How to talk some sense into my daughter regarding a scam university?
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I almost fell for something similar. Right before enrolling I decided to go on a deeper dive and I found ample evidence of it being a diploma mill without any value whatsoever. Saved me a lot of grief.
I wonder if the daughter in this case even knows what a diploma mill is.
I mean, if you know that they exist, it has to be impossible to read anything about this place without immediately recognizing it as one... Right?
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that's not flower power that's just misogyny! your husband has taught your daughter to be misogynistic towards herself. i think you need a long conversation with her, you need to disillusion her from the promises of "simplicity" of such worldview, because if anything happens to make her less than perfect for "a man like daddy" then she's going to be left helpless and unable to take care of herself in the long run. and even if she finds a man to take care of her - she will be then stuck with him no matter who he turns out to be
I mean, hippies were actually a lot more misogynistic than people give them credit for.
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Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.
What the entire fuck kind of money does this guy have that he's willing to take that risk? Everyone here's already given advice I would so im just another voice backing your concern. Yes you can make bank in this industry but its all smoke and mirrors, a total waste of an education
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Essentially. And he’s cool with that apparently.
I can't image thinking that way. Ugh, sorry to you OP. Good luck with this.
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The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.
Frankly this might boil down to what you're willing to jeopardize. This might be a case of ultimatum with your husband, i.e. i won't be with someone willing to pay for our daughter to put out misinformation, harm and pain into the world. If you divorce him and take half the assets, it might make it harder to pay for that quackery.
If you're not willing to put your foot down to the extent, you might need to make peace with it...
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She gonna have a hard time finding that trad-husband with 80k in bullshit student loans from a private college. And no real job prospects. You could suggest a nutritionists path at another university? My mother basically became the default bread winner with a nutritionists degree.
I think the trad husband wouldn't even consider a witch hippie
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
Goddammit.
This is is actually the most rational and practical advice here.
Pack it people, we're done here.
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
So promote more stupidity in the world? Hmm ya that’s gone over real well so far.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
She won’t learn to make good decisions unless you let her make bad ones.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
All you people talking about the daughter racking up student loan are killing me.. The father is paying for it all.
OP it seems to me you can’t talk sense to her.
The hardest part about raising the little fuckers is often the parent has to save the kid from themselves..
If your husband is funding all this, does that financially hurt you or him? If the answer to that is no than what’s the big deal. All the kid will do by going to that school is waste time, or maybe not. I suspect she will have a lot of fun..
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
The fact that its a scam doesn't matter unless you understand why she wants to attend. Once you understand her underlying motivations, only then you will have an idea what to do about it.
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Who upvotes this? Or are those just two alt accounts?
Yes, every upvote I get is an alt account.
Ooor maybe this is just a trainwreck reddit-style slop post that's worthy of a little roast regardless of authenticity.
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She won’t learn to make good decisions unless you let her make bad ones.
Her father would be paying for it. She will not feel a thing
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
I wonder if it would be possible to find an option at an actual university that still aligns with her interests. Thinking more along witchy lines than medical lines, would something like anthropology interest her? There's specialisms like ethnomedicine which would explore traditional/herbal medicine from a more academic perspective.
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Just let her attend. Pseudoscientific quackery, along with an elevated ego, lack of self-doubt, and the backup of a rich parent, are a certain way to make a whole fuckload of money.
If the concern is about the longevity and reputation of the quack institution, you could point her to a woo factory with accreditation and a better reputation among the crystal crowd, like Naropa in Boulder, CO.
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My daughter (high school senior) really wants to go to this university next year. She’s a great student, she could easily attend a proper college if she wanted to, but she’s into the whole witchy hippie alternative thing. This college is a legit scam, even sold the main Washington campus due to financial issues this year. Each time I try to have a conversation about the cons with her the line is “daddy will take care of me”. My husband (daddy) always takes her side (will pay her full tuition and everything). She’s the biggest daddy’s girl I’ve ever known, but at this point this is just straight up enabling bad decisions.
Sounds like you need to talk some sense into your husband.
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The craziest part is that when I talk to him about it, he says he’d agree with me if our daughter was a son; but since she’s a girl what she studies/does professionally isn’t important as she should just do what she loves since “she can just find a good husband to take care of her”.
I mean this as respectfully as possible but what compelled you to marry a man from the 1700s?
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Her father would be paying for it. She will not feel a thing
Same goes for him.
