Anyone else?
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Try being raised in a narcissist Christian household with clearly sensitive parents seething at every opportunity to lob shame and judgment on ANYONE else to distract from the fucking evil stain on life which they themselves are. Couple it with some financial success in their lives so they extra feel like they don't need to answer to anyone else for fucking anything.
I didn’t have that but my girlfriend in high school did.
My parents neglected me enough they made those wackos look sort of OK.
I feel like I've supported a lot of therapists monetarily
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In my early school years, we only had round tipped plastic safety scissors that could barely cut tissue paper. As a kid, I was terrified at the degree of responsibility and potential to take another kid's life those scissors represented.
The adults in charge when I was a kid had us convinced that if we ran with scissors in our hands we were going to kill the other children in the vicinity by accident in the most horrifically bloody and violent manner. They even showed us video re-enactments of children getting stabbed in the heart, neck, and eye complete with fake blood gushing out and Bugs Bunny worthy death performances.
A lot of us thought this was some super common way that kids were dying by the millions all across the world.
“On February 15, 1909, Millet’s 15th birthday, these “girl stenographers” promised that when the workday ended, they would kiss him once for every year of his age. At 4:30pm, they made good on their vow and descended on Millet to deliver the expected smooches. Millet tried to wriggle away, and in the ensuing rumpus was heard to exclaim, “I’m stabbed!”
According to the Times, 23-year-old Gertrude Robbins, one of the kiss-happy stenographers, rushed to his aid, but fainted at the sight of blood streaming from a wound in his chest. An ambulance was summoned and Millet transported to New York Hospital, but he died from his injuries on the way there.
Arrested on the charge of homicide, Robbins told police what had happened. Right before the office kissfest, Millet had been holding an ink eraser—not a rubber blob, but a six-inch-long metal tool that resembled a knife. When the stenographers surrounded him, Millet’s eraser was in his pocket. During the fracas, he fell forward, and the sharp point of the eraser drove into his heart.”
https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/10/george-spencer-millet-kissed-to-death-in-1909.html
Someone lands on the bad roulette number once in a while.
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I feel your pain with the narcissist parents. My parents were autists, so there was a lot of abuse growing up.
Just an FYI, having autism doesn't make someone an abuser... it's just possible for assholes to have autism too.
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Well, no. I realized those things were silly. My mom told me and my sister we'd get skin cancer if we pinched each other. She just wanted us to shut the fuck up and so we did. You later learn these things aren't real and that's the end of it?
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You won't die right away but supposedly digesting food causes the digestive tract to draw in more blood, leaving less for the muscles used in swimming and increasing the risk for cramps and fatigue.
No, it's rubbish. They tell you that because if you're a kid and you eat and then go do some vigorous exercise you're likely to be sick which means everyone has to get out of the pool and a lowly employee has to clean it up.
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For me it was if you swallow a plant seed, the plant will grow in your stomach and you will die from it. My dad was joking, but I was 5 and didn't know any better. I went on believing that until I was in my teens because things like that you don't re-evaluate every so often. It's just "my dad told me this and he wouldn't lie to me because grownups don't lie" stuck on autopilot.
That can actually happen. But it’s very rare, obviously.
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is not made up, reading this Wikipedia entry parents would say "better safe than sorry"
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cold_shock_response
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https://wpool.fr/en/blog/temperatures-eau-piscine/choc-thermique/qcq-hydrocution/ -
Just an FYI, having autism doesn't make someone an abuser... it's just possible for assholes to have autism too.
Are you seriously trying to absolve my parents of responsibility for their abuse? You're disgusting.
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In my early school years, we only had round tipped plastic safety scissors that could barely cut tissue paper. As a kid, I was terrified at the degree of responsibility and potential to take another kid's life those scissors represented.
The adults in charge when I was a kid had us convinced that if we ran with scissors in our hands we were going to kill the other children in the vicinity by accident in the most horrifically bloody and violent manner. They even showed us video re-enactments of children getting stabbed in the heart, neck, and eye complete with fake blood gushing out and Bugs Bunny worthy death performances.
A lot of us thought this was some super common way that kids were dying by the millions all across the world.
Oh god running with scissors! I totally forgot that
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As a child, media showed me that if you could tap dance well you basically had a love potion and a get-out-of-jail-free card wrapped up into one.
My life up to this point has proven this to be painfully wrong.
:ball chain, turn:
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Are you seriously trying to absolve my parents of responsibility for their abuse? You're disgusting.
