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What's a subtle red flag you've previously missed in a person?

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    Coworker. He just straight up said “no” to helping me stock the storage room (which was our job). Otherwise was a real nice guy.

    Turns out he was a flakey prick and he left me in a lurch while we were out of town for work.

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      Willingness to sleep with me is a huge red flag. Like this person has to have issues.

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        Agreeing with having no kids but seeing them become obsessed with other couples' kids.

        The literal week we ended up getting married, she started pressing to have kids. Lasted only a few months.

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          Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time

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            Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time

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            I don't understand this. What's wrong with feeling 'bleh'?

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              Ask them how their weekend was and there's always a wee mention of how either they or their SO were feeling kinda 'bleh' at some point. Every.Single.Time

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              Oh that's a good one

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                Insisting on paying for others. Turned out to be a power thing.

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                  Self pity. It's one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It's a big red flag

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                  People don't talk about this enough. It's one thing to be an arrogant prick with self-esteem that's way too high, but the same thing goes for people with self-esteem that's way too low. In either case you're walking on eggshells around them trying to make sure you don't say the wrong thing and send them into a temper tantrum or self-pity spiral. I have a little more sympathy for the latter, but both forms are incredibly toxic imo.

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                    Self pity. It's one thing having a bad day or rough patch, but some people have an extraordinary need for pity. It's a big red flag

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                    Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a "woe is me" mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it's draining!)

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                      Yeah some people just become sympathy vacuums. They always have a "woe is me" mentality and want a ton of comforting when nothing is really wrong. (I was raised by one of these and it's draining!)

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                      Oh god yes... "my sock is twisted, whhhyyy meeeeee?" And your life then has to revolve around the twisted sock.

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                        I don't know what red flag I miss... I hate all of them including me being bullied communally

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                          Full disclaimer: I don't date so I am talking about in friendships in general.

                          Being over-apologetic. And by that I mean they are quick to apologize any potential conflict.

                          Apologizing is a good thing, however if they consistently go out of their way to apologize without you even mentioning anything was wrong, chances are there are more dark/nefarious plays at hand such as manipulation.

                          I have missed that flag a few times in friendships and they ended up turning toxic over time. Some were recoverable, some wern't

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                            A weird hairdo

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