Minimum dating standards
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Additional third spaces definitely required.
Probably subsequent to a secondary location.
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I keep hearing people say this. Where are you that you don't have parks? Tennis courts or swimming pools or volleyball beaches? There's a spot near my house, just off a popular running trail, that hosted a "Singles Night" and it was swarming with eligible 20-somethings. There's an outdoor theater in downtown that does free-to-the-public shows every month and a dozen other concert halls and sporting arenas that will happily sell you nosebleed seats for cheap. Nevermind the dating 101 spots - movie theaters, dance clubs, and bowling alleys.
"No more third spaces" has become this suffocating meme that cropped up in the wake of COVID. It's like some time after 2021 everyone just forgot how to take a walk near a large body of water and talk to one another for an hour or three.
They're talking about places to approach/get to know strangers
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Not really. Do 10 of each on the hour for 10 hours straight.
Have you tried? Come back to me in a week.
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They're talking about places to approach/get to know strangers
wrote last edited by [email protected]Go dancing. Guaranteed to get to know strangers very quickly.
Also, literally any rec league sports club.
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Or not be an incel.
which is very loosely defined and could mean anything
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Metric vs imperial joke somewhere in therr
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Guy who is me who is single: I'd be fine if we could just get some third places that aren't focused on drinking where it is appropriate to ask women on a date.
Or if I started drinking more again I guess, but having quit for a while to cut back I don't want to get back to where I was, I'm doing good.
Try more meetups? There's always stuff for running, board games, coding, bike riding, bird watching. Just don't be a creeper who's cruising instead of doing the activity in good faith.
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This isn’t on you, but I feel like there’s a key piece of information missing from this abstract:
It was observed that gastric acid values were higher following banana as compared to porridge and the difference was statistically significant (p < 0.001). It was was thus concluded that ripe banana is not a bland food.
How much higher? It might not be the perfect food, but it might still be okay. I also can’t tell if it’s not there as clickbait (essentially), if the study doesn’t disclose it, or if it’s not actually a significant difference. My money’s on the first or the last, but anything over than the first is shitty.
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Try more meetups? There's always stuff for running, board games, coding, bike riding, bird watching. Just don't be a creeper who's cruising instead of doing the activity in good faith.
It's my understanding that women don't want to be asked out at such places, the common complaint being that they can't even enjoy their hobby without guys asking them out.
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100 IQ joke
wrote last edited by [email protected]They really are at the top of the bell curve
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Guy who is me who is single: I'd be fine if we could just get some third places that aren't focused on drinking where it is appropriate to ask women on a date.
Or if I started drinking more again I guess, but having quit for a while to cut back I don't want to get back to where I was, I'm doing good.
100% this. But also, you can make your own third space by inviting friends over and asking them to bring friends. I met most of my serious girlfriends at various house parties. Friends of friends are somewhat pre-vetted.
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It's my understanding that women don't want to be asked out at such places, the common complaint being that they can't even enjoy their hobby without guys asking them out.
Yes, that's what I meant but don't be a creeper that's cruising for dates. You can still make friends, and over a longer period of time ask if there's interest. I don't have an objective set of rules for this path- almost all of my dates were via dating apps, where interest in dating can be assumed.
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100% this. But also, you can make your own third space by inviting friends over and asking them to bring friends. I met most of my serious girlfriends at various house parties. Friends of friends are somewhat pre-vetted.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Well to do that all my friends would have to un-OD on heroin lol, the opioid epidemic did a real number on my city. I never did it myself, but for me to invite them over I'd need a shovel or a Ouija Board, and idk who they'd bring but I'm not sure I wanna find out!
"Damn Steve, when did you become friends with Moloch and Baal? And why'd you bring Ea-Nasir?!"
My only living in town friend is moving in about a year, too. And if he had anyone he could set me up with I'd know lol, known him for 15yr.
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which is very loosely defined and could mean anything
wrote last edited by [email protected]If you write messages to other men about how unreasonable women's dating expectations are and its mostly relating to common male insecurities, there's a pretty good chance you're incel posting or parodying an incel.
Height, abs, balding are all common cishet male insecurities, and largely have nothing to do with finding a girlfriend.
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And eat 3 meals a day. A banana counts for breakfast.
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Found the astro-physicist
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Well to do that all my friends would have to un-OD on heroin lol, the opioid epidemic did a real number on my city. I never did it myself, but for me to invite them over I'd need a shovel or a Ouija Board, and idk who they'd bring but I'm not sure I wanna find out!
"Damn Steve, when did you become friends with Moloch and Baal? And why'd you bring Ea-Nasir?!"
My only living in town friend is moving in about a year, too. And if he had anyone he could set me up with I'd know lol, known him for 15yr.
Yeesh. Sounds like you need a new set of friends or a new town. I wonder how much of the loneliness is down to loads of people living in really sparse areas.
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Or not be an incel.
That one secret trick to dating.
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All you need to be a superhero is 100 push-ups, 100 sit-ups, 100 squats, and a 10 km run every day.
wrote last edited by [email protected]96...97...98...
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100% this. But also, you can make your own third space by inviting friends over and asking them to bring friends. I met most of my serious girlfriends at various house parties. Friends of friends are somewhat pre-vetted.
You have made one major assumption here which I feel cannot be overlooked.
