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  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

    • Be kind

    • Ask people what they think, and why

    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

    • Engage sincerely

    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

    • Make this small space worth being in

    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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    You would think the internet is full of bees looking to make honey but really it’s full of beetles wanting to roll their shit.

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    • tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT [email protected]

      Hey this is a nice post, I wonder what the comments say :3 click

      "Oh you think being kind is good? You're a fascist OP >:T. You can't make me vote republican"

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      If I steal your identity I can make you vote republican. But I don’t like to steal. Maybe: lend it to me? I promise to give it back at the end.

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        What is a tankie?

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        If you're familiar with how the word "commie" was used during the cold war, its just an updated version of that, for people who don't want to sound like crusty boomers.

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          If I steal your identity I can make you vote republican. But I don’t like to steal. Maybe: lend it to me? I promise to give it back at the end.

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          Im not a US citizen (or a citizen of any other country that has a republican party), so that may be more work than you're signing up for on your end.. getting a citizenship can take ages :3

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            Technically anyone can spin up an instance centered on whatever dark and inhumane topic. That's the reality of an open network. That's why defederation and whitelisting are such important tools as Fediverse grows. You don't actually want access to every last bit of information on the network.

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            That's a actually a good perspective I didn't consider, them being in their own dark corner means your area is not polluted

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            • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

              The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

              On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

              • Be kind

              • Ask people what they think, and why

              • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

              • Engage sincerely

              • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

              • Make this small space worth being in

              A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

              Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

              The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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              #255

              What about people that like to talk shit? I enjoy banter give and take. Reddit is full of soft whiners and I'm not into it.

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              • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                • Be kind

                • Ask people what they think, and why

                • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                • Engage sincerely

                • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                • Make this small space worth being in

                A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                #256

                I generally say bullet points are good ideals, but there's a much bigger issue with mental health.

                There are certain people in lemmy that need to learn what "you have no enemies" and "I'm gonna do my own thing" means. It's fine people are different live on earth is very diverse

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                • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                  The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                  On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                  • Be kind

                  • Ask people what they think, and why

                  • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                  • Engage sincerely

                  • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                  • Make this small space worth being in

                  A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                  Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                  The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                  Kinda wish we could pin this post to the top of everyones feed for a while! 😅 Lemmy has been a great place so far but think we can do even better. Especially with the points you bring up.

                  Thanks for sharing 😊

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                    What about people that like to talk shit? I enjoy banter give and take. Reddit is full of soft whiners and I'm not into it.

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                    #258

                    Ikr, I like pissing people off then making much of them for not being able to defend their position. I think it's good for engagement

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                      Great post.

                      To add to this, not resorting to calling others tankies or Russian bots when you have differing opinions, especially around politics.

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                      On Reddit, I once bragged about having universal healthcare and got called a Nazi and a communist at the same time.

                      This is what happens when Xbox kids that use the n-word grow up. They learn new "bad" words and throw them around out of context and contradictingly. They don't actually know what those things are, though, so it never makes sense.

                      I've been called a tankie here. I didn't know what it was and looked it up, just to discover it was the literal opposite of the things I was saying. I was very confused and just put it down to frustrated self-projection. At some point they had been called that, it upset them, so now they use it to upset people too but they still don't actually know what it is they're saying.

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                      • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                        The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                        On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                        • Be kind

                        • Ask people what they think, and why

                        • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                        • Engage sincerely

                        • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                        • Make this small space worth being in

                        A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                        Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                        The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                        #260

                        Most people know this in some capacity, but it's not talked about enough: the shape of the platform massively shapes its culture. Every mechanism, intentional feature or not, is a factor in resulting user behavior and should be accounted for.

                        Reddit Karma was (shitty) reputation from the start, but Slashdot user IDs became one despite being mere sequential identifiers; negative user feedback such as downvotes can be harmful to communities (yet, users without an outlet may lash out in other ways e.g. reports); even how the platform communicates with users influences them; and so on.

                        I'm not saying you shouldn't be nice and incentivize others to do the same, but unless the system naturally leads to the desired behavior, you'll have a bad time in the long term because building culture by interactions doesn't scale. By the time you realize there's a shift, it's too late; interactions will compound and affect how the average user acts faster than you can try to course-correct.

