You mean it gets worse?
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Fuck all the adults who say this to kids with less privileged childhoods.
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Most people don't want to die for a better world.
And that's the kind of fighting that it takes.
This all or nothing thinking often just turns into an excuse for doing nothing.
I can make a better world by making things better in my immediate vicinity, without dying for it. I can help one person at a time, and it might not scale to some kind of globally noticeable improvement, but it can still a difference to each of those people, and was worth whatever effort or sacrifice involved.
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Anyone who says 'These years are the best of your life' are really just telling you that their life peaked at that age.
If you play your cards right and have a large serving of luck, this will not be true for you.
I interpret it to be more about the weight given to different pros and cons about different stages in life.
Some people really, really prize autonomy, and don't get to experience that until pretty late in life. For these people, the stifling limits of adolescence, without their own money or independence from parents, can be miserable.
Some people really, really prize being free of responsibilities. To this group, sometimes adulthood comes with too many challenges and responsibilities that they find independence to be stifling.
Some care about physical health, which may correlate with younger ages.
Some love the ease of friendships in adolescence and early adulthood, and long for that dynamic when they realize that making new friends or maintaining existing friendships gets harder after 30, and even more so after 40.
Some feel very strongly about the loved ones they've lost since their childhood, and wish they could've appreciated those shared experiences more in the moment.
And we all have different experiences. I have no idea if my best years are ahead of me or behind me, but I could see an argument in either direction.
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This all or nothing thinking often just turns into an excuse for doing nothing.
I can make a better world by making things better in my immediate vicinity, without dying for it. I can help one person at a time, and it might not scale to some kind of globally noticeable improvement, but it can still a difference to each of those people, and was worth whatever effort or sacrifice involved.
Being a good little slave doesn't fix things.
Voting and recycling isn't going to fix a single problem, because that's what we've been doing for 50 years and things got worse.
It's become painfully obvious to many people now that peaceful protest is ineffective and ignored.
The real issue is too many people have become complacent in being domesticated.
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Yeah the people who say that tell boring stories of glory days.
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My experience is the opposite. Adolescence was horrible, young adulthood was hard, adulthood has been better. I am taking care of myself and I am happy with my relationships.
I'm glad things have improved for you and that you are doing well.
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I think this is just a saying that lost its meaning. Youth is the time you don’t have to worry about much and you can live without regrets because most of your decisions don’t have real consequences (aside from the obvious ones).
Obviously to young people they don’t see it that way. In hindsight I could have done a lot more as a kid but I didn’t for fear of whatever the hell I was afraid of. Definitely not the best years though.
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I interpret it to be more about the weight given to different pros and cons about different stages in life.
Some people really, really prize autonomy, and don't get to experience that until pretty late in life. For these people, the stifling limits of adolescence, without their own money or independence from parents, can be miserable.
Some people really, really prize being free of responsibilities. To this group, sometimes adulthood comes with too many challenges and responsibilities that they find independence to be stifling.
Some care about physical health, which may correlate with younger ages.
Some love the ease of friendships in adolescence and early adulthood, and long for that dynamic when they realize that making new friends or maintaining existing friendships gets harder after 30, and even more so after 40.
Some feel very strongly about the loved ones they've lost since their childhood, and wish they could've appreciated those shared experiences more in the moment.
And we all have different experiences. I have no idea if my best years are ahead of me or behind me, but I could see an argument in either direction.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Right, but most of these factors can be significantly mitigated as we age, making them non-issues.
Being more free of responsibility can be achieved via life choices in career and family. Choose a career with flexibility, and prioritize flexibility when finding new jobs or negotiating promotions. Don't have kids if you don't want them or aren't ready for them.
Physical health generally declines with age, but good diet, exercise, and sleep habits keep nearly all these effects at bay. Many people can become more youthful with age simply because they are in such poor health as children.
Making and keeping friends as an adult is not that hard. While it doesn't "just happen" like it did in school, you tend to make friends with people who you actually have things in common with. Like, for example, people who value a life without needless stress, and who value their physical health.
We can certainly mourn those who have left us. But we also make new relationships as we get older. Is life better when you have a grandparent? Or when you have a grandchild?
The trend I've seen with people who say this to kids is that they have failed in one or more of these areas. The classic being, say, the divorced truck driver who had kids he didn't want, and who only interactes with people at work and at the bar. Older people I know who are doing well tend to tell younger people the steps to follow to achieve the same success and happiness.
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Nah, I think my 30s are looking better now that I have a good job and the right meds.
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Right, but most of these factors can be significantly mitigated as we age, making them non-issues.
Being more free of responsibility can be achieved via life choices in career and family. Choose a career with flexibility, and prioritize flexibility when finding new jobs or negotiating promotions. Don't have kids if you don't want them or aren't ready for them.
Physical health generally declines with age, but good diet, exercise, and sleep habits keep nearly all these effects at bay. Many people can become more youthful with age simply because they are in such poor health as children.
Making and keeping friends as an adult is not that hard. While it doesn't "just happen" like it did in school, you tend to make friends with people who you actually have things in common with. Like, for example, people who value a life without needless stress, and who value their physical health.
We can certainly mourn those who have left us. But we also make new relationships as we get older. Is life better when you have a grandparent? Or when you have a grandchild?
The trend I've seen with people who say this to kids is that they have failed in one or more of these areas. The classic being, say, the divorced truck driver who had kids he didn't want, and who only interactes with people at work and at the bar. Older people I know who are doing well tend to tell younger people the steps to follow to achieve the same success and happiness.
All this is just saying that you personally put more weight on the things that are better about later adulthood than early adulthood or adolescence. And that can be your choice, but it doesn't have to be everyone's choice.
You acknowledge that the health and friendships piece gets harder with age but push back against the idea that it inevitably gets worse. But averaged among all people, things will tend to get worse, and some people who actually experience that deterioration will conclude (as is their right) that things were better when health and friendships were easier.
But we also make new relationships as we get older. Is life better when you have a grandparent? Or when you have a grandchild?
These aren't symmetrical. When you are a young person who loves your grandparents, you haven't actually mourned a loss of a grandchild you personally knew. On the flip side, when you have a grandchild you might also view that relationship through the lens of a lost relationship with a deceased grandparent. In other words, only one of those experiences is 100% good, rather than a bittersweet mix of good and sad.
Not to mention, plenty of people will never have grandchildren. To them, the mourned loss of a grandparent is the end of that road. There's no replacement on its way.
Put it this way: if given the opportunity to wake up 10 years in the past, in your body of 10 years ago, how positive or negative would you view that? Plenty of people would vote on different sides of that, and that's OK to have different views based on one's own experiences.
