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How would one confirm that the ashes in the urn are from who their supposed to be?

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    Taste test.

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      The important thing is to remember them, regardless of the contents of the urn, right?

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        The remains of different individuals are never intermixed, and fireproof serial number tokens are placed with the body before it’s cremated and remain with the ashes through delivery if verification is needed.

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        Never is a bold statement. There was a funeral director in my small home town that was found guilty of charging people for services and then not delivering on them. A looot of money was involved. While obviously not the same thing, I don't have a hard time imagining his laziness and greed getting shit mixed up.

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          The important thing is to remember them, regardless of the contents of the urn, right?

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          Sure, but you can do that for free.

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            Snort a line and see what it tastes like.

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            That's not traditionally how humans go about tasting things, but I guess everyone's a little different huh? Do you eat through your nose too?

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              Snort a line and see what it tastes like.

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              Uuughhhh, this reminds me of that episode on My Strange Addiction with the widow who was addicted to eating her husband's ashes. Fucking heartbreaking, man.

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                Just make sure you aren't cremated in Eastern Europe

                I watched a documentary a while ago about how crematoriums in Eastern Europe, especially in war torn areas like Ukraine, routinely collect bodies and then spend the time cutting up the bodies while in their care for organ harvesting. One of the biggest businesses out there apparently is bone harvesting .... bone material that is used for dentistry, bone repair and all kinds of things. Bone grafts and powder that makes its way to the medical market in first world countries like the US and Canada.

                It made me think of the process of having a tooth pulled ... they often use bone grafts to help the healing process of a newly extracted tooth. That bone graft material had to come from somewhere.

                Once the body is in the care of a private business .. who knows what they do with it. Then the body is cremated and no one would ever know that the body had been disrupted and cut up.

                I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US ... but we do just blindly put our full trust in these business to collect, store and process dead bodies for us without much oversight or monitoring. Part of the documentary did mention that in the early 2000s, there was one morgue in New York state that had someone dissect bodies to collect parts illegally before they were found out. After that, they had to tighten up laws and security and regulations dealing with the dead.

                I felt weird just mentioning all this so I went to look up the documentary .... here it is ...

                Body Snatchers Inc. : What If Your Implants Were Stolen Organs?
                https://youtu.be/pENORq4KlwU

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                I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US

                sigh. I can't speak for Canada, but unfortunately it does happen in the US: California, 1980's. Colorado, 2010's. And the one that brought it to my attention, New Jersey, 2006:

                The indictment was the first set of charges to come out of a widening scandal involving scores of funeral homes [that sent the bodies for cremation] and hundreds of bodies, including that of “Masterpiece Theatre” host Alistair Cooke, who died in 2004. The investigation has raised fears that some of the body parts could spread disease to transplant recipients.

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                  There's a metal identification tag that goes with the body the entire time it's in the funeral home/crematorium, according to my partner who works at one. It gets taped to the outside of the urn.

                  That's not foolproof though, the wrong ashes getting released to someone is rare but is usually easy to spot afterwards.

                  There's no way for you to 100% guarantee that the ashes are your loved one, except that there's no strong benefit to a crematorium doing that and heads would roll if they did.

                  There have been scandals where pets were cremated in bulk then the combined ashes divvied out, but not humans.

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                    Taste it. It's the only way to know for sure. Ofc, this is most helpful if one was forward thinking enough to have already taken a sliver of them during life, charred it, and then tasted that. It's kind of hard to compare without that data point, but, depending on how well one knew the subject, it might still be possible.

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                    • ininewcrow@lemmy.caI [email protected]

                      Just make sure you aren't cremated in Eastern Europe

                      I watched a documentary a while ago about how crematoriums in Eastern Europe, especially in war torn areas like Ukraine, routinely collect bodies and then spend the time cutting up the bodies while in their care for organ harvesting. One of the biggest businesses out there apparently is bone harvesting .... bone material that is used for dentistry, bone repair and all kinds of things. Bone grafts and powder that makes its way to the medical market in first world countries like the US and Canada.

