How to make friends; part 1
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Executive summary: don't be a dickhead
The dickhead ripped that page out
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As soon as the book was published .... it was already outdated and irrelevant
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Though this is a pretty decent book. The version I read in 2009 had updated all the pop culture references to make it more relatable.
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Fun fact. That man has no legs and hovers around like Slimmer.
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wow so many ways
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Though this is a pretty decent book. The version I read in 2009 had updated all the pop culture references to make it more relatable.
oh yeah, no better way to learn how to form lasting relationships than the book charles manson testified having learned manipulation from.
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oh yeah, no better way to learn how to form lasting relationships than the book charles manson testified having learned manipulation from.
The updated book actually has some useful points, whether it's used for good or bad depends on the person
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Is this a necromancy guide?
Considering how his hand is essentially absorbing the dark energy from it, I'd say yes it most definitely is.
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Executive summary: don't be a dickhead
Must be a different version I thought the Excecutive version of friends involves having money and power
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Executive summary: don't be a dickhead
See also: Hygiene
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If you wanna free 30 day trial of having friends just win the lottery
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- Always turn up to social gatherings with pocketfuls of Babybel cheeses
- If #1 doesn't clinch it, it was never meant to be
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Don’t be a dickhead.
Show up to things where people are.
If you’re shy, at least try to be approachable.
Don’t be a dickhead.
How do I try to be approachable?
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oh yeah, no better way to learn how to form lasting relationships than the book charles manson testified having learned manipulation from.
From memory, much of its advice could be summarized with "act with humility, treat people well, and show an interest in what others have to say, and they will generally like you and be willing to do what you want". It had a lot of anecdotes from people describing how they handled difficult confrontations with others as part of their jobs at usually small businesses. Notoriously annoying customers would reflect on their behavior and change it after someone hears out their complaints and offers to accommodate them.
It is manipulative and can be used maliciously, but it's also just generally good advice to prevent and de-escalate conflicts. I don't think it's any more evil than a hammer is for its potential to harm people as well as build things.
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How do I try to be approachable?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]It doesn’t take much, honestly, and is again more about not doing negative things as opposed to doing positive things, if it helps to see it that way.
If you’re putting out a very inward energy then that can make people avoid talking to you, even if they would like to but think you’re trying to be left alone. Like, if you’re nervous at a partner dancing thing you can go sit at a table far from the floor or you can stand beside the floor and watch. When you’re done dancing with someone, try to fire off a “I’m pretty new, do you know anyone who would be good dance with here?”. It doesn’t matter if you’re good at whatever it is you’re doing, people are drawn to those who have fun doing it.
You will have to do some stuff, of course. But it could be as small as smiling at a joke you overheard and maybe getting a “see, this guy gets it!” My roommate struggles to make friends at the Irish music jams we go to because they rarely engage with others and they’ll leave early without saying bye and stuff. They’re all super friendly, it doesn’t take much!
Another thing is that being a regular is helpful; people love recognizing other people. I remember the second time I went to a swing dance event and was jumped by someone saying “HA! We got you!”.
Ultimately you’ll learn this with practice. And remember that you don’t need to be everyone’s friend, not at all, just open to the possibility of making a new aquaintance.
Oh, and try to avoid one word answers. “Is this seat free?” “Absolutely, have a seat!”(and then you don’t need to do anything else if you don’t want to, but if they do then you’ve establish a positive energy.
