I mean… that’s not true though.
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Are teenagers some netherworld age between child and adult?
In the US, you're an adult when you turn 18.
Yes, there are exactly in a weird place. 18 is that age of majority in America. Age of consent varies a bit.
Boy oh boy, you might not want to see Europe's map.
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The older I get the older kids are in my eyes, i look at a 20 year old and think back to myself at 20 and go “what a fucking dumb kid”
Well, yeah, me too. I'm 54 and 30-somethings are starting to look like kids, not attractive to me, not in a sense I'd want to be close to one.
OTOH, I was on my third partner at 17, and she was too. Lost my virginity to a 14-yo, who initiated the thing and rode her bike across town to hook up.
My 17-gf and I weren't happy with the whole sex thing until we hooked up. Cue 4-years of fucking like rabbits, nothing off the table.
So I have a hard time calling the 15-17 crowd "children". I feel it demeans them, infantilizes them.
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“Don’t mind me, just arguing semantics in a discussion about pedophilia. Carry on.”
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Edit: Although actually not quite. I think you're weakening your case when you just make false statements like that. And especially with something that gruesome and awful, you shouldn't do that. You can just… use correct semantics and have a stronger point.
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Aka, a child
It's funny cause it's just wrong lol
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Are teenagers some netherworld age between child and adult?
In the US, you're an adult when you turn 18.
yeah, exactly
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I wasn't being pedantic about the technical definitions of words like "pedophile". I'm saying, outside of this type of assertion, we almost never use "child" to mean "teenager". And I don't care for its usage in this particular context, not because it's technically/ colloquially incorrect in itself, nor that they're only using that word to load the sentiment with emotional weight. I think it SHOULD have emotional weight, regardless of the victim's age.
My care is that, in attributing the "wrongness" of the action to the incorrect fact that they are "children" as that word is typically understood, you make an easy target for someone with an opposing view. You undermine the very valid sentiment you are attempting to make with someone who will likely see your choice of words for what it is, an emotionally manipulative exaggeration, and then shift to arguing semantics or simply disregard your point because of that blatant exaggeration.
I do recognize the apparent irony here that I'm the one arguing semantics in this case. But I am on the same side as the person in this post and yourself. I'm not negating the point being made that these were vulnerable girls who are in no way to blame for this. I'm critiquing the technique of making that point by borrowing the emotional weight of words where they don't belong. Similar to how Isreal throws 'antisemitism' around to dodge criticism of their government. That word means something else entirely but it would be convenient to your side of the argument if they let you apply it here. It's a bad strategy and it makes those words ultimately meaningless and thus powerless when they're applied to anything convenient.
You undermine the very valid sentiment you are attempting to make with someone who will likely see your choice of words for what it is,
Yeah, and what you do with those people is you call them pedophiles and stupid and then you throw rocks at them.
Why are you capitulating to the enemy? You know they will deliberately misunderstand you at every turn, yes? There is no magic word spell you can cast that will make them see reason.
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I personally think the loss of nuance is kind of scary. There are massive, continuous attacks on our freedoms in the name of 'protect the children'.
It's inaccurate language like this that's used to justify those changes.
People are acting like this is supposedly undermining the horror of rape, but that's like saying we only care about rape if it's happens to a 9 year old. We should be horrified at rape period, no matter the age of the person it happens to.
Treating teenagers and young adults like they're children isn't helping anything and is just a cover to push these restrictive laws on us, much like how the pro-life arguments are done in bad faith and just used to further their pro-birth ideals.
We should be horrified at rape period, no matter the age of the person it happens to.
Child rape happens even when the child consents because morally the child cannot consent. They are a special case for a reason. Their age is not irrelevant.
is just a cover to push these restrictive laws on us
Uh, what restrictive laws are you concerned about, hm? Is there something specific you're concerned about not being allowed to do?
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You undermine the very valid sentiment you are attempting to make with someone who will likely see your choice of words for what it is,
Yeah, and what you do with those people is you call them pedophiles and stupid and then you throw rocks at them.
Why are you capitulating to the enemy? You know they will deliberately misunderstand you at every turn, yes? There is no magic word spell you can cast that will make them see reason.
How is choosing your words accurately capitulation?
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Yes, there are exactly in a weird place. 18 is that age of majority in America. Age of consent varies a bit.
Boy oh boy, you might not want to see Europe's map.
There's some nuance not present on this map.
In some places, the age of consent listed on the map only applies if the older partner is reasonably close in age to the younger one.
In Kentucky, for example, the age listed is 16. However, there are age-based restrictions that stipulate that a 16-year-old is not legally capable of consenting to a sexual relationship with someone more than 10 years older.
Other states require closer age gaps of maybe 3 or 4 years for 16-year-olds.
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How is choosing your words accurately capitulation?
You're letting them control the conversation.
You yourself said we should choose our words carefully because they would otherwise click their tongues at our methods. They're wrong, who cares what they think? Just call them stupid. Say they're deliberately missing the point because they're pro-pedophilia. Get other people to do that and bully them out of the community.
You talk about strategy, but think about what you're doing here: you're bickering with people you ostensibly agree with, and not with them.
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You're letting them control the conversation.
You yourself said we should choose our words carefully because they would otherwise click their tongues at our methods. They're wrong, who cares what they think? Just call them stupid. Say they're deliberately missing the point because they're pro-pedophilia. Get other people to do that and bully them out of the community.
You talk about strategy, but think about what you're doing here: you're bickering with people you ostensibly agree with, and not with them.
The battle is not for the minds of the people that are pro-pedophilia. It is for the minds of the young people that will otherwise end up being indifferent to the pro-pedophilia people becuase they get convinced that they aren't actually pro-pedophilia, but just think the victims are partially to blame. "Why did she get in the car? What was she wearing? Maybe she really wanted it."