                      It made me think of the process of having a tooth pulled ... they often use bone grafts to help the healing process of a newly extracted tooth. That bone graft material had to come from somewhere.

                      Once the body is in the care of a private business .. who knows what they do with it. Then the body is cremated and no one would ever know that the body had been disrupted and cut up.

                      I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US ... but we do just blindly put our full trust in these business to collect, store and process dead bodies for us without much oversight or monitoring. Part of the documentary did mention that in the early 2000s, there was one morgue in New York state that had someone dissect bodies to collect parts illegally before they were found out. After that, they had to tighten up laws and security and regulations dealing with the dead.

                      I felt weird just mentioning all this so I went to look up the documentary .... here it is ...

                      Body Snatchers Inc. : What If Your Implants Were Stolen Organs?
                      https://youtu.be/pENORq4KlwU

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                      I had bone graft put in after I got my wisdom teeth out but I'm pretty sure my dentist told me it was some sort of animal bone, not human. I'll trust him cause that's slightly less creepy to me.

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                        When my grandpa was cremated, we went in the cremation room to see him for the last time. Then we stepped out. After a couple of minutes, we got back in to see the remains. Apparently there are still a lot of larger solid bones that remain, and they have to ground them up into the “ashes” you normally would see. We step out of the room again, and they come out with the urn containing the ashes after another few minutes.

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                          I had bone graft put in after I got my wisdom teeth out but I'm pretty sure my dentist told me it was some sort of animal bone, not human. I'll trust him cause that's slightly less creepy to me.

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                          I didn't realise that this was a thing.

                          I guess your body just kind of tolerates bone for some reason? Usually for transplants you need meds to suppress your immune system forever.

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                            Just make sure you aren't cremated in Eastern Europe

                            I watched a documentary a while ago about how crematoriums in Eastern Europe, especially in war torn areas like Ukraine, routinely collect bodies and then spend the time cutting up the bodies while in their care for organ harvesting. One of the biggest businesses out there apparently is bone harvesting .... bone material that is used for dentistry, bone repair and all kinds of things. Bone grafts and powder that makes its way to the medical market in first world countries like the US and Canada.

                            It made me think of the process of having a tooth pulled ... they often use bone grafts to help the healing process of a newly extracted tooth. That bone graft material had to come from somewhere.

                            Once the body is in the care of a private business .. who knows what they do with it. Then the body is cremated and no one would ever know that the body had been disrupted and cut up.

                            I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US ... but we do just blindly put our full trust in these business to collect, store and process dead bodies for us without much oversight or monitoring. Part of the documentary did mention that in the early 2000s, there was one morgue in New York state that had someone dissect bodies to collect parts illegally before they were found out. After that, they had to tighten up laws and security and regulations dealing with the dead.

                            I felt weird just mentioning all this so I went to look up the documentary .... here it is ...

                            Body Snatchers Inc. : What If Your Implants Were Stolen Organs?
                            https://youtu.be/pENORq4KlwU

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                            I find this really hard to believe.

                            I'm sure that unauthorised organ harvesting has occurred in isolated circumstances.

                            But I'm incredulous that it could happen on an industrial scale.

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                              I didn't realise that this was a thing.

                              I guess your body just kind of tolerates bone for some reason? Usually for transplants you need meds to suppress your immune system forever.

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                              I got curious. Apparently they are from cow bones and are processed at high temps to avoid immune rejection.

                              Xenogenic bone is derived from non-living bone of another species, usually a cow. The bone is processed at very high temperatures to avoid the potential for immune rejection and contamination. Like allogenic grafts, xenogenic grafts serve as a framework for bone from the surrounding area to grow and fill the void. Source

                              There are different kinds of grafts though that do include cadaver or auto-grafting, but I am 99% sure my doctor said mine was cow bone.

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                                Here the tag is a ceramic tile that is put in the coffin before cremation. And i think it is verified by at least two people. But in the end, if enough people fuck up or fake, it could be anybody.

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                                  I got curious. Apparently they are from cow bones and are processed at high temps to avoid immune rejection.

