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    Pardon me if these questionings are offensive in any way. That is not my intention. I am merely curious on the intricacies of the N-word and its uses.

    It is commonly known, I think, that white people oughn't say it, something which doesn't extend to Black people. I wonder, though, if white people think of the word, in their head (assuming the person has some sort of inmer monologue). I would imagine thinking the word might increase one's propensity to utter the word aloud. Or perhaps not. Certainly further exposure to content that features said language must increase one's likelihood of using the term, no? Even if one never makes use of it aloud, surely the chances hypotetically increase, no?

    Race is a social construct anyways, so what exactly are races? What defines a race? Is it from a 'Murican perspective? Asian is a race, innit? Is Latin American a race? If so, do white Latin Americans, or those with European descent, is that part of such race? How does the usage of the N-word apply to other races, assuming such thing?

    Edit: I imagine race doesn't just boil down to skin colour, right? There's more to it than white = light skinned and Black = dark skinned, innit?

    Edit 2: Maybe this was better for NoStupidQuestions. I may have mistankenly gone too soon for Ask Lemmy, seeing it is a question.

    I'd like to add I am not questioning the N-word itself. I would not say it. I comprehend it is offensive. Seeing as it gets used by Black people, and it's not to be used by white people, I was merely wondering on how this goes exactly. Whether it boils down to Black vs. non-Black, and what exactly defines being Black. (And also the part about thinking the word)

    To add, I am not 'Murican, so no need to assume that. English isn't even me first language.

    Edit 3: to be very clear, I DO NOT WISH TO USE THE N-WORD. And I am not looking for some sort of loophole. I am merely trying to better understand things. I apologise if this is of any offense to Black people, as it is not my intention to harm anyone

    Edit 4: mods, if needed be, you can safely delete this post. Not that you needed permission. I'd just like to let known if this is any problem, deletion is fine by me. I don't intent on causing issues

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    Your question has no place anywhere. Well maybe in a community called resistquestions

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      Race being a social construct does not make slurs any more permissible to use.

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      Permissibility also a social construct.
      Society, too.

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        Permissibility also a social construct.
        Society, too.

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        Welcome to society. Don't like it? Isolate yourself away from everyone and everything. Best of luck out there champ!

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        • L [email protected]

          Pardon me if these questionings are offensive in any way. That is not my intention. I am merely curious on the intricacies of the N-word and its uses.

          It is commonly known, I think, that white people oughn't say it, something which doesn't extend to Black people. I wonder, though, if white people think of the word, in their head (assuming the person has some sort of inmer monologue). I would imagine thinking the word might increase one's propensity to utter the word aloud. Or perhaps not. Certainly further exposure to content that features said language must increase one's likelihood of using the term, no? Even if one never makes use of it aloud, surely the chances hypotetically increase, no?

          Race is a social construct anyways, so what exactly are races? What defines a race? Is it from a 'Murican perspective? Asian is a race, innit? Is Latin American a race? If so, do white Latin Americans, or those with European descent, is that part of such race? How does the usage of the N-word apply to other races, assuming such thing?

          Edit: I imagine race doesn't just boil down to skin colour, right? There's more to it than white = light skinned and Black = dark skinned, innit?

          Edit 2: Maybe this was better for NoStupidQuestions. I may have mistankenly gone too soon for Ask Lemmy, seeing it is a question.

          I'd like to add I am not questioning the N-word itself. I would not say it. I comprehend it is offensive. Seeing as it gets used by Black people, and it's not to be used by white people, I was merely wondering on how this goes exactly. Whether it boils down to Black vs. non-Black, and what exactly defines being Black. (And also the part about thinking the word)

          To add, I am not 'Murican, so no need to assume that. English isn't even me first language.

          Edit 3: to be very clear, I DO NOT WISH TO USE THE N-WORD. And I am not looking for some sort of loophole. I am merely trying to better understand things. I apologise if this is of any offense to Black people, as it is not my intention to harm anyone

          Edit 4: mods, if needed be, you can safely delete this post. Not that you needed permission. I'd just like to let known if this is any problem, deletion is fine by me. I don't intent on causing issues

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          As a white guy in the US South, it’s just… No. Don’t go there. Don’t even think it. You don’t want any part of that can of worms.

