Have your parents ever said something so unhinged that you’re just left standing there like🧍♂️?
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
'Gravity is caused by the rotation of the earth'
apparently that's what they taught back when she was a kid
But how even?!
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
My Dad's gone totally off the rails conspiracy theory nutty.
Fake moon landings, fluoride in the water is mind control, vaccines cause autism and maybe microchips and mind control again, foreign people are simultaneously lazy stealing benefits and stealing all the jobs, my god the racism. He fell into an echo chamber during COVID and hasn't come out again.
The best one was when I was telling him as a healthcare professional on the front lines watching patients and colleagues die that COVID was serious and we should take any opportunity to avoid it and make it better, he told me it was just flu and all fake news.
Yeah I don't talk to my parents much anymore.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
My da told me "God does not forgive people who curse his name."
I asked "But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?"
"If they ask for forgiveness, yes."
wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.
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What happened with your mom after you moved out?
She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.
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Just sitting and having a casual lunch with my dad at work. Sack lunches that my mom had made us! When he nonchalantly tells me that women aren't people and only exist for men's enjoyment. I basically completely froze out of shock as he spends the next half hour trying to use excerpts from the Bible to prove his point.
I haven't had a conversation with him since and that was nearly 20 years ago. Also realized that Christianity is not something I want to be associated with.
Funny thing is that he used to be adamant that god uses Parkinson's to punish only the worst sinners and he's got it now... Apparently there was some engine cleaning solvent my mom desperately tried to get him to stop using? The government banned it because it was giving people Parkinson's so he stocked up on it to prove my mom wrong...
Ayyy my da told me that line about women, too!
I also am a woman!
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I went on a trip to another country. Unfortunately, I had an accident (involving a fucking hurricane) that almost killed me.I had insurance so they covered all the medical expenses, including tickets and accomdations for one of my parents (aka: one of them could come free of charge). They decided that it was a good opportunity to visit the country since one was coming "for free" and they only had to pay for the other one.
Years later, my father told me that they are still paying the debt for the money they spent "because of me" when I had that accident so it was my fault they were in debt.
So just to reiterate: What they're paying off is literally just one of their vacation bills? I mean this would be an odd accusation even if it included other expenses but like... Huh?!
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'Gravity is caused by the rotation of the earth'
apparently that's what they taught back when she was a kid
But how even?!
Maybe cause The force can simulate gravity. That's why you see rotating stuff in sci-fi.
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So just to reiterate: What they're paying off is literally just one of their vacation bills? I mean this would be an odd accusation even if it included other expenses but like... Huh?!
Apparently, going from europe to america buying the ticket at last minute is very expensive, they also had to add the stay in the hotel for one of them. For what he said, he spent around 9k euro on that trip (odd, i paid around 1500 for two people). Still, he threw that to me to make me feel guilty of their shitty spending habits. It was some years ago, when our relationship was already ice cold.
They both are shitty parents and now they wonder why I don't talk to them.
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Apparently, going from europe to america buying the ticket at last minute is very expensive, they also had to add the stay in the hotel for one of them. For what he said, he spent around 9k euro on that trip (odd, i paid around 1500 for two people). Still, he threw that to me to make me feel guilty of their shitty spending habits. It was some years ago, when our relationship was already ice cold.
They both are shitty parents and now they wonder why I don't talk to them.
Damn. Yeah sounds like a very mature and responsible person
I've got a dad like that too. -
Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
My mother did the slitty eyed gesture and said that there were too many chi*ks here, in the car part for a large asian grocery store in the local chinatown that she had chosen to go to, to buy asian food. Yes other people heard and saw what she did, including asians. This was more than twenty years ago so not linked to the current rise of more overt racism.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
My step dad believes that the history of the physical world is as his mother explained it to him 70 years ago.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
My relationship with them was already in very thin ice due to repeated trust issues over the years, but what finally sealed it was my coming out to my dad and his response being "it's all because of this woke generation". Coming from someone who I thought had a very left leaning stance, therapy over the following years made me realize just how shitty and homophobic they really were. Turns out I'm probably more bi than gay (also ace), but it still stands.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
Sounds like your parents might be in financial trouble to say that. Trying to guilt trip you into.giving them money, or expecting you to be a golden goose.
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She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Sounds like she wanted you to get a house, so she can move in for free. She's probably claiming you as a dependant, or using you to get more money from alimony or the state if you were living with her
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My da told me "God does not forgive people who curse his name."
I asked "But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?"
"If they ask for forgiveness, yes."
wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.
They're not on the same plane as everyone else. Fantasy delusion to the detriment of the living.
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'Gravity is caused by the rotation of the earth'
apparently that's what they taught back when she was a kid
But how even?!
Well that's how it works in Larry Niven's Ringworld and also Halo. They just thought the earth was a ring.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
"We shouldnt have accepted east germany. They just get out money." And that its their fault for getting a dictatorship
"I hit and abused you because i was overwhealmed because of you" (i have adhd and autism)
We dont talk. She doesnt understand why.
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
Yes. My mom, unprompted one day, said:
"Did you guys know that Elon Musk's Dad owns an emerald mine?"
Followed by me saying "yes, did you also know he used slave labor in apartheid South Africa to build it?"
"Well I don't really care about any of that. I just thought it was cool."
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My da told me "God does not forgive people who curse his name."
I asked "But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?"
"If they ask for forgiveness, yes."
wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.
LOL, that's not even scripturally correct. He doesn't know his own faith!
This is common, and really sad when you think about it, because their faith is their "single most important thing" in life & they're so damn ignorant of it. Like...it's one book. Read it, if you are so inclined?There is only one sin earmarked as the eternal sin, the unforgivable sin. Explicitly described in Matthew 12:30–32, alluded to in other relevant passages. "Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit". Even blasphemy against the Son of Man (Jesus) will be forgiven...but never the Holy Spirit. Because it's simply too big of a contradiction or discrepancy in how the Christian faith operates & how one is saved. You have the "power of the Holy Spirit" working through you, working with Christ & God the Father on your behalf. Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is largely interpreted as to deny that very power, the power that saves.
It is akin to needing hydration, but refusing to drink large amounts of any kind of liquid ever. Or needing an electrical charge to run a device, but never making a connection to transfer the power, you're going to somehow "will" or speak the power into your phone. Well. That's simply not how it works, and you'll never have power.
I only explain to provide clarity of the Christian faith to others, I do not profess the faith present day, it has taken 25 years of my life. Others are welcome to comment, of course, but I'm not here to argue endlessly over "how many angels can dance on the point of a very fine needle". As they say, and have done before, and has since morphed more colloquially into "on the head of a pin".
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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
I try to be generous in my readings & assign to others....grace & the best of intentions. So! I take what your parents said and, while not eloquent, you could maybe read it as: they were more frugal in your younger years, saving money "just in case" or whatever. Now that more years have come & gone without horrible financial issue, they have an abundance of sorts, and they feel more confident about splashing a little more cash on you now, and frankly when you are of an age to appreciate it more.
I've seen people spend stupid amounts of money on newborns, 2-3 year olds, and it's like....you know they won't remember any of this. Right?
Same with very young kids, yes they'll remember & appreciate certain things, but most of it idk is just kind of lived & lost. So your parents say that, and if it is in good faith with good intentions, I feel that. Kinda. I just wouldn't articulate it like that.
