Makes sense to me
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When I'm in a male dominated space and a woman joins, I feel myself over-compensating in trying to be welcoming to the woman. I want to be the "good guy". I sort of feel like I should make that effort. But also I'd rather just get on with it and not have to think about it.
I'm either good enough to play a game rather good or absolutely painfully unaware of how to handle it, I don't have the time to be hateful towards other players at all, not that I want that.
Sometimes you just need to change game or stop playing before acting like a terrible person. Nobody is that terrible they usually learn it. Competitive games are breeding ground for this logic as they reward toxicity more or less openly.
If you're turned off by this, good. It means you have standards. I know we like to keep mentioning these mw2 lobbies, but in comparison with this they were tame. The hatred on these platforms feels more real than what it used to be.
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Try working in social services.
All female-dominated services and agencies, the hatred against men is appalling.
The irony is so thick you could cut it with a knife.
In short, all systems of power, regardless of the identity of the people who make up those systems, reject ANYTHING that disrupts it.
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I mean any women knows this.
Sure, but studies like this can still be useful for proving it when it counts. Anecdotal evidence isn’t exactly the most reliable, so having controlled studies with actual numbers can be valuable as references when examining things critically.
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Probably more like "be wise enough to understand the world and yourself without feeling overwhelmed by it" because almost invariably the reason people have so much venom for the "other" is due to their own insecurities and misconceptions ("if I make you feel bad about yourself and you accept it/don't fight it, I'm better than you and that gives me enough fuel not to collapse"), but I guess 'skill issue' is succint, lol.
I would say it's both that and also the world just not caring about them, and misogynistic red pill communities pretending to care and have all the answers
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Try working in social services.
All female-dominated services and agencies, the hatred against men is appalling.
The irony is so thick you could cut it with a knife.
In short, all systems of power, regardless of the identity of the people who make up those systems, reject ANYTHING that disrupts it.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Nursing in particular is known to have this problem… wish everyone could be nicer to each other
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I have to wonder if the main reason for this is just embarassment. They like girls, they want to impress said girls. Sucking at the game won't impress them. Especially if the girls also play it and don't suck.
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I remember an E-Game tournament and the last round was a male player vs a female player.
The guy twitted he was going to r*** her [in the game].
Later he defended himself that r*** word is commonly used by online [male] players and people were too serious.
He was disqualified instantly
That's online gamer toxic masculinity.
That must havd been so disappointing; an opponent losing so hard you don't even get to win.
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Sure, but studies like this can still be useful for proving it when it counts. Anecdotal evidence isn’t exactly the most reliable, so having controlled studies with actual numbers can be valuable as references when examining things critically.
Yeah but they're more useful for convincing people than scientific studies.
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The funny thing is, that's also why we have separate male-female sports categories in all of sports. Back then it was not only easier for women to compete against men due to less advanced nutrition and sports science, but also men placing behind women were also furious, and men regularly got beaten in chess, etc.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Chess is a fun case. There's an unmarked leage and a cis-women's league (last i heard they were terfing hard, i guess trans somen have a natural advantage or something?), and the latter was originally to cut harassment.
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What on earth does the middle of that even mean? Urban dictionary was able to help a little with "glizzy" but I couldn't find a way to turn into a verb that makes sense. No clue what "no diffed" is supposed to mean. Diff as in difference?
I like to think there's glitter involved.
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When I'm in a male dominated space and a woman joins, I feel myself over-compensating in trying to be welcoming to the woman. I want to be the "good guy". I sort of feel like I should make that effort. But also I'd rather just get on with it and not have to think about it.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Insyead try being the bad guy to the other guys. It's more welcoming a lot of the time and focuses on the axtual problem.
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The same evolutionary psychology that white supremacists use to justify their racism. Not only that as one comment pointed out; the research wasn't even crystal clear.
Interesting, what a coincidence, I wonder if the OP is a CollectiveShout Collaborator
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I really didn’t appreciate how bad it was, until I witnessed my wife being subjected to this shit.
One time I was playing Star Trek: Bridge Crew with a couple randos. We’d been playing for at least half an hour, and they seemed like nice guys. My wife had just finished watching all of TNG, and she excitedly asked if she could try playing for a round.
The moment my wife’s voice hit the mic, these two neckbeards turned into complete pieces of shit, and started right in on harassing her and talking down. I watched her face sink. She took off the vr headset, and hasn’t touched it since. I don’t think she’s even watched Star Trek since, it was such a sour experience.
And these were the stereotypical ‘I struggle with women’ type of neckbeards. No shit. Maybe if you didn’t treat them as subhuman, one of them might speak to you.
Married men man
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I have to wonder if the main reason for this is just embarassment. They like girls, they want to impress said girls. Sucking at the game won't impress them. Especially if the girls also play it and don't suck.
Ah yes, the old "if I can't impress girls with my skill I'll impress them with belittlement and open hostility instead"
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Ah yes, the old "if I can't impress girls with my skill I'll impress them with belittlement and open hostility instead"
Not to impress, but to push away so they don't witness the embaressment or don't start making fun of them. Remeber, offense is the best defense.