          However, I remember hearing KRS One discussing the words usage a long time ago.

          This video isn’t the discussion I remember, but it’s similar in content:

          https://youtu.be/ZEYUd6VYriU

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          • loaf@sh.itjust.worksL [email protected]

            Don’t say it. That’s the rule.

            You get a pass from a black friend? Cool. Still don’t say it.

            Come up in a black neighborhood, only white kid, they say “it’s cool” because y’all grew up together? Don’t say it.

            It’s about respect. If you’re not black, don’t say it.

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            What if I'm singing along to a song written and performed by a black artist?

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            • L [email protected]

              Pardon me if these questionings are offensive in any way. That is not my intention. I am merely curious on the intricacies of the N-word and its uses.

              It is commonly known, I think, that white people oughn't say it, something which doesn't extend to Black people. I wonder, though, if white people think of the word, in their head (assuming the person has some sort of inmer monologue). I would imagine thinking the word might increase one's propensity to utter the word aloud. Or perhaps not. Certainly further exposure to content that features said language must increase one's likelihood of using the term, no? Even if one never makes use of it aloud, surely the chances hypotetically increase, no?

              Race is a social construct anyways, so what exactly are races? What defines a race? Is it from a 'Murican perspective? Asian is a race, innit? Is Latin American a race? If so, do white Latin Americans, or those with European descent, is that part of such race? How does the usage of the N-word apply to other races, assuming such thing?

              Edit: I imagine race doesn't just boil down to skin colour, right? There's more to it than white = light skinned and Black = dark skinned, innit?

              Edit 2: Maybe this was better for NoStupidQuestions. I may have mistankenly gone too soon for Ask Lemmy, seeing it is a question.

              I'd like to add I am not questioning the N-word itself. I would not say it. I comprehend it is offensive. Seeing as it gets used by Black people, and it's not to be used by white people, I was merely wondering on how this goes exactly. Whether it boils down to Black vs. non-Black, and what exactly defines being Black. (And also the part about thinking the word)

              To add, I am not 'Murican, so no need to assume that. English isn't even me first language.

              Edit 3: to be very clear, I DO NOT WISH TO USE THE N-WORD. And I am not looking for some sort of loophole. I am merely trying to better understand things. I apologise if this is of any offense to Black people, as it is not my intention to harm anyone

              Edit 4: mods, if needed be, you can safely delete this post. Not that you needed permission. I'd just like to let known if this is any problem, deletion is fine by me. I don't intent on causing issues

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              To try and answer what you're asking genuinely, since I don't see indication that this is bad-faith:

              The reason African-Americans and some black people get a "pass" to use it isn't because it isn't offensive. Its because they're expected to have a better understanding of their own oppression than someone who hasn't lived with it, and because it can generally be assumed to not have racist connotations. The word has such heavy history that if someone who isn't black uses it, it is usually (and reasonably) assumed to be racism. Even among those who are black, theres a lot of nuance, with many feeling uncomfortable with saying it, either because the word is so loaded that it can be offensive reguardless, or because they don't feel like they're connected enough to the history to have the "right" to say it (I.E. someone who grew up in a black-majority country might feel this way.)

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              • loaf@sh.itjust.worksL [email protected]

                Don’t say it. That’s the rule.

                You get a pass from a black friend? Cool. Still don’t say it.

                Come up in a black neighborhood, only white kid, they say “it’s cool” because y’all grew up together? Don’t say it.

                It’s about respect. If you’re not black, don’t say it.

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                For me, the only grey area where it might be acceptable for a white person to use it in any circumstances is if they're reading or quoting a very old work of literature. What if you're reading Huckleberry Finn aloud? You can say, "N-Word Jim," but that seems off. Or you be reading historical accounts. If there's some Jim Crow-era newspaper that just openly says the N word, censoring it may actually take away from the impact of the word.

