What's your biggest regret?
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Not fighting harder to buy a house when it was cheap. My SO hated the idea soo much. Now still living in same place I cant do jack to. And 10 years we won't have a home thanks to my grandma's stupidity and pride.
Sometimes I wonder if i chose the wrong person. I love my SO but our life goals are as different as can be. Took 15 years to convince to my side.
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Our shame unites us.
So say we all
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Not living up to my own potential.
I've led a pretty uneventful life with few, if any, accolades. I know that I actually have the capacity to be excellent in certain regards, but I can't seem to force myself to actually put in the work. Doesn't help that I've been called lazy my entire life.
Some therapists seem to think a "fear of success" is part of the pathology but I don't agree. I've been extremely intimate with failure my entire life, success is like the one thing I've never had and am craving daily.In what regards?
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Trusting that my guidance counselors would do their job. Not switching high schools because they didn't look very different.
My school refused to let me in more difficult classes I thought I needed for college even though I requested them, was recommended them by my grade school and even tested into them. I only found out recently that I test advance proficient, but they lied to me about when I was a student.
All because when I was in kindergarten, someone decided I had a reading disability.
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In what regards?
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Professionally and creatively.
To elaborate, I have two degrees that I've never ended up using and I've been working in customer service/tech support for the past twenty years. I've been at my current company in my current role for a full decade, and the lack of upward mobility is getting to me. -
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Going to college for a business degree where I'm now working a position that doesn't require it and still years away from paying my loan off.
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I have taken long breaks in my education (a pretty good one) due to being lazy depressed (being depressed but not sad per se, having executive dysfunction).
My friends have moved on from college and I am stuck. It always feels that my problems were not as important or as big to waste years of my life.
I have accepted the fact that it is my life and it is not a race but sometimes I do feel that it would have been much simpler and better if I had just completed my education while being miserable because I was miserable anyways.
I am kind of rambling because I don't think such a deep and vast topic can be explained in a comment.
I spent 7 years on my 4 year degree for vaguely similar reasons. I didn’t take breaks. I pushed through and cracked and failed and started over in a new major and a new school. That was nearly a decade ago and I’m not really happy with where it lead me. I wish I had taken the time off. If I could go back now with my current knowledge of how my brain works differently, I would be so much more successful. I’m also just rambling at this point.
I guess what I’m trying to say is be kind to yourself over the choices to have made. Not only can you rarely ever take them back, the grass is rarely ever actually greener on the other side.
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Going to college for a business degree where I'm now working a position that doesn't require it and still years away from paying my loan off.
I'm right here with you. Went into Psychology but had no idea that I was screwing myself over on loans - I couldn't afford to continue into a Masters which is pretty much required to work in the field.
About 15 years out and I'm still dealing with the debt for a degree I can't use and can't afford to continue.
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In 2018 I was offered a job managing a retreat center on the shores of Lake Superior. The job would have been to keep the place looking nice and, very occasionally, cultivate a restful space for people who needed it.
I went and got a PhD instead. Not a huge mistake, but I’d probably have been happier with the retreat center.
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Not living up to my own potential.
I've led a pretty uneventful life with few, if any, accolades. I know that I actually have the capacity to be excellent in certain regards, but I can't seem to force myself to actually put in the work. Doesn't help that I've been called lazy my entire life.
Some therapists seem to think a "fear of success" is part of the pathology but I don't agree. I've been extremely intimate with failure my entire life, success is like the one thing I've never had and am craving daily.I feel you.
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I let too many people tell me how to live my life and tried too hard for their approval for too long.
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Not fighting harder to buy a house when it was cheap. My SO hated the idea soo much. Now still living in same place I cant do jack to. And 10 years we won't have a home thanks to my grandma's stupidity and pride.
Sometimes I wonder if i chose the wrong person. I love my SO but our life goals are as different as can be. Took 15 years to convince to my side.
Yeah I wanted to buy a house 5 years ago, but my wife (fiance at the time) was too nervous. Home prices had risen 40% by the time she was comfortable with it.
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Put off transitioning waay too long
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Waiting so long to cut off a toxic parent. Not spending more time with a good parent. Not going to therapy sooner.
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In 2018 I was offered a job managing a retreat center on the shores of Lake Superior. The job would have been to keep the place looking nice and, very occasionally, cultivate a restful space for people who needed it.
I went and got a PhD instead. Not a huge mistake, but I’d probably have been happier with the retreat center.
I don’t know, society might be better off with you doing science!
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I don’t know, society might be better off with you doing science!
Probably, but my PhD is in philosophy.
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I thought about buying about a thousand bitcoins when it would have costed me a hundred bucks. Never did though.
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Being born in the USA
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I regret surviving into the 21st century.
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I really should have learned to drive in high school when I had the chance. No money->no car->no job loops have bit me quite a lot as an adult.
