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You guys have any conversation starters to offer a poor lemming?

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  • P [email protected]

    The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

    This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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    #30

    Besides the top answer of situational openers, sometimes people ask what you're up to or what you've done. I would always keep in mind three things that I've done recently or even interesting observations I've had in last week or so.

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    • P [email protected]

      The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

      This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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      Can you hear that?

      What?

      Sounds almost like... Ice breaking.

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      • P [email protected]

        The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

        This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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        "Don't mean to brag, but I just shit myself." 😏

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        • M [email protected]

          Two options: 1) (If you're looking to make friends) What's the biggest animal you think you could take in a fight? 2) (If you're looking for a relationship) What's your favorite type of flower? You'd be surprised how many men would respond to 2

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          Puppy - Poppy

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          • R [email protected]

            Here's your clichĂŠ small talk starter: the weather.

            • Nice weather out today, huh? (Sprinkle sarcasm or adjust to match actual weather conditions)

            UK version:

            • Gloomy weather as usual, innit?
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            Sarry, wat was 'at Bruv?

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            • A [email protected]

              Talk about what you're interested in. Or let the other person talk about what they're interested in and be engaged in the conversation. Either way you build report

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              Rapport, not report btw

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              • P [email protected]

                The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                "Can I offer you an egg in these trying times?"

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                • N [email protected]

                  Eat any good books lately?

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                  Oh, very good Worf

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                  • P [email protected]

                    The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                    This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                    #38

                    This might work on anyone who is a They Might Be Giants fan or it'll just catch people off guard and possibly make them think you're weird, but some lyrics to recite:

                    They call me Dr. Worm. Good morning, how are you? I'm Dr. Worm. I'm interested in things. I'm not a real doctor, but I am a real worm.

                    If it does work, IDK because I don't really know how to start conversations all that well without being pretty awkward.

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                    • P [email protected]

                      The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                      This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                      I've got something for you guys...

                      reach into coat pocket

                      hold up thumb with a sight tremour

                      ... a good time!

                      grimace while trying to smile

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                      • T [email protected]

                        Greetings fellow humans! have you consumed your daily complex carbohydrates and proteins today, and consumed a liquid with a organic suspension of the extracts from the plants coffea arabica.


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                        I expect to able to function within normal parameters once i have consumed the usual quantity. Until then I would appreciate being left to my own devices.

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                        • kersploosh@sh.itjust.worksK [email protected]

                          When making small talk, ask for opinions farther down someone's list. Like, "What was the third best trip you ever took?" It catches people off guard in a good way, and garners better answers than asking for their top choice.

                          You can do it the other way, too. Saying, "that was the fourth funniest thing I have ever seen" immediately prompts questions from your audience. Just be ready with a good follow-up story if you try this.

                          Another option is to learn little party tricks that don't require much talking. Learn to fold simple origami, or some coin tricks, or whatever. When you're with a group of people and you don't know what to add to the conversation, you quietly do your thing until someone notices. Suddenly a banal moment becomes a memorable moment and you didn't have to say anything.

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                          That's the third most autistic thing I've read on Lemmy today.

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                          • T [email protected]

                            Ask them if they knew that g is roughly pi^2, and ask them if they knew it's not a coincidence

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                            How would it not be a coincidence?

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                              Would you rather talk to an Australopithecus or a whale?

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                              One time conversation or just chatting whenever?

                              Was the Australopithicus revived in our time, or am I transported to its time?

                              You said "talk to ". Will either of them intelligibly respond?

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                                How would it not be a coincidence?

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                                okay, so.

                                the meter used to be how long a line had to be on a pendulum for it to have a periodicity of one second. This got re-evaluated and standardized to what it is now, which is 1/10,000,000 the length between the equator and the north pole. but that number itself was chosen because it's pretty close to what the meter was before it was set to that value.
                                So the length of the line to get that period on a pendulum is about a meter, and gravity also has an effect on the speed a pendulum swings.

