How much of a deal breaker would be a high body count for you?
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
I’m married so it’s moot, but I’m gonna go against the grain a little bit here. I don’t know that it would ever be a dealbreaker but it might signal a fundamental incompatibility because of me. I recently discovered the term “demisexual” and that describes me pretty well. I’d say I’m somewhere between demi and flat out asexual. So yeah, I wouldn’t judge a high number from a partner but I would worry that we wouldn’t work out, if that makes sense.
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Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.
Because a linguistic association between sex and murder is so adorable, especially when it comes from kids!
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Not only do I not mind, I would hope that my perspective partner would have enough sexual experience so that we would both enjoy ourselves.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Not a factor at all, but using the term "body count" is enough on its own to lose interest.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
I have no qualms about the past of people I am sexually active with as long as they are clean and safe. Considering how many people I have been with, I would be a hypocrite if it mattered to me.
As far as when it is appropriate to share, I would say as soon as one is comfortable if at all. At the end of the day even a romantic partner does not have a right to every piece of information on you, and if a lot of sexual partners is a deal breaker to anyone involved the relationship shouldn't continue in the first place. Incompatible values tend to ruin relationships.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Context not included, the number itself doesn't matter, but the context with the number can potentially matter. For example if they had sex with 50 people and thought they were in love with most of them, then how can i feel like their love for me is real and going to last? But if they had sex with 1000 people when they were being sex trafficked against their will, then (aside from concerns about possible related trauma) the number wouldn't matter at all.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
If they are good at things and make me feel like I’m good at stuff then why bother counting. A high body count could mean they cheat or move on easily. … or not… so I really don’t put any weight behind it.
I get why it can be intimidating or insecurity provoking to be with an experienced partner but all that really matters is how you connect with them. If they don’t give you a reason to make their body count matter, then I wouldn’t call it a red flag.
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Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.
If this is in any other context than sex, I'm concerned
Is driving a fast Subaru a dealbreaker?
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Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.
If this is in any other context than sex, I'm concerned
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]don't care. I've never even asked a woman how many people she's been with. It's none of my business.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
As long as the body count is not murders or abducted people in a basement its fine
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
A better question would be what age did you grow up and stop caring. I was probably around 18
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Depends on the other person's body count, attitude towards sex, and maturity.
When I was a virgin, the idea of being with someone who wasn't a virgin made me feel incredibly insecure.
Once I had had one partner, the idea of being with someone who had had more than one partner made me very insecure.
Now that I've had a handful of partners, I've realized it doesn't matter to me anymore.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Not something I care about. I was my partner's 100th. The quantity was much less significant than the meticulous data collection (there was a spreadsheet) but that was an overall plus.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
One homicide might be an accident, once someone's over a dozen I wouldn't want them in my house.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
I don't think it would matter, but I've never faced that reality so I don't know for sure.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Assuming no STIs, I honestly don't care.
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One homicide might be an accident, once someone's over a dozen I wouldn't want them in my house.
I suppose it depends if it's a hobby or a professional gig.
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Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
Triple digits?! Yare-yare... I guess the main deciding factor would be: are you still a competitive hedonist or have you finally understood the almost sacred and unbreakable relationship between love and sex?
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Context not included, the number itself doesn't matter, but the context with the number can potentially matter. For example if they had sex with 50 people and thought they were in love with most of them, then how can i feel like their love for me is real and going to last? But if they had sex with 1000 people when they were being sex trafficked against their will, then (aside from concerns about possible related trauma) the number wouldn't matter at all.
What if they had sex with 1000 people willingly and enjoyed it, but weren't in love with all of those people?
