Do you ever go out, and while you're out, you think, ‘this is exactly why I don't go out’?
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I'm so glad I'm here I can't wait to leave
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i'm usually not very aware of my own mental state but there have been at least two times where my brain has just clicked into "we need to go home" mode and i've stood up and left in the middle of a conversation. makes me wonder how many times i've missed that queue and become grumpy as a result. i know at least one time where i basically just couldn't muster the effort to emote anymore and basically shut down.
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At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What's the point?
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Ohh yes, but usually at event stuff because of the crowd and noise, and parking if i drivin.
But 100% of the time it's when i go for a movie, it's too cold if there's no crowd, too noisy and 80% chance of people kicking my seat if full. I pay money to have my experience soured by either the venue or peoples. No thanks.
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Last Sunday. A friend asked me to go with him to town, normally I say no but I figured I would just because I usually don't.
We went to town and went to a store. As we were about to leave, his truck wouldn't start. (The starter was fried.) Ended up having to walk a mile and a half to his nephew's place, then got a ride back to my friend's truck, towed it to his brother's shop, and after borrowing some tools I ended up pulling the starter off a car in the middle of a field, and installing it in his truck so we could finally head back home.
What was supposed to be an enjoyable hour or so ended up taking most of the afternoon and I ended up covered in oil and mud and sore as hell by the time I finally got back to my house.
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Nope. I usually think "I should go out more" and then when I'm still recovering two days later I think "Ah, this is why I don't go out more."
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i'm usually not very aware of my own mental state but there have been at least two times where my brain has just clicked into "we need to go home" mode and i've stood up and left in the middle of a conversation. makes me wonder how many times i've missed that queue and become grumpy as a result. i know at least one time where i basically just couldn't muster the effort to emote anymore and basically shut down.
Good on you for identifying that as a pattern. Could help you listen to the signs before it comes to shutting off emotionally - must be taxing after all
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I'm queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
"Am I the only black person around here?"
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
"Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?"
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez...
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Last Sunday. A friend asked me to go with him to town, normally I say no but I figured I would just because I usually don't.
We went to town and went to a store. As we were about to leave, his truck wouldn't start. (The starter was fried.) Ended up having to walk a mile and a half to his nephew's place, then got a ride back to my friend's truck, towed it to his brother's shop, and after borrowing some tools I ended up pulling the starter off a car in the middle of a field, and installing it in his truck so we could finally head back home.
What was supposed to be an enjoyable hour or so ended up taking most of the afternoon and I ended up covered in oil and mud and sore as hell by the time I finally got back to my house.
An afternoon wrenching after a short adventure with my buddies sounds like a day well spent to me.
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At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What's the point?
Why would you ever go to parties with shitty music? The goal is to go to parties where the djs are good and playing music you like.
The parties with shitty music where everyone is getting shitfaced are for hooking up, that’s the primary goal for those and for the people that attend them. If that’s not your goal you’re obviously not gonna enjoy it.
If you want to go out to dance to good music, there’s also parties for that, where people might drink but no one is getting shitfaced. People might be getting high in other ways, but still, no one is getting shitfaced.
And idk, is it really crazy to understand why human beings, a species that evolved for millions of years to be the most social species outside of insects, would enjoy going to social events..?
You might just be ND, and that’s fine. But it’s really like 0 brain effort to try to understand this.
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No. I rarely go out, so I cherish every time I do. I have young kids and the dollar doesn't go as far as it used to.
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Nope. I usually think "I should go out more" and then when I'm still recovering two days later I think "Ah, this is why I don't go out more."
And when you look at your bank account the next day
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At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What's the point?
This is the THE most terminally online dork response I've ever seen.
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I try to avoid going out at annoying times - e.g., rush hour, school zones, restaurants on a Friday or Saturday night. That helps a lot.
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This is the THE most terminally online dork response I've ever seen.
wrote last edited by [email protected]I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass for me
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An afternoon wrenching after a short adventure with my buddies sounds like a day well spent to me.
If it was planned out and some beer was involved it would have been a lot better IMO... I had already spent the entire morning mowing my buddy's yard and trimming trees for him, so my batteries were already low before all that happened.
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Why would you ever go to parties with shitty music? The goal is to go to parties where the djs are good and playing music you like.
The parties with shitty music where everyone is getting shitfaced are for hooking up, that’s the primary goal for those and for the people that attend them. If that’s not your goal you’re obviously not gonna enjoy it.
If you want to go out to dance to good music, there’s also parties for that, where people might drink but no one is getting shitfaced. People might be getting high in other ways, but still, no one is getting shitfaced.
And idk, is it really crazy to understand why human beings, a species that evolved for millions of years to be the most social species outside of insects, would enjoy going to social events..?
You might just be ND, and that’s fine. But it’s really like 0 brain effort to try to understand this.
I literally answered the post question, i don't know why you got so passionate about this. Read my other comment if you're curious, i enjoy different social events...
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Being poor will do that.
Liking the destination or specific people you’re with really has to outweigh the crowds, the effort and the cost to be remotely worth it and that’s exceedingly rare.
Occasional game nights/potlucks with friends and family though can be nice.
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No, but I usually go to places I want to go to
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I'm queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
"Am I the only black person around here?"
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
"Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?"
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez...
Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the 'Hate them... not you though, you're one of ours' mindset.
"Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he's alright."
"We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me 'boss' when I go in."
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
