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What’s an unspoken rule that absolutely everyone should know, but most people clearly don’t?

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  • H [email protected]

    Actually, in Hungary (at least when I was a kid) they thought us, pedestrians, to use the left side, although this was more important when there was no sidewalk. The reason is, drivers might not see pedestrians very well, especially at night, but pedestrians do have a higher chance to see cars, as cars are usually illuminated. The pedestrian is facing forward, so it's easy to see and react when a car is coming. But from behind? They'll pass on the right side of the road, so there should be plenty of clearance.

    And I was legit surprised when I moved to Germany, pedestrians here are using the right side.

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    In my state in the US we were taught if you were on a bike you go with traffic because you are moving fast but if you are walking/running then go against traffic so you can move out of the way if needed.

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    • O [email protected]

      United States is different, cars and bicycles on the right side, pedestrians on the left side.

      Thankfully my city isn't strict about that, as it makes damn near no sense to me, regarding the opposite side laws for people on foot.. 🤷

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      Walking and running are like standing still compared to traffic. Going against traffic means you see it coming and can move aside if needed or wave your arms or something if they don't seem to see you.

      Bikes and other fast wheeled devices go with traffic because they follow the same patterns for lanes and turning as vehicles like motorcycles or scooters.

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      • M [email protected]

        Uh... Khakis.

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        Keep your fetishes to yourself!

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        • L [email protected]

          Equating not putting the shopping cart back with murder is a bit fucking hyperbolic. One of those ends the life of another person and the other very slightly inconveniences them at most. And I now I can't even take you seriously enough to read the rest of your admittedly-short post after a statement like that.

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          Not every comparison is literal, and you focused on the wrong part.

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          • A [email protected]

            I’m 6’6” and my knees push against the seat in front of me even when not reclined.

            I have a right to be able to travel without you causing me discomfort, and that’s a bit stronger than you having the privilege of getting more comfortable.

            If you are the kind of person who asserts this “right” when someone asks you not to, you’re kind of a dick.

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            I need to lean back slightly or I won't be able to walk straight when we land, so I'm gonna need to do that two inch recline.

            The airlines are our enemy, not each other.

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            • H [email protected]

              Actually, in Hungary (at least when I was a kid) they thought us, pedestrians, to use the left side, although this was more important when there was no sidewalk. The reason is, drivers might not see pedestrians very well, especially at night, but pedestrians do have a higher chance to see cars, as cars are usually illuminated. The pedestrian is facing forward, so it's easy to see and react when a car is coming. But from behind? They'll pass on the right side of the road, so there should be plenty of clearance.

              And I was legit surprised when I moved to Germany, pedestrians here are using the right side.

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              German here. I was taught the same thing, when walking on a country road. If there's a pavement, I walk wherever.

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              • spankmonkey@lemmy.worldS [email protected]

                Not every comparison is literal, and you focused on the wrong part.

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                Maybe tuck the godawful analogies away til the end next time then? shrug

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                  Worked at a Starbucks in college that was open until midnight. One time there were a couple of girls hanging out and didn’t leave when 12 rolled around. We started doing our closing tasks, locked the doors, etc. and they still remained. Finally I was starting to mop the floor and one of them said to me, “Were you going to ask us to leave?” And I said, “We’re not allowed to.” They were so apologetic after that. Yeah whatever, just get the hell out.

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                  You're not allowed to ask people to leave after closing? That's awful, what the hell!

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                    People exiting a building or vehicle get priority over people entering. Let people out before you go cram yourself in the way.

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                      When waiting at a red light, cars are supposed to stay out of the pedestrian crosswalk

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                      • H [email protected]

                        Don't stop in doorways when walking through public places.

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                        Or at the top of the stairs/ escalator you just came up. There are people behind you with nowhere to go while you decide which way you want to go.

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                        • J [email protected]

                          Here's a weird one:

                          Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.

                          Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.

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                          Absolutely. And be open that you don't have experience with it!!

                          I feel like boomers are the worst about this (as a young business owner I get tons of random dumb business advice from that age group) but that could just be bias

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                            Don't stop in doorways when walking through public places.

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                            In general, stay out of the ducking way.

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                              Not a significant number, no, but also not zero. No the common refrain is as I said it, with the implication that anyone who doesn't for any reason is a shit human being, and Iono if you know this, but disabled people are part of 'anyone' too. My whole point is that they make blanket statements about a thing that annoys them without realizing that some of those carts are out there for some pretty good reasons actually.

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                              Put your cart back when you're done shopping

                              OP didn't make a blanket statement that "anyone who does X is a piece of shit."

                              He said an unwritten rule, like your own statement:

                              Don't be stupid

                              Which is significantly closer to ableism than the shopping carts, with the implication that anyone who is stupid is a piece of shit.

                              I don't think there's anything wrong with saying "don't be stupid," for the record, but in case you weren't aware, people with brain damage are included under "anyone."

                              You've picked a bizarrely specific hill to die on.

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                              • witchfire@lemmy.worldW [email protected]

                                Zipper merging

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                                lol this and bad drivers are the most reposted shit on my cities subreddit. ALWAYS zipper merging and bad drivers.

                                It’s sad people don’t understand the concept of zipper merging because of their ME FIRST attitude

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                                  Not a significant number, no, but also not zero. No the common refrain is as I said it, with the implication that anyone who doesn't for any reason is a shit human being, and Iono if you know this, but disabled people are part of 'anyone' too. My whole point is that they make blanket statements about a thing that annoys them without realizing that some of those carts are out there for some pretty good reasons actually.

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                                  that is such a small edge case that it’s not necessary to talk about them

                                  Did you manage to overlook this point?

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                                    Here's a weird one:

                                    Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.

                                    Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.

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                                    I have to disagree honestly. So many times someone tells me about some question they're pondering, and when I offer some suggestion about what may be going on or how to fix it, they're like "Why are you talking about something you know nothing about? You don't have to have an opinion."

                                    But am I allowed to? I'm a curious person. If something interesting or strange or problematic is happening in your life, the first thing my brain is going to do is start trying to explain it. So I could keep it to myself, but then since my mind is on something I'm not allowed to talk about, I'm going to sit there and be silent and then they'll be like "What? Do you have any reaction at all or are you going to just sit there in silence?"

                                    And then I pull out my beretta...

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                                      Remember to be kind.

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                                      • scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techS [email protected]

                                        You stand on the right side of an escalator/moving walkway. You walk on the left side.

                                        It doesn't matter if you have multiple people or luggage, the right is for standing, the left is for walking.

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                                        I would add an asterisk there and say this should reflect the driving/roads convention used in the country. Where I live, the driver's seat is on the right side of a car and on escalators most people stand still on the left, letting the right side clear for walking.

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                                          The standard where I work is 9 hr shifts and we get these assholes pretty much every day.

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