You guys have any conversation starters to offer a poor lemming?
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Aaaaah the poke isn't describing the hippy! Got it
Good! And no worries, that one is on me. It's a very poorly written sentence
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Why couldn't the pirate play cards?
He was sitting on the deck.
The other pirate couldn't steer his ship because the only wheel he had was sticking out of his pants. If you asked if it bothered him he'd say "Yar, it's drivin' me nuts!"
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have you ever killed a man?
In Reno and I watched him die
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As someone who used to be terrible at socializing but had to learn because I'm an extrovert you've more or less summed it up.
Charisma is real and it's a factor, but it's more like having a good voice and natural presence for public speaking rather than the skills to confront stage fright, properly comport yourself on stage, and work with an audience. A person with 0 interpersonal charisma may never be making a living off socialization, but if they build skills they can easily be well liked and have plenty of friends and a partner. Meanwhile a person with a ton of charisma and no social skills is going to have a hard time keeping people around.
But yeah, practice, practice, practice. And as someone else said, benign comments are great tools. "Some weather we've been having", complimenting something someone is wearing especially if it's bold (as someone who likes bold looks "that [thing] is bold and you make it work" is great), or even "ugh this is way too [early/late/midday] for this [everyday bullshit]
Complimenting people on their outfits is a great one. I do this a lot (the folks in my town are great dressers, what can I say?) and while about half just say thank you and move on (perfectly fine), I have had some people follow up with some other comment, like where they got it from. The last compliment I gave was to a woman with a cute skirt and she was like, "Thanks! I keep looking for the pockets."
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Weekend plans are a good conversation topic with anyone you're already talking to. People spend their weekends with the people they like, going to places they like, doing the things they like. Talking about what people did the last weekend reveals what's important to them, and is a glimpse into their interests and hobbies. If those overlap with yours, you've got something to talk about. Even if they don't, maybe ask about them anyway, and see if you can learn something new about a new interest or hobby.
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Some classics
include- do you have a moment to talk about Jesus Christ?
- do you wanna get paid to see the world? Just sign here!
But as someone who went to high school and, until the final year, did not know the names of all classmates, itâs fair to say that I didnât really care about that at all. Maybe Iâm just autistic lol
Just talk about the subject youâre getting a Bachelorâs degree in and go on from there.
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A university-specific one: look up what the agenda of your student leadership is currently debating, then say âhey I heard the student body president is trying to [thing]â and go from there. You might accidentally learn about yourself along the way.
Bruh nobody even cares about the student gov in uni
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You hear about Pluto? Thatâs messed up!
wrote last edited by [email protected]Hello, fellow Psycho
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This is an old post i saved for this kind of moment so here ya go.
About 6 or 7 years ago my college roommate told me: Conversation isnât something any one person is good or bad at, itâs a skill like anything else. Everything changed once I thought about it like this.
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The more new people you talk to the easier it is. Especially the opposite sex.
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Everyone else has their own anxieties and fears. Theyâre just better at hiding it or masking it than you. Use this to your advantage to point out things you have in common and relate to them.
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When someone talks, LISTEN. Donât worry about your posture, your dog, your clothing. Listen to them. If you donât understand something, stop them and ask. Engage with them. Everyone you meet knows something you donât know.
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Ask open ended questions. Donât ask, âDid you have a good day?â Instead ask âWhat was the best part about your day?â âWhatâs your favorite and least favorite thing about your job?â Make them feel important. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. So do you. Take that feeling and shove it way down. When they ask about you, thatâs your turn to shine. If they donât, you donât really want to be friends anyway.
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Never one-up people. Even if you are way better, or know way more than the person talking to you, build them up.
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If someone is telling a story or saying something and they get cut off, find the next opportunity to bring them back in. âHey, _______ you were talking about X, what did you want to say?â
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Laugh at their jokes. Laugh at your jokes. Weâre all weird brains walking around in these skin things. Donât take it so seriously.
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You will remember your mistakes WAY more than anyone else. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
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My last and 2nd most important tip. Start every conversation with a compliment. I donât care if theyâre a dude and youâre straight as fuck. I donât care if theyâre mean, evil to you, or disagree with you politically in every way. Find something about the way they look, and compliment it. Someone did this to me once when I was a new guest at someoneâs apartment. âHey man, thatâs an awesome jacket, whereâd you get it?â I fucking loved that jacket. And I was self conscious about it. I felt instantly at home.
Take the things you like, and be that person for someone else. If youâre on a date, be genuinely interested in that person.
These are things that worked for me. Find your own style.
The #1 tip!! Go into EVERY room as if people will like you. Seriously. Walk through any door, in front of any group of people and smile. They. Will. Like you. Keep that in the front of your mind and you will enjoy conversations with anyone.
With #4, don't be surprised if they give you a short almost unengaged answer. They might not be warmed up, they might have something else going on ,or they just aren't interested. Either way, give them a couple of chances to signal if they want to join your flow. If not, that's cool... Just move on.
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The semester is starting back up and i'm terrible at speaking words.
This doesn't have to be aimed at college students, just conversation starters anywhere would be very much appreciated.
Start talking about The Spanish Inquisition. Nobody ever expects that.
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Not much room for dialogue from there.
But it does tell you if the other person likes dark humor or not. Not a given these days, and definitely something you want to know from the jump.
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Why couldn't the pirate play cards?
He was sitting on the deck.
What's a pirates favorite letter?
You'd think it'd be Rrrrrr, but a pirates first love is the C!
What's a pirates least favorite letter?
"We regret to inform you we have detected illegal tormenting at your home IP address...."
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That's the third most autistic thing I've read on Lemmy today.
That's the 11th funniest comment I've read today!