                But even in these cases, there's probably a better way to handle this than to just outright say the N word. I'm just not sure what that way is.

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                • L [email protected]

                  Pardon me if these questionings are offensive in any way. That is not my intention. I am merely curious on the intricacies of the N-word and its uses.

                  It is commonly known, I think, that white people oughn't say it, something which doesn't extend to Black people. I wonder, though, if white people think of the word, in their head (assuming the person has some sort of inmer monologue). I would imagine thinking the word might increase one's propensity to utter the word aloud. Or perhaps not. Certainly further exposure to content that features said language must increase one's likelihood of using the term, no? Even if one never makes use of it aloud, surely the chances hypotetically increase, no?

                  Race is a social construct anyways, so what exactly are races? What defines a race? Is it from a 'Murican perspective? Asian is a race, innit? Is Latin American a race? If so, do white Latin Americans, or those with European descent, is that part of such race? How does the usage of the N-word apply to other races, assuming such thing?

                  Edit: I imagine race doesn't just boil down to skin colour, right? There's more to it than white = light skinned and Black = dark skinned, innit?

                  Edit 2: Maybe this was better for NoStupidQuestions. I may have mistankenly gone too soon for Ask Lemmy, seeing it is a question.

                  I'd like to add I am not questioning the N-word itself. I would not say it. I comprehend it is offensive. Seeing as it gets used by Black people, and it's not to be used by white people, I was merely wondering on how this goes exactly. Whether it boils down to Black vs. non-Black, and what exactly defines being Black. (And also the part about thinking the word)

                  To add, I am not 'Murican, so no need to assume that. English isn't even me first language.

                  Edit 3: to be very clear, I DO NOT WISH TO USE THE N-WORD. And I am not looking for some sort of loophole. I am merely trying to better understand things. I apologise if this is of any offense to Black people, as it is not my intention to harm anyone

                  Edit 4: mods, if needed be, you can safely delete this post. Not that you needed permission. I'd just like to let known if this is any problem, deletion is fine by me. I don't intent on causing issues

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                  The rule is it's a taboo word particularly in the US and in English-speaking communities aware of its US history.
                  In the US, there's an ingroup & outgroup dynamic with the black community where in less formal registers the ingroup may use it

                  • for ingroup disparagement
                  • neutrally
                  • for ingroup solidarity or camaraderie.

                  However, the ingroup speaks in black vernacular English, so the word sounds different.

                  You're recognized as a member of the ingroup community if they generally perceive you as such: culture, speech, appearance, other social markers.

                  Usage by the outgroup is typically treated as insensitive & insulting outside special cases such as quotation & academic discussion.
                  The euphemism n-word is typically employed to minimize offense.

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                    What if I'm singing along to a song written and performed by a black artist?

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                    Find better songs.

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                      Welcome to society. Don't like it? Isolate yourself away from everyone and everything. Best of luck out there champ!

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                      Social currency & sanctimonious displays to gain it: also a social construct.

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                        Permissibility also a social construct.
                        Society, too.

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                        It seems like you maybe thought I was saying the exact opposite of what I was trying to say. I'm not sure if that's your error or mine, so let me be clear: "Social construct" doesn't mean "not real", it means "important to consider when dealing with other people".

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                          What if I'm singing along to a song written and performed by a black artist?

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                          That is famously a bad idea.

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                            It seems like you maybe thought I was saying the exact opposite of what I was trying to say. I'm not sure if that's your error or mine, so let me be clear: "Social construct" doesn't mean "not real", it means "important to consider when dealing with other people".

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                            There's no confusion.
                            I was merely adding that they're all social constructs.
                            (As real as money.)

                            Partly inspired by socks.

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                              What if I'm singing along to a song written and performed by a black artist?

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                              Then don’t say it.

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                                What if I'm singing along to a song written and performed by a black artist?

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                                This might sound dumb, so bear with me.

                                I grew up in a super poor city, predominantly black. All my friends from there listened to hip hop where it was used a lot, they said it, their families said it, etc..