                        I wish lemmy was more experimental, because by building a clone of reddit, we've copied too many of its faults. We've already got gatherings to complain about mods, and the one time devs considered changing a core component, discussion was killed by an onslaught of users. Problems with the current setup that were brought up then will likely never see that amount of people thinking about how to solve them.

                        Contrast with Mastodon, which gets crap for not being a more faithful copy of twitter, but their reasoning for not including quote-reblogs is understandable. They're now putting a lot of thought into how to add them safely. Not ignoring functionality users want, but also not ignoring how it will affect culture, that's compromise.

                        I'd like it if we could talk more about how our platforms work and, specifically, how they affect us.

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                          If you think political stances can be adequately expressed along a single line, then you're not much better I'm afraid. Engage with the nuance, friend, it'll build understanding and be better for all of us.

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                          that's what i've been saying for a while now. like a healthy organism that has both left and right hands, society too shall have both right and left people in it. that is not a problem. what is the problem is that these different parts are not communicating clearly enough and it's causing dysfunction of society.

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                          • davel@lemmy.mlD [email protected]

                            https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tankie#Modern_Internet_uses but actually https://www.joewrote.com/p/jfk-files-reveal-the-cia-role-in

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                            CIA again

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                            • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                              The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                              On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                              • Be kind

                              • Ask people what they think, and why

                              • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                              • Engage sincerely

                              • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                              • Make this small space worth being in

                              A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                              Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                              The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                              A big problem is too much politics, feels like politics is always brought up even in posts where it's not the topic of discussion. Just look at this post. Then if someone disagrees with your view they'll attack you and then they'll claim they "are on the right side". People have forgotten the golden rule.

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                              • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                • Be kind

                                • Ask people what they think, and why

                                • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                • Engage sincerely

                                • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                • Make this small space worth being in

                                A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                Love your take and call to action. Appreciate it 🙂 and I'm not surprised it's coming from you either 🙂

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                                  Trump's first term was nothing like this. It wasn't full on facism like the current term. The economy wasn't being completely obliterated and people weren't being disappeared.

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                                  He told people with swatikas tattooed on their bodies to coup the government!

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                                  • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                    The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                    On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                    • Be kind

                                    • Ask people what they think, and why

                                    • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                    • Engage sincerely

                                    • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                    • Make this small space worth being in

                                    A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                    Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                    The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                    It's a great idea but unfortunately we don't live in that world anymore. I do hope one day we can get back to that world.

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                                    • cris_color@lemmy.worldC [email protected]

                                      The fediverse is small, and thats both a blessing and a curse - one of its several blessings is that in a smaller space we all individually have a bigger impact on what the culture of this space is like.

                                      On this comm (and on lemmy broadly) there's a lot of discussion about how to grow the fediverse, what to improve, but an easy thing you can do for the fediverse is right in front of us-

                                      • Be kind

                                      • Ask people what they think, and why

                                      • Approach folks you disagree with with curiosity rather than hostility

                                      • Engage sincerely

                                      • Ask yourself if there's something nice you can say

                                      • Make this small space worth being in

                                      A platform lives or dies by what's available on said platform and often we have this conversation in the context of "content" or posts - and we may never have as much content as reddit does. But content and posts aren't the only thing this kind of platform offers- it also offers people. It offers community, and human interaction.

                                      Culture and community is lemmy and the fediverse's biggest differentiator, and we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

                                      The biggest thing you can do to help the fediverse is make it a place worth being.

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                                      If I'm in a toxic mood, I go to reddit.

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                                      • tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT [email protected]

                                        Im not a US citizen (or a citizen of any other country that has a republican party), so that may be more work than you're signing up for on your end.. getting a citizenship can take ages :3

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                                        Not if you ask Republicans. You can be fresh off the boat than you can run to the nearest voting booth and steal the election

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                                          OP simply asks people to be kind, People proceed to tear each other apart..

                                          OP now knows how Jesus felt 🤣

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                                          Or how Doctor Who felt after asking the master for help.

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