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The best thing you can do for the fediverse is just be kind

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  • C [email protected]

    I can co-sign this if we can agree that some types of ‘disagreements’ don’t belong on the fediverse, a la the Nazi bar problem.

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    Please do tell how to increase the purity tests

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    • K [email protected]

      Great post.

      To add to this, not resorting to calling others tankies or Russian bots when you have differing opinions, especially around politics.

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      #104

      My biggest worry on Lemmy is actually bots and Russian psy ops though. If centralized reddit couldn’t stop them before misinformation spread, how is Lemmy supposed to?

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      • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

        The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

        On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

        • Be kind

        • Ask people what they think, and why

        • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

        • Engage sincerely

        • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

        • Make this small space worth being in

        A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

        Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

        The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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        Saved because would be interesting to read what the people that want to set others property on fire and guillotine people, think that is actually being kind

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        • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

          The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

          On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

          • Be kind

          • Ask people what they think, and why

          • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

          • Engage sincerely

          • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

          • Make this small space worth being in

          A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

          Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

          The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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          #106

          Sorry but right wingers aren't welcome here.

          If (Republicans/Tankies/Fascists) want any voice here they can go get fucked.

          If they acted in good faith and were capable of processing reality they wouldn't identify as such.

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          • gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.comG [email protected]

            They can't get back into Reddit, they're just gone

            It takes all of 30s to spin up a new Reddit account, just has to have a new name that isn't already taken. If anything it's easier than on a lot of Lemmy instances

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            #107

            Reddit is able to do global IP bans. The Fediverse is not able to do that because there's no "global".

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            • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

              The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

              On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

              • Be kind

              • Ask people what they think, and why

              • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

              • Engage sincerely

              • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

              • Make this small space worth being in

              A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

              Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

              The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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              #108

              i hope the quality stays up in here and we don't enshittify like reddit facebook and every other bigger internet network.

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              • S [email protected]

                Sorry but right wingers aren't welcome here.

                If (Republicans/Tankies/Fascists) want any voice here they can go get fucked.

                If they acted in good faith and were capable of processing reality they wouldn't identify as such.

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                #109

                serious question but how do/could you formalize your rejection of right-wingers? what is it exactly that you take issue with?

                i'm asking because i talk to a lot of people (also some who identify as "right-wingers") and i'd like to know what exactly are the issues that bother people, so i can forward it to them. it would help me bring up better arguments if i know what other people are thinking.

                so, i've collected the following list of things to take issue with so far:

                • right-wingers often think that people who don't work, don't deserve to eat, which clearly puts enterpreneurial spirit above human life, which is clearly illegal
                • right-wingers often take brunt and direct actions, which can be uncomfortable to more sensitive people.
                • right-wingers typically neglect far-sightedness, seeking only short-term profits (looking at you, quarterly profit).

                tell me if i forgot something.

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                • S [email protected]

                  Sorry but right wingers aren't welcome here.

                  If (Republicans/Tankies/Fascists) want any voice here they can go get fucked.

                  If they acted in good faith and were capable of processing reality they wouldn't identify as such.

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                  #110

                  Horseshoe theory is horseshit.

                  • ‘Horseshoe theory’ is nonsense – the far right and far left have little in common
                  • https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horseshoe_theory#Academic_studies_and_criticism
                  • Funny thing about Hannah Arendt’s construction of “totalitarianism”: She came from a bourgeois family and so was unsurprisingly anti-communist, and she was funded & promoted by the CIA.
                    Imperialist Propaganda and the Ideology of the Western Left Intelligentsia: From Anticommunism and Identity Politics to Democratic Illusions and Fascism

                    One of the centerpieces of the cultural cold war was the Congress for Cultural Freedom (CCF), which was revealed in 1966 to be a CIA front. Hugh Wilford, who has researched the topic extensively, described the CCF as nothing short of one of the largest patrons of art and culture in the history of the world. Established in 1950, it promoted on the international scene the work of collaborationist academics such as Raymond Aron and Hannah Arendt over and against their Marxian rivals, including the likes of Jean-Paul Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir.

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                  • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.deG [email protected]

                    serious question but how do/could you formalize your rejection of right-wingers? what is it exactly that you take issue with?

                    i'm asking because i talk to a lot of people (also some who identify as "right-wingers") and i'd like to know what exactly are the issues that bother people, so i can forward it to them. it would help me bring up better arguments if i know what other people are thinking.

                    so, i've collected the following list of things to take issue with so far:

                    • right-wingers often think that people who don't work, don't deserve to eat, which clearly puts enterpreneurial spirit above human life, which is clearly illegal
                    • right-wingers often take brunt and direct actions, which can be uncomfortable to more sensitive people.
                    • right-wingers typically neglect far-sightedness, seeking only short-term profits (looking at you, quarterly profit).

                    tell me if i forgot something.