                                What I did was sub that word with another when I was singing. It became a habit. I thought that was a better idea than getting into the habit of singing it, where I might slip up and say it around them (since it was commonly used around there).

                                It’s a lot easier to create a new habit than break an old one, you know?

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                                  For me, the only grey area where it might be acceptable for a white person to use it in any circumstances is if they're reading or quoting a very old work of literature. What if you're reading Huckleberry Finn aloud? You can say, "N-Word Jim," but that seems off. Or you be reading historical accounts. If there's some Jim Crow-era newspaper that just openly says the N word, censoring it may actually take away from the impact of the word.

                                  But even in these cases, there's probably a better way to handle this than to just outright say the N word. I'm just not sure what that way is.

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                                  You self censored defeating your own point

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                                    As a white guy in the US South, it’s just… No. Don’t go there. Don’t even think it. You don’t want any part of that can of worms.

                                    However, I remember hearing KRS One discussing the words usage a long time ago.

                                    This video isn’t the discussion I remember, but it’s similar in content:

                                    https://youtu.be/ZEYUd6VYriU

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                                    Yeah it’s different down here. All the history down here, plus some of the older white folks still using that word… ugh.

                                    And KRS One is one of the best MCs of all time imho!

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                                    • loaf@sh.itjust.worksL [email protected]

                                      This might sound dumb, so bear with me.

                                      I grew up in a super poor city, predominantly black. All my friends from there listened to hip hop where it was used a lot, they said it, their families said it, etc..

                                      What I did was sub that word with another when I was singing. It became a habit. I thought that was a better idea than getting into the habit of singing it, where I might slip up and say it around them (since it was commonly used around there).

                                      It’s a lot easier to create a new habit than break an old one, you know?

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                                      I use “brother” in my head when I’m listening to music.

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                                      • L [email protected]

                                        Pardon me if these questionings are offensive in any way. That is not my intention. I am merely curious on the intricacies of the N-word and its uses.

                                        It is commonly known, I think, that white people oughn't say it, something which doesn't extend to Black people. I wonder, though, if white people think of the word, in their head (assuming the person has some sort of inmer monologue). I would imagine thinking the word might increase one's propensity to utter the word aloud. Or perhaps not. Certainly further exposure to content that features said language must increase one's likelihood of using the term, no? Even if one never makes use of it aloud, surely the chances hypotetically increase, no?

                                        Race is a social construct anyways, so what exactly are races? What defines a race? Is it from a 'Murican perspective? Asian is a race, innit? Is Latin American a race? If so, do white Latin Americans, or those with European descent, is that part of such race? How does the usage of the N-word apply to other races, assuming such thing?

                                        Edit: I imagine race doesn't just boil down to skin colour, right? There's more to it than white = light skinned and Black = dark skinned, innit?

                                        Edit 2: Maybe this was better for NoStupidQuestions. I may have mistankenly gone too soon for Ask Lemmy, seeing it is a question.

                                        I'd like to add I am not questioning the N-word itself. I would not say it. I comprehend it is offensive. Seeing as it gets used by Black people, and it's not to be used by white people, I was merely wondering on how this goes exactly. Whether it boils down to Black vs. non-Black, and what exactly defines being Black. (And also the part about thinking the word)

                                        To add, I am not 'Murican, so no need to assume that. English isn't even me first language.

                                        Edit 3: to be very clear, I DO NOT WISH TO USE THE N-WORD. And I am not looking for some sort of loophole. I am merely trying to better understand things. I apologise if this is of any offense to Black people, as it is not my intention to harm anyone

                                        Edit 4: mods, if needed be, you can safely delete this post. Not that you needed permission. I'd just like to let known if this is any problem, deletion is fine by me. I don't intent on causing issues

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                                        What is it? You make kinda riddle here...

                                        'Next president'?

                                        /s

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                                          Social currency & sanctimonious displays to gain it: also a social construct.

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                                          Well, since humans build societies, everything is a social construct.

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