                                  Xenogenic bone is derived from non-living bone of another species, usually a cow. The bone is processed at very high temperatures to avoid the potential for immune rejection and contamination. Like allogenic grafts, xenogenic grafts serve as a framework for bone from the surrounding area to grow and fill the void. Source

                                  There are different kinds of grafts though that do include cadaver or auto-grafting, but I am 99% sure my doctor said mine was cow bone.

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                                  Yeah right. I guess if you process it so it's just calcium or something rather than living tissue.

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                                  • ininewcrow@lemmy.caI [email protected]

                                    Just make sure you aren't cremated in Eastern Europe

                                    I watched a documentary a while ago about how crematoriums in Eastern Europe, especially in war torn areas like Ukraine, routinely collect bodies and then spend the time cutting up the bodies while in their care for organ harvesting. One of the biggest businesses out there apparently is bone harvesting .... bone material that is used for dentistry, bone repair and all kinds of things. Bone grafts and powder that makes its way to the medical market in first world countries like the US and Canada.

                                    It made me think of the process of having a tooth pulled ... they often use bone grafts to help the healing process of a newly extracted tooth. That bone graft material had to come from somewhere.

                                    Once the body is in the care of a private business .. who knows what they do with it. Then the body is cremated and no one would ever know that the body had been disrupted and cut up.

                                    I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US ... but we do just blindly put our full trust in these business to collect, store and process dead bodies for us without much oversight or monitoring. Part of the documentary did mention that in the early 2000s, there was one morgue in New York state that had someone dissect bodies to collect parts illegally before they were found out. After that, they had to tighten up laws and security and regulations dealing with the dead.

                                    I felt weird just mentioning all this so I went to look up the documentary .... here it is ...

                                    Body Snatchers Inc. : What If Your Implants Were Stolen Organs?
                                    https://youtu.be/pENORq4KlwU

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                                    Apart from bones, what can you take from a dead body? Organs have to be "alive" to be taken, so you can only harvest organs from brain dead people and still under life assistance

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                                      Except when this happens

                                      he may have given fake ashes to next of kin who sought cremations, authorities disclosed Thursday.

                                      From Aug 21 headlines

                                      https://apnews.com/article/colorado-funeral-home-bodies-pueblo-coroner-e5178e0639e1ee3cb3955effbfce55f4

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                                      And this one

                                      https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cpwwwy654e2o

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                                        Just make sure you aren't cremated in Eastern Europe

                                        I watched a documentary a while ago about how crematoriums in Eastern Europe, especially in war torn areas like Ukraine, routinely collect bodies and then spend the time cutting up the bodies while in their care for organ harvesting. One of the biggest businesses out there apparently is bone harvesting .... bone material that is used for dentistry, bone repair and all kinds of things. Bone grafts and powder that makes its way to the medical market in first world countries like the US and Canada.

                                        It made me think of the process of having a tooth pulled ... they often use bone grafts to help the healing process of a newly extracted tooth. That bone graft material had to come from somewhere.

                                        Once the body is in the care of a private business .. who knows what they do with it. Then the body is cremated and no one would ever know that the body had been disrupted and cut up.

                                        I don't think stuff like that happens in Canada or US ... but we do just blindly put our full trust in these business to collect, store and process dead bodies for us without much oversight or monitoring. Part of the documentary did mention that in the early 2000s, there was one morgue in New York state that had someone dissect bodies to collect parts illegally before they were found out. After that, they had to tighten up laws and security and regulations dealing with the dead.

                                        I felt weird just mentioning all this so I went to look up the documentary .... here it is ...

                                        Body Snatchers Inc. : What If Your Implants Were Stolen Organs?
                                        https://youtu.be/pENORq4KlwU

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                                        I'd only care that my loved one was cut up at the funeral home if I was planning on bringing them back as a zombie

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                                          A family member that had screws in their leg was cremated. The screws were in the can of ashes. Pretty sure it was them.

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                                          Where i work we need to remove all the metal from the ashes. Because they need to pass-through a grinder and metal would damage it. The only real identication is from the litle fireproof stone with a number, and our internal log keeping which we do a lot of.

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