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                    #111

                    The basic problem is thinking that conquering somebody is natural, inevitable, or good.

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                    • S [email protected]

                      Sorry but right wingers aren't welcome here.

                      If (Republicans/Tankies/Fascists) want any voice here they can go get fucked.

                      If they acted in good faith and were capable of processing reality they wouldn't identify as such.

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                      Oh, not them. I suppose they meant among non-right wingers. I always found quite explicit they aren't welcome here. Not today, not ever.

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                      • match@pawb.socialM [email protected]

                        the second best thing you can do is o
                        make nsfw posts

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                        #113

                        Make any post of quality. More high quality posts reducing reasons for visiting reddit the better

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                          The basic problem is thinking that conquering somebody is natural, inevitable, or good.

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                          I mean

                          It's been happening for the 99.9% of human existence

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                          • S [email protected]

                            I have a couple of suggestions to add:

                            I was considering leaving the other site before the API fiasco because it felt like so many users approach engagement as rhetorical combat, that is, one commenter will win and one will lose. Instead, think one of Covey's habits of highly-effective people: "Win-win, or no deal." Approach discussion on the Fediverse as a collaborative act, in which you're exchanging ideas with another person. Even if you disagree, you can both win by respectfully hearing it out the other person. And if the other person won't collaborate? No deal! Just disengage.

                            Just like in intimate relationship, use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Telling people who they are and what they believe is not only disrespectful, but probably wrong, often exaggerated or distorted for rhetorical combat purposes. People get angry when their identity gets poked at. One exception, of course, is when giving advice, like, stick to what you know, and share your thoughts and your reactions to a topic.

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                            Well yeah but consider that everyone that doesn't think like me is a Nazi at best

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                            • S [email protected]

                              Saved because would be interesting to read what the people that want to set others property on fire and guillotine people, think that is actually being kind

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                              well i'd argue that setting teslas on fire is property damage, while slashing social security is murder or at the very least neglect of duties that led to deaths of many people.

                              it is clear that property damage is the minor damage of the two, according to contemporary interpretation of law.


                              about the guillotining:

                              same story. talkings about guillotining people is a reasonable threat when the alternative is to let the billionaires upend your roots and your lifes through horrible policy decisions. it's an act of self-defence at some point, i'd say.

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                              • S [email protected]

                                I mean

                                It's been happening for the 99.9% of human existence

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                                Doesn't make it right. This is a civilized age and we must forever push for progress.

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                                • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                  Baby steps! 🙂 I found it helped me build the habbit if I kept an eye out for posts that could be cross posted to smaller more niche communities

                                  There are a lot of times where a post only gets posted on a bigger community because it has enough traffic, and smaller niche communities would benefit from folks crossposting it around!

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                                  Yeah all good advice!

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                                  • N [email protected]

                                    My biggest worry on Lemmy is actually bots and Russian psy ops though. If centralized reddit couldn’t stop them before misinformation spread, how is Lemmy supposed to?

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                                    well the good news is that everybody - and that includes the US - creates psyops all the time, so that makes it fair.

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                                    • D [email protected]

                                      I came to Lemmy (lemm.ee originally) with this attitude. Tankies really made me regret trying to be sympathetic too them. It was the most vile interaction I've had on the Internet maybe? You shouldn't call people tankies if they're not but real tankies are by far the biggest problem with the fediverse and it's growth

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                                      yeah i've met some thorough tankies recently and wow are they annoying. just completely blind to reality.

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                                      • N [email protected]

                                        My biggest worry on Lemmy is actually bots and Russian psy ops though. If centralized reddit couldn’t stop them before misinformation spread, how is Lemmy supposed to?

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                                        Instance admins have pretty good information at their disposal to identify bots.

                                        I have yet to see any instance admin say that there is any significant amount of bots, outside of the occasional spate of spamming. I only see such theories & accusasions come from non-admins, with no accompanying compelling evidence.

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                                        • profael@feddit.orgP [email protected]

                                          I started using Lemmy just recently. I haven't seen any sexism here so far. On reddit it's a matter of minutes until something sexist appears on my feed, or other hateful stuff. That's why I feel way more relaxed using Lemmy.

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                                          sexism does exist on lemmy but the algorithm is less aggressive about pushing rage-bait, so it rarely shows on the front-page. also, the people here are a bit more considerate, i'd say. but that is mostly because it's a lot of nerds here (heheh).

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