                                https://medium.com/@roitman.io/a-wonderful-coincidence-or-an-expected-connection-why-π²-g-6e2f9a04e30e

                                I read something about it on stack exchange, but couldn't find that link anymore, but the one above has the same info

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                                • P [email protected]

                                  The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                                  This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                                  I'm not much for small talk. Instead of following a formula, I try to find a way to be genuinely interested in the other person, then ask questions without making them uncomfortable. For me this has been the best way to get to know people I get along with.

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                                  • P [email protected]

                                    The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                                    This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                                    Hey, what major are you interested in?

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                                    • P [email protected]

                                      The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                                      This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                                      The one thing that people like to talk about, more than any other thing, is themselves. Ask the right questions and ask follow-up questions. You'll find that if you do that and and you're polite about it, people warm up to you pretty quickly without you having to say a whole lot.

                                      Stuff like the most (and/or least) interesting things they did this summer are good places to start.

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                                      • P [email protected]

                                        The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.

                                        This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.

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                                        This is an old post i saved for this kind of moment so here ya go.

                                        About 6 or 7 years ago my college roommate told me: Conversation isn’t something any one person is good or bad at, it’s a skill like anything else. Everything changed once I thought about it like this.

                                        1. The more new people you talk to the easier it is. Especially the opposite sex.

                                        2. Everyone else has their own anxieties and fears. They’re just better at hiding it or masking it than you. Use this to your advantage to point out things you have in common and relate to them.

                                        3. When someone talks, LISTEN. Don’t worry about your posture, your dog, your clothing. Listen to them. If you don’t understand something, stop them and ask. Engage with them. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t know.

                                        4. Ask open ended questions. Don’t ask, “Did you have a good day?” Instead ask “What was the best part about your day?” “What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about your job?” Make them feel important. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. So do you. Take that feeling and shove it way down. When they ask about you, that’s your turn to shine. If they don’t, you don’t really want to be friends anyway.

                                        5. Never one-up people. Even if you are way better, or know way more than the person talking to you, build them up.

                                        6. If someone is telling a story or saying something and they get cut off, find the next opportunity to bring them back in. “Hey, _______ you were talking about X, what did you want to say?”

                                        7. Laugh at their jokes. Laugh at your jokes. We’re all weird brains walking around in these skin things. Don’t take it so seriously.

                                        8. You will remember your mistakes WAY more than anyone else. Stop taking yourself so seriously.

                                        9. My last and 2nd most important tip. Start every conversation with a compliment. I don’t care if they’re a dude and you’re straight as fuck. I don’t care if they’re mean, evil to you, or disagree with you politically in every way. Find something about the way they look, and compliment it. Someone did this to me once when I was a new guest at someone’s apartment. “Hey man, that’s an awesome jacket, where’d you get it?” I fucking loved that jacket. And I was self conscious about it. I felt instantly at home.

                                        Take the things you like, and be that person for someone else. If you’re on a date, be genuinely interested in that person.

                                        These are things that worked for me. Find your own style.

                                        The #1 tip!! Go into EVERY room as if people will like you. Seriously. Walk through any door, in front of any group of people and smile. They. Will. Like you. Keep that in the front of your mind and you will enjoy conversations with anyone.

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                                        • T [email protected]

                                          okay, so.

                                          the meter used to be how long a line had to be on a pendulum for it to have a periodicity of one second. This got re-evaluated and standardized to what it is now, which is 1/10,000,000 the length between the equator and the north pole. but that number itself was chosen because it's pretty close to what the meter was before it was set to that value.
                                          So the length of the line to get that period on a pendulum is about a meter, and gravity also has an effect on the speed a pendulum swings.

                                          https://medium.com/@roitman.io/a-wonderful-coincidence-or-an-expected-connection-why-π²-g-6e2f9a04e30e

                                          I read something about it on stack exchange, but couldn't find that link anymore, but the one above has the same info

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                                          That has nothing to do with either g or pi. Also this definition is long outdated.

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