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The best thing you can do for the fediverse is just be kind

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  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC This user is from outside of this forum
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    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

    • Be kind

    • Ask people what they think, and why

    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

    • Engage sincerely

    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

    • Make this small space worth being in

    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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    • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

      The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

      On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

      • Be kind

      • Ask people what they think, and why

      • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

      • Engage sincerely

      • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

      • Make this small space worth being in

      A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

      Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

      The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

      cris_color@lemmy.worldC This user is from outside of this forum
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      Here are some more specific examples to think about!

      • Compliment people's art and ask about their process

      • Teach people about something you're knowledgeable on

      • Give constructive criticism on peoples projects when it's welcome

      • Thank people for posting things you're glad you got to see, tell them you enjoyed it

      • Tell people you're glad they're here

      • Tell people you hope they have a good day

      Thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts 🙂

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      • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

        The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

        On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

        • Be kind

        • Ask people what they think, and why

        • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

        • Engage sincerely

        • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

        • Make this small space worth being in

        A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

        Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

        The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

        suixi3d@fedia.ioS This user is from outside of this forum
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        The second best thing is remember that tolerance of intolerance breeds intolerance.

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        • suixi3d@fedia.ioS [email protected]

          The second best thing is remember that tolerance of intolerance breeds intolerance.

          mike_wooskey@lemmy.thewooskeys.comM This user is from outside of this forum
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          That suggests we should be intolerant of intolerance, which is an oxymoron.

          F suixi3d@fedia.ioS ? banana@sh.itjust.worksB R 5 Replies Last reply
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          • mike_wooskey@lemmy.thewooskeys.comM [email protected]

            That suggests we should be intolerant of intolerance, which is an oxymoron.

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            Not really. Nazis are scum and deserve to be kicked out.

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            • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

              The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

              On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

              • Be kind

              • Ask people what they think, and why

              • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

              • Engage sincerely

              • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

              • Make this small space worth being in

              A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

              Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

              The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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              There was a movement in the blogging community ~15 years ago to leave positive comments on posts you like. It was an approach to conquer negative comments and a general destructive nature of online conversations. I still do it to this day. If I really like something or appreciate someone's work, I leave a nice comment.

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              • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                • Be kind

                • Ask people what they think, and why

                • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                • Engage sincerely

                • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                • Make this small space worth being in

                A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                Also try to post stuff. I need to follow my own advice more.

                cris_color@lemmy.worldC gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zoneG 2 Replies Last reply
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                • mike_wooskey@lemmy.thewooskeys.comM [email protected]

                  That suggests we should be intolerant of intolerance, which is an oxymoron.

                  suixi3d@fedia.ioS This user is from outside of this forum
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                  Almost as if the statement is referring to the paradox of tolerance.

                  By allowing people like Nazis, Christofascists, Tankies, etc. a platform, it only invites more sharing that view to spread their bullshit around. You see it on platforms like Truth Social and X, but in reverse.

                  If this is to be a kind place, we must encourage kindness and rid ourselves of unkindness. You can’t tolerate intolerance, lest it spread and take over.

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                  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                    • Be kind

                    • Ask people what they think, and why

                    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                    • Engage sincerely

                    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                    • Make this small space worth being in

                    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                    #9

                    I hope you have a good weekend!

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                    • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                      The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                      On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                      • Be kind

                      • Ask people what they think, and why

                      • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                      • Engage sincerely

                      • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                      • Make this small space worth being in

                      A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                      Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                      The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

                      alphane_moon@lemmy.worldA This user is from outside of this forum
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                      Upvote, comment, post! Compliment good OC content (especially if it is posted regularly).

                      Bring more regular users if you can.

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                      • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                        The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                        On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                        • Be kind

                        • Ask people what they think, and why

                        • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                        • Engage sincerely

                        • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                        • Make this small space worth being in

                        A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                        Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                        The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

                        gradually_adjusting@lemmy.worldG This user is from outside of this forum
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                        I see you around a lot, and you're consistently doing exactly this. I really respect that.

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                        • mike_wooskey@lemmy.thewooskeys.comM [email protected]

                          That suggests we should be intolerant of intolerance, which is an oxymoron.

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                          it's only an oxymoron if you're a moron. tolerance is a social contract. the intolerant break that contract and are no longer to be protected by it.

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                            I think part of pleasantness is not bringing politics into things that weren’t intended to be about politics.

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                            • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                              The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                              On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                              • Be kind

                              • Ask people what they think, and why

                              • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                              • Engage sincerely

                              • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                              • Make this small space worth being in

                              A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                              Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                              The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                              The last time I went to Reddit, I felt like everyone was trying to pick a fight, and would jump on me for any tiny reason.

                              No point being part of a community like that, the whole place is a dumpster fire, but if everyone is either trolling or turning on each other, it's much worse.

                              I hope as Lemmy gets more popular, it doesn't inherit those problems.

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                              • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                • Be kind

                                • Ask people what they think, and why

                                • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                • Engage sincerely

                                • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                • Make this small space worth being in

                                A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                I've noticed most discussions i have here end with a LOT less anger and a LOT more learning and that makes me happy.

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                                  This is a whole different train of thought (mine is, I won't speak for yours) and I don't wanna derail my original thought but that's a thing I've been thinking about a lot lately.

                                  I agree with you, and subscribe to the idea of tolerance as a social contract that, once broken, is no longer owed to the one who broke the contract.

                                  At the same time, I've also learned that very explicitly, feeling persecuted is a requisite ingredient in radicalizing people into hate groups. And that at an individual scale, it's generally undeserved compassion that helps deradicalize them. We know this from the accounts of people who managed to leave hate groups- a little while ago there was really good (and long) interview with someone who used to be leader of a white nationalist group where he talked a fair bit about that idea, since he now works with a nonprofit that helps families and friends support and deradicalize loved ones, but it's far from the only account

                                  At present I'm really not sure how I personally reconcile those two things I belive to be true. The Nazi bar analogy is real.

                                  I know wading into this more specific conversion runs the risk of immediately derailing what I was trying to start a discussion about, but I figured I'd share my thoughts. If anyone reads this and has thoughts to share (though I'd prefer not to get 50 comments just saying I suck for having complicated views on what we do about the predicament the US and world is in with the rise of fascist ideology. I'm interested in what's effective in terms of fixing the problem just like you are) I'd be interested in hearing them. I'm still looking for a way to synthesize my beliefs into a coherent whole.

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                                  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                    • Be kind

                                    • Ask people what they think, and why

                                    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                    • Engage sincerely

                                    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                    • Make this small space worth being in

                                    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                    Thanks for sharing! I'm not perfect at this, but I try to keep the vibes welcoming.

                                    Lemmy's more intimate and understanding vibes are its best features IMO.

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                                      There was a movement in the blogging community ~15 years ago to leave positive comments on posts you like. It was an approach to conquer negative comments and a general destructive nature of online conversations. I still do it to this day. If I really like something or appreciate someone's work, I leave a nice comment.

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                                      Oh neat, being younger there's a lot of how folks approached the web in its earlier years that I don't have any experience with, and think there's a lot to learn from

                                      I love that!

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                                      • gradually_adjusting@lemmy.worldG [email protected]

                                        I see you around a lot, and you're consistently doing exactly this. I really respect that.

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                                        Thank you very much, I do my best 🙂

                                        By the way I love your username lol. Take care!

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                                          I hope you have a good weekend!

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                                          Thank you my friend, you too!

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