My parents were autists, therefore I was abused.
My parents were narcissistic abusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause ) -
My parents were autists, therefore I was abused. My parents were narcissistic abusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause )
I'm more than happy to say my parents abused me because they had a mental disorder, but they weren't diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, so I'm stuck using autism instead. I wish they had a more socially acceptable disorder to blame.
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is not made up, reading this Wikipedia entry parents would say "better safe than sorry"
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cold_shock_response
Edit, add another more complete source
https://wpool.fr/en/blog/temperatures-eau-piscine/choc-thermique/qcq-hydrocution/That's for very cold water or very large temp difference. As a rule, if it's summer, splash some water on you first and go feet first, never head first.
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is not made up, reading this Wikipedia entry parents would say "better safe than sorry"
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cold_shock_response
Edit, add another more complete source
https://wpool.fr/en/blog/temperatures-eau-piscine/choc-thermique/qcq-hydrocution/And what does that have to do with swimming after eating?
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I'm more than happy to say my parents abused me because they had a mental disorder, but they weren't diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, so I'm stuck using autism instead. I wish they had a more socially acceptable disorder to blame.
Ok.
My parents were autists, therefore I was abused. My parents were narcissisticabusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause) -
Well, no. I realized those things were silly. My mom told me and my sister we'd get skin cancer if we pinched each other. She just wanted us to shut the fuck up and so we did. You later learn these things aren't real and that's the end of it?
There's a major differencebetween something entirely made up that your parents know is bullshit and something that's false but your parents genuinely believe, because thr delivery will be very different. Especially if even the danger of the myth is exaggerated (I was always told it's a bit dangerous and to not do it but never that it's a huge risk of death).
Though also being lied to about some dangers would make me think that everything I've been warned about is false or greatly exaggerated, and I'm very grateful that despite being quite anxious about my safety, my mom never did that. But that might be an autism thing because reportedly if she explained why something was bad I'd get it and just not do it, even when I was very young.
I do partially blame my teenage depression-fueled 2ish years of barely every brushing my teeth, the consequences of which I'm still dealing with, on being told that even skipping one day is really bad and I will probably get cavities if I do that a few times. Cue me skipping it on some days because of mental health, realizing that even after months of occasionally doing that my teeth are still fine (including the dentist saying they're doing great and no issues), and subsequently no longer being able to find the motivation to do it at all since the consequences I was trying to avoid never materialized.
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Ok.
My parents were autists, therefore I was abused. My parents were narcissisticabusive assholes, therefore I was abused. (They were also autists, which may have altered the presentation of their abuse, but was not the root cause)So how come you think autism isn't okay to blame for abuse but narcissism is? And why should I listen to a hypocrite who can't decide whether disorders cause abuse?
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So how come you think autism isn't okay to blame for abuse but narcissism is? And why should I listen to a hypocrite who can't decide whether disorders cause abuse?
Because autistic traits aren’t abusive traits? If someone is autistic it doesn’t mean they will be abusive. They aren’t mutually exclusive, but they can overlap.
Whereas narcissistic traits are abusive traits, so a narcissist will almost definitely be abusive. But these aren’t mutually inclusive with each other, so someone can be abusive without being a narcissist.
I don’t know your parents or your situation; if you say they were abusive, I believe you. But if you say they were abusive because of their autism, that is just plainly false. You don’t have to blame it on some mental disorder, diagnosed or not. You can just say they were abusive.
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My wife has this, she's incapable of breaking rules.
Let's say her employer to do things a and then b, but then a coworker tells her it's better (in practice) to do it the other way around...she'll get an error and stop functioning at all.
I was told all these scary things about life and always had this: "i'll see it when i get there" attitude. So now i have to spend half my energy dragging my wife along otherwise she'll forget to live life.
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Because autistic traits aren’t abusive traits? If someone is autistic it doesn’t mean they will be abusive. They aren’t mutually exclusive, but they can overlap.
Whereas narcissistic traits are abusive traits, so a narcissist will almost definitely be abusive. But these aren’t mutually inclusive with each other, so someone can be abusive without being a narcissist.
I don’t know your parents or your situation; if you say they were abusive, I believe you. But if you say they were abusive because of their autism, that is just plainly false. You don’t have to blame it on some mental disorder, diagnosed or not. You can just say they were abusive.
ASD and NPD both involve a lack of empathy. They're exactly as abusive as each other.
