I love bpd girls
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Same here. She really, really loved me, in her way, and I love(d) her. Closest I've had yet to something long-term sustainable. But was it tho? She compared me to Jesus and called me a sex god. She drew my penis as art. Touched me constantly. Said I looked and smelled like a French king (it was well-intentioned). Really took an interest in my hobbies--to the point that they became her hobbies and it became a lot. We were really, really close. I ended up having to call the police on her when she finally confessed to the cheating and it ended. She shaved her head and moved to Indonesia. As with the highs, so with the lows.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Dude that is crazy. Are you doing ok now? That would traumatize me for the rest of my life.
What you said is terrifying accurate to my situation, she treats me like some literal god
I don't think she's the type to cheat but you have me questioning that now. I am a lot more concerned she will kill herself rather than cheat tbh but if either of those things happened I'd be a destroyed person
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The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.
Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.
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She was not honest and was not working on it. I was just hopeful it would magically get better. Because I’m stupid and figured it had to if I just kept working on it and being a good boyfriend. But I know now there wasn’t much I could do.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Bingo. Been there. So much better to be alone. Hard to make any progress in life when you have a partner who is totally unreliable and unsupportive and views everything in life as a threat to themselves.
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Only one of them is out to kill you though. The other is a cook and is cutting onions while another just had the most masive shit of her life.
Also at any moment the other personality that wants to use the knife for some kinky shit could come out.
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It's not just the sex that's the best though. Nobody's ever been this nice to me before just in general. I really don't want to run
I'll check that book thx
this is classic abuse victim rationalization.
Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn't mean she still isn't treating you like shit.
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Wishing you the best therapist she can find. "Integrated Family Systems" could be of help.
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this is classic abuse victim rationalization.
Just because she treats you less like shit than other people in the past have, doesn't mean she still isn't treating you like shit.
I'm mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I'm a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way
I'm raised by narcissists and I'm slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it's easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don't really intend to manipulate people but it's still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn't. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually
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I'm mentally ill too to be clear so it kind of goes both ways here lol. I'm a self destructive type of person so I feel like I almost deserve and even enjoy being treated like shit in some sort of way
I'm raised by narcissists and I'm slowly deprogramming from that and I hate to admit this but I think part of the reason I like her is she is extremely easy to manipulate and it's easy for me to get her to do whatever I want. I don't really intend to manipulate people but it's still something I do sometimes that I really wish I didn't. People with BPD are easily manipulated usually
oh by all means then. treat each other like shit and rationalize it or whatever.
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oh by all means then. treat each other like shit and rationalize it or whatever.
So far it feels like a net win compared to the rest of my shit life and I was single for 1.5 years before this and I couldn't really stand it anymore
No normal girl is going to tolerate me in a long term relationship, they are completely out of my league
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I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD
Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.
This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.
This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal
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She’s disordered, but it’s the man’s fault. Typical.
Looks like the He-Man Woman Hater's Club found Lemmy.
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You hear about the guy with 5 dicks? His condom fit like a glove.
Johnny 5 cocks? The X-men mutant?
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The bad part is, as soon as you discover this cabinet, 3 of her personalities are behind you with a knife.
Ah the multiple personality serial killer trope. Classic, fallacious, and not the least bit problematic.
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*She can fix herself, given the internal motivation, a stable environment, and a whole lotta patience and earned trust
Source: gf has BPD and I'm really proud of her
You're good people
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The crazy girls being better at sex thing always confused me. I vaguely understand that correlation but like… it holds so true. What is it about bpd that makes you bang so good?
From personsl experience: it's not worth it.
Swap pronouns were applicable.
You'll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won't have the time or energy for sex. Then she'll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did't want her anymore and she wanted revenge.
She'll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it's probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn't have room in his parent's apartment that she's moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.
My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.
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Can't it be kept in check with meds?
It's a trauma disorder so medication is really only fighting the symptoms. It can be healed tho. Not everyone with BPD projects it outwardly either and not all that do are abusive.
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I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD
Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.
This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.
This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal
I think this as well, though I have no formal training in psychology. My perspective comes from a lifelong interest in learning across fields and from having several family members who struggled with mental health, often dismissed as hysterical, crazy, over-emotional, or immature. Decades later, many of them received diagnoses of comorbid autism and CPTSD. I believe that within the next 5–10 years, assuming the DSM can be inured against political editorialization, autism diagnoses will be further refined and the spectrum will become more granular and specific.
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I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD
Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.
This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.
This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal
I'm diagnosed with BPD and met (quite some) other people who were diagnosed over the years. I think your theory is bullshit – but not in a rude way, it just doesn't fit what I know about BPD and the women diagnosed with BPD I got to know.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience
Modern treatment methods often follow a bio-psychological or bio-psycho-social model. This is a oversimplification, but BPD is usually a biological/genetic predisposition to be more emotional + bad experiences in your childhood, leading to strong negative emotions and the lack of mechanisms to regulate those emotions, which cumulates in impulsivity, unhealthy coping mechanisms etc later on.
There's overlap with the vague concept of hypersensitivity and ADHD; there's differential diagnosis too, which is "hey, this can be similar to that, let's diagnose properly before we do anything"; and there's comorbidity.
I agree that trauma plays a big role, and I would go so far as to claim every BPD person is traumatized in a way that justifies therapy, but PTSD is a specific diagnosis, just like autism is.
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From personsl experience: it's not worth it.
Swap pronouns were applicable.
You'll be so exhausted from her meltdowns, manipulation, and the constant repairs (literal and figurative) from her poor life choices that you won't have the time or energy for sex. Then she'll cheat on you with your gross scumbag neighbor who was old enough to be her father because she jumped to the conclusion that you did't want her anymore and she wanted revenge.
She'll then proceed to run off with one your friends. But not before explaining how it's probably just temporary and the relationship will be stronger than ever when she comes back. So stay single. Oh, can you keep her cat for now? He doesn't have room in his parent's apartment that she's moving into the day after fucking him for the first time.
My early 20s were trash. She ended up completing suicide a week before my wedding in 2012. Myself, I was so fucked up by that relationship I now live with chronic anhedonia and alexithymia. It literally broke my brain.
you won't have the time or energy for sex
skill issue
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I have a theory, BPD = Autism + PTSD
Once you address them separately, they realise problem behaviours that fall under A) don’t need changing, “it’s just me” for the most part, and B) can be improved if the trauma(s) is/are addressed therapeutically by a professional, ignoring BPD diagnosis bs, and using trad PTSD techniques.
This is because PTSD is far more diagnosed in men, so it is “fixable”, and medical professionals have generally no fucking clue about Autism presentation in women, so they’re under-diagnosed, probably just mentally ill / fucked, ie. BPD.
Generally, I would compare mental illness to the personality theory of temperament (in this case flavour of neurodiversity) + experience, but psychology is insanity so.
This may all be bullshit, just anecdotal
Doesn't fit because the symptoms of BPD, PTSD and authism are very different, even the causes are very different.
