrell movies. None of that means that I'm this or that - humans are complex and like what we like. Thanks for reading this far 🙂

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              One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don't remember ever seeing that CD again.

              Its so funny to see all those guys, who called groups like Nsync and BSB "gay" back in middle school in the '90s, lose their fucking minds and start singing and dancing along when something like "Bye Bye Bye" comes on the jukebox at the bar.

              To be honest, I hated boy bands back then too but there's definitely some nostalgia hearing them today.

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              • C [email protected]

                One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don't remember ever seeing that CD again.

                Its so funny to see all those guys, who called groups like Nsync and BSB "gay" back in middle school in the '90s, lose their fucking minds and start singing and dancing along when something like "Bye Bye Bye" comes on the jukebox at the bar.

                To be honest, I hated boy bands back then too but there's definitely some nostalgia hearing them today.

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                #25

                Honestly I look back and put them. How many of them had similar experiences to me? That was taught to them, they didn't make it up themselves.

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                • mossyfeathers@pawb.socialM [email protected]

                  Man up, stop crying. Walk it off. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It builds character.

                  talk over all female characters because you know better than them. Disregard professional advice if it comes from a female character. Ask if you can get a second opinion, but only if the first one comes from a female character. Females are lower than men. Your job is to provide for them. They do not have the emotional stability to run anything. That's why they clean, cook, and take care of children. That is why men handle politics, governance, leadership, and other important roles. Wo- cough Females can't be trusted to be stable enough to handle such big tasks. You are important. You are big and dominant. Feeeeemales are small and submissive.

                  Real men have muscles. Real men don't cry. Real men are physically strong. Real men are stoic, only showing emotion in instances of overwhelming happiness or loss. Real men know how to fight. Real men never back down. Real men never run away. Real men can do anything. As a man, you own the world around you, including feeeeemales.

                  I can keep going, but tbh I feel gross. I had to deal with a lot of this as a kid. I don't think my parents realized how gross the male adults around me were, otherwise I'm pretty sure they would have been shocked and appalled by it.

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                  Every time I see the word "females" in contexts like this I imagine the person writing the post is a Ferengi pretending to be human.

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                  • C [email protected]

                    Real men cream in their coffee

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                    This guy masculinates intoxically.

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                    • vanth@reddthat.comV [email protected]

                      This guy masculinates intoxically.

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                      I'm a real man : I drink coffee that's been masculinated in by other real men

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                      • L [email protected]

                        You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
                        We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.

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                        #29

                        Taking senseless risks for little or no reward, terrible attitudes toward health & safety

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                        • L [email protected]

                          You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
                          We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.

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                          Real men don't wipe their ass. That's touching your butt, which is always gay unless you have to scratch it.

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                          • W [email protected]

                            Real men don't wipe their ass. That's touching your butt, which is always gay unless you have to scratch it.

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                            When I first read about this, I thought it was satire. Unfortunately, it isn't.

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                            • E [email protected]

                              Real men characteristics:

                              Uneducated

                              Willing to fight after losing a debate

                              Only have 3 emotions- mad, sad, horny

                              Refer to themselves as alphas

                              Impose favors on women for a reward

                              Assume women are flattered by attention

                              Might makes right

                              Ends justify the means

                              Say offensive things to assert dominance

                              Believe that children are small adults

                              Try to take charge by yelling

                              Poor impulse control

                              Only have aggressive impersonal seggs

                              Low Theory of Mind ability

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                              #32

                              You forgot the red hat.

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                                I'm a real man : I drink coffee that's been masculinated in by other real men

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                                #33

                                Dang, now that's uber-manly! I guess I'm a beta soycuck.

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                                • C [email protected]

                                  One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don't remember ever seeing that CD again.

                                  Its so funny to see all those guys, who called groups like Nsync and BSB "gay" back in middle school in the '90s, lose their fucking minds and start singing and dancing along when something like "Bye Bye Bye" comes on the jukebox at the bar.

                                  To be honest, I hated boy bands back then too but there's definitely some nostalgia hearing them today.

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                                  He didn't want you listening to her music. But I bet he would have appreciated you putting a poster of her over your bed.

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                                  • scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techS [email protected]

                                    Music was always the one for me. I couldn't listen to that music or this music because "That's gay bro". It didn't matter that I listened to a large variety, it was instilled in me that some music is okay, other stuff is not.

                                    One of my earliest memories was being into Britney Spears. I was young, 10 or so. Dad was never home and I learned to like my own music on my own time without him, and I liked her music. My memory is that I was listening to it in the car, my CD of hers, and then I remember mom and dad arguing, and I don't remember ever seeing that CD again. My mom confirmed when I was an adult that dad threw it out because he didn't want me to listen to her. Did he share any of his music with me as an alternative? No of course not, I just couldn't listen to that.

                                    Now as an adult I've fully embraced it. I love me Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Queen, and other "manly" bands (Yes I know, I chuckle too at Queen), but I'm also an avid Swifty (I even mod [email protected] ) because sometimes you just want a song that feels a bit happier, and I even took my wife to the Eras tour. I love Olivia Rodrigo because damn if we don't all have some teenage angst sometimes, and I've gone back a bit to Britney too - but not as much.

                                    What a shame that people think that art should be subject to what they think the world is like. There is room to like many different things. Enjoying one thing doesn't mean you dislike another thing. People can like many different things. I can enjoy A24 films while also laughing at Wil Farrell movies. None of that means that I'm this or that - humans are complex and like what we like. Thanks for reading this far 🙂

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                                    Man, what a sad way to live their lives. I love "scaring the bros" music. Was watching Glastonbury festival on tv last weekend and the two best sets I caught were Charli XCX and Doechii.

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                                      Real men don't wipe their ass. That's touching your butt, which is always gay unless you have to scratch it.

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                                      It’s gay to even have a butt; I don’t have a body.

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                                        Man, what a sad way to live their lives. I love "scaring the bros" music. Was watching Glastonbury festival on tv last weekend and the two best sets I caught were Charli XCX and Doechii.

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                                        Any YouTubes of their sets?

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                                          It’s gay to even have a butt; I don’t have a body.

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                                          Bro I'm so straight I don't have a soul either. I'm just the lingering smell of a man that once existed.

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