You talk about strategy, but think about what you're doing here: you're bickering with people you ostensibly agree with, and not with them.
In my very first comment, I called out them for the bullshit term, "underage women", that they used. I call out "them" all the time on their bullshit. I also call out poor strategy on our side because how else to you improve without feedback and constructive criticism? Two things can be true.
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The battle is not for the minds of the people that are pro-pedophilia. It is for the minds of the young people that will otherwise end up being indifferent to the pro-pedophilia people becuase they get convinced that they aren't actually pro-pedophilia, but just think the victims are partially to blame. "Why did she get in the car? What was she wearing? Maybe she really wanted it."
You talk about strategy, but think about what you're doing here: you're bickering with people you ostensibly agree with, and not with them.
In my very first comment, I called out them for the bullshit term, "underage women", that they used. I call out "them" all the time on their bullshit. I also call out poor strategy on our side because how else to you improve without feedback and constructive criticism? Two things can be true.
People indifferent to pedophilia are concerned with the subtle differences between teenagers and very-young children—a distinction the law does not make because in the context of a 40-year-old predator it is irrelevant? What are you talking about?
If they say the child victims are partially to blame, you know, uh... rocks.
I called out them for the bullshit term, "underage women", they they used.
Are any of them here? This discussion is only about strategy, and I'm telling you, this is not a direction worth going in.
Nobody likes tone policing. People do like big lawn chair moments: that is, when wrestler A gets tossed a lawn chair from the audience and uses it to beat wrestler B to the ground. Then they do like a big "hoorah" or something.
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People indifferent to pedophilia are concerned with the subtle differences between teenagers and very-young children—a distinction the law does not make because in the context of a 40-year-old predator it is irrelevant? What are you talking about?
If they say the child victims are partially to blame, you know, uh... rocks.
I called out them for the bullshit term, "underage women", they they used.
Are any of them here? This discussion is only about strategy, and I'm telling you, this is not a direction worth going in.
Nobody likes tone policing. People do like big lawn chair moments: that is, when wrestler A gets tossed a lawn chair from the audience and uses it to beat wrestler B to the ground. Then they do like a big "hoorah" or something.
Cool, been out there throwing a lot a rocks and lawn chairs? Talking awful big game. Let's see the action then. Put up or shut up, as they say.
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Cool, been out there throwing a lot a rocks and lawn chairs? Talking awful big game. Let's see the action then. Put up or shut up, as they say.
C'mon. I'm not trying to make enemies of you.
What I'm saying is that you are diluting the emotional strength of the message under the pretense that a message too emotionally strong will be too much for some people to hear—which is ridiculous.
You said the message should carry emotional weight, didn't you? If our opponents are against emotional manipulation, how can you guarantee 'teenagers' isn't still too powerful for them? At what point do you cut them off as enablers of the wrong moral position?
By trying to play the semantics game early, before they've even said anything, you're already ceding the argument that these semantics even matter. You can just skip the game entirely. If they try to play it with you, don't.
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I mean… that’s not true though. I wouldn’t call someone older than 12 or at most 14 a child; after that they’re teenagers.
minor would be more appropiate, s
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We should be horrified at rape period, no matter the age of the person it happens to.
Child rape happens even when the child consents because morally the child cannot consent. They are a special case for a reason. Their age is not irrelevant.
is just a cover to push these restrictive laws on us
Uh, what restrictive laws are you concerned about, hm? Is there something specific you're concerned about not being allowed to do?
I mean steam just had a bunch of games delisted because of draconian porn rules (save the children!)
UK passed an insanely invasive adult content ID law
All of this 'save the children' stuff starts with arguments like this. Erode nuance, make the attack on children seem bigger and more menacing. Erase the difference between teens and children, so everything is treated as if it was done to a five year old.
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I mean steam just had a bunch of games delisted because of draconian porn rules (save the children!)
UK passed an insanely invasive adult content ID law
All of this 'save the children' stuff starts with arguments like this. Erode nuance, make the attack on children seem bigger and more menacing. Erase the difference between teens and children, so everything is treated as if it was done to a five year old.
Are you under the impression that anti-porn advocates are just confused about the differences between being 9 and 16 years old?
Like, if you corrected them, they would say, "Oh, that's fine then. Porn is all right."
Do you think that explaining the difference between pedophiles and ephebophiles to the Paypal board of directors will convince them to stop pressuring Steam to delist porn games?
How does this conversation work in your mind?
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I personally think the loss of nuance is kind of scary. There are massive, continuous attacks on our freedoms in the name of 'protect the children'.
It's inaccurate language like this that's used to justify those changes.
People are acting like this is supposedly undermining the horror of rape, but that's like saying we only care about rape if it's happens to a 9 year old. We should be horrified at rape period, no matter the age of the person it happens to.
Treating teenagers and young adults like they're children isn't helping anything and is just a cover to push these restrictive laws on us, much like how the pro-life arguments are done in bad faith and just used to further their pro-birth ideals.
there is a massive gulf between putting trump and the other wealthy behind bars for trafficking kids that are 15 year olds and attacking freedoms in the name of ‘protecting the children’
it’s really not hard to navigate the difference
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I mean… that’s not true though. I wouldn’t call someone older than 12 or at most 14 a child; after that they’re teenagers.
Young adult is also a thing.
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Autism in a nutshell
Edit: Although actually not quite. I think you're weakening your case when you just make false statements like that. And especially with something that gruesome and awful, you shouldn't do that. You can just… use correct semantics and have a stronger point.
Using autism as an insult? Where the fuck did all these fucking idiots come from all of a sudden? Not long ago, civil discussions were the norm here on Lemmy. Piss off with your 60's mentality.
