What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?
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I don't mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don't make near what the CEO does but many more get there.
i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don't always agree)
I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria.
Gotcha, I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. My apologies for misunderstanding your question.
if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.
All of those examples assume you're starting from a reasonably high baseline of stability, mental & physical health, resources, and likely education. My point is that you can't assume those things. Lots and lots of people aren't even lucky enough to have that starting baseline to even start working toward any of those achievements in your examples.
That's why I said that my particular personal goals are irrelevant, but where I've gotten most would look at and define it as successful, and that I recognize that so many points on that path I was lucky to have the "upside" outcome rather than the "downside" outcome which would have left me far less successful, or at worst, dead. It really doesn't take many of the inflection points in our lives to not go our way for us to be knocked way down or knocked out entirely. I am very lucky that hasn't been my fate.
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Shower sex.
In the movies it looks so hot, but in reality, you've got a eyes and mouth full of soap and your freezing. 2/10
You start in the shower. Wash yourselves, wash each other, tease a little, then dry off, get into a clean bed and have at it. Standing sex in the shower is mediocre at best.
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What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.
Microwaving at full power for whatever time feels right
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
I never became adult
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What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.
Microwave
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Life is only shades of gray it’s not a marvel movie with clear cut Good and Bad
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For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.
Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.
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I never became adult
"You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."
Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.
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How easy and fast it is to cook good food. My mom acted like making real mashed potatoes was sooo difficult.
I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.
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That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.
We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.
Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.
No they’re not still kids!!
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I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.
I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.
That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".
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Mike Judge must have psychic abilities or something because literally everything in the movie is coming true rofl.
Man Mike Judge is great. Between Common Side Effects and the KotH renewal, Judge fans are eating good.
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"You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."
Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.
Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?
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I can't cook. That doesn't mean that I am not able to when given time and resources and a receipe, that means that the amount of things I can fight through in a day is limited and I need to use that budget wisely, earning money, caring for my dog and seeing to it that my house and garden don't fall apart.
That means, I can't cook, even when it looks like I'm just sitting there, staring into the blue. "You just have to...", no, you just have to, and the what you have to is "shut up" and "stop using yourself as a reference for everything".
Do you have a freezer? If not buy one.
You can make enough food for ten meals in the time it takes to prepare one meal.
I have a five quart pot and a lot of pint size containers. I'll make a pot of stew/chili/soup and freeze portions for later use. Right now I have three choices sitting in the freezer.
Another trick is to roast an entire chicken on Sunday, and then have roast chicken as a main ingredient for the rest of the week. Chicken sandwich, chicken taco, etc.
A big salad can last two or three days in the fridge.
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Tony Perkins from the Perkins System Ben Stiller on heavyweights?
Have you ever considered buying a device that connects to the internet and has a 'search engine?'
Have You?
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Man Mike Judge is great. Between Common Side Effects and the KotH renewal, Judge fans are eating good.
Common Side Effects was stunning. Absolutely recommend.
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Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.
Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.
This is v true
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Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.
Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.
You mean.. mothers breastfeeding feeding their children? You mean men who find big rocks and throw them into water from heights to make a big splash? Do you mean people who donate their organs to other people? Do you mean the many artists, scientists, teachers, and basically everyone else that gets their ass out of bed every day to then put a smile on their face for other people, despite feeling existential despair inside because the last shred of reason for being has been invested in someone or something else, so they keep moving? Robin Williams?
I think we have very different ideas of what self-interest is. Namely, I think that you have confused the idea that one must suffer, or at least feel nothing, or it's not altruistic enough. That one should not enjoy acts of love, kindness, caring, giving, art, exploration... or they're secretly solipsistic. This isn't the condemnation of the world you think it is. This feels like a projection of an internal insecurity onto the greater portion of humanity.
I think most people have been guilty of thinking this at some point. Rather than feel threatened by my words or that I'm being critical of you and only you, I would ask that you do what I did when I once thought this very thought... think on if you're really willing to live the rest of your lived experience with this thought at the forefront. Not everyone gets this one right, but it could have consequences on your ability to actually 'enjoy' another human being without needing something from them to do so.
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Nobody cares. You're homeless? Nobody cares. You just got dumped? Nobody cares. You're sick? Nobody cares. You're struggling? Nobody cares.
Sure you might have some friends who care in a very superficial way, but when the going gets tough, everybody leaves.
There's just no hope, and you're on your own.
That is indeed life as an adult!
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Have you ever considered buying a device that connects to the internet and has a 'search engine?'
Have You?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Buddy I was making a joke https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cfA39GPjxSE&pp=ygUZdG9ueSBwZXJraW5zIGhlYXZ5d2VpZ2h0cw%3D%3D
Also, lighten up. It's embarrassing.
