When do you finally calm down after buying a house?
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After all the painting is done
My grandpa was a painter for 45 years and already was asking us what we want to do. Guess we need to figure that out faster
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It's been about ten years in my house, the list of needed repairs is getting longer faster than I can fix them.
The house is probably at least a hundred years old, so you might not have that issue.
This one is about 90...oh no
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
The magic wears off as soon as the first expensive thing breaks.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
Just got past 1 year ownership of a new build and had the 1-year warranty inspection done and worked with the builder to do the repairs. I think it has only started to calm down now, as we've finally experienced one year of living in the house and we now know what to expect throughout the year. Except for emergencies and major unexpected issues of course.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
eh you get used to it. for me the anxiety from first house went down within a few weeks/months after moving in.
It's still a shit process every time. so ya never get used to the shit process of selling and buying a house.
I hear some folk have sweet stories of fantasy where rainbows and birds bring them the keys but I didn't get those in my filtered reality bubble.
maybe it's them there rich folk I been hearin' bout.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
Honestly for me it was when we moved in that things started getting more calm.
I did not like all the uncertainty of the transaction hanging above my head.
Now it’s been a few years and we’ve added gardens and done a few upgrades and we have our furniture and spaces, and it’s my happy place.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
It all becomes normal after a while but I still stress about the things that could take it away. Treefalls during big storms and fire hazards and places where people might trip and gutter overflows and was that a carpenter ant and and and.
A now, ten years later, we're doing some minor remodeling and a lot of those money stresses and fears of the unknown are coming back.
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The timeframe all depends on the house. Over the last 30 years, we've bought three homes. The first one was an absolute breeze and never caused us heartache. The second one, was a bit of a troublemaker but we just worked our way from room to room, rehabbing the entire house a little bit at a time.
This last one has been a nightmare for the 4 years we've owned it. We've blown through our savings and still don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Without going into needless detail, on top of a qualified home inspector, I would suggest going to the city/county permitting office to make sure permits were pulled for anything that's been recently done. In our case, the the biggest issue with this property was that apartment over garage was done illegally and we had to completely gut and start over. Unfortunately, the entire reason we picked this house was for that apartment as it was for our daughter to live in.
My intention isn't to scare you but just be sure to perform due diligence and don't be afraid to further investigate potential issues.
Your latest house is pretty much what I am expecting as a FTHB. Permits have been my main concern after some quick searches. There's not a lot of updates made in recent years to the place that would require them, but who knows what was done that wasn't visible during inspection. I know it should be ok, but I never had to deal with this before so it's just another thing added to the list.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
It takes a while to get used to the new house after you move in. You are hyper aware of little things that you might have missed during viewings, mainly due to being responsible for maintaining it now. I remember being alarmed by floorboards creeking while I went to the bathroom one night after moving in. It's almost like learning a new musical instrument or something.
That said, you do settle in after a few weeks. Our settling in was delayed slightly by a leak to the shop downstairs which turned out to be the exit pipe for the whole block (so not so bad) but took a while to get to the bottom of. Now, it's been more than 2 years and I'm not sure where the time went.
My advice would be to try and avoid the temptation of leaving boxes around unpacked. Getting everything stored away correctly will make you feel at home much faster.
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It all becomes normal after a while but I still stress about the things that could take it away. Treefalls during big storms and fire hazards and places where people might trip and gutter overflows and was that a carpenter ant and and and.
A now, ten years later, we're doing some minor remodeling and a lot of those money stresses and fears of the unknown are coming back.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]The first house our offer was accepted on had a large tree (the biggest tree I ever saw IRL besides some state parks) and had a credit to get it removed. 3 days after our offer was accepted a big storm came through and a branch fell, destroying the roof on the back half. We went through with the inspection because they told us insurance was replacing it, but we walked into a house with water going from the roof to the basement. There was even water pooling in the breaker box. We mentioned everything we found to them and they just said "well our neighbor is the contractor and he can do the roof and some of the walls. If you guys want to talk to insurance or find another contractor that's fine". We backed out after that.
Edit: There were multiple broken struts in the roof and they "didn't know about" and said the neighbor could fix them. We looked up the neighbor and he's just some guy with an LLC doing handy work. Nothing against that but when it comes to structural work, I would want an artitect or engineer to take a look, not some handyman who can "fix it" while missing a lot of the damage our inspector found.
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I think after 18 months or so you will have a good feeling for what you bought. There will still be things to do. There will ALWAYS be things to do (some of which will be very expensive). But as far as coming to terms with exactly where everything is, what the quirks are, and whether you can live with them, you need all 4 seasons and a bit.
Didn't think about seeing how everything holds up during all the seasons. Windows and AC are only a few years old but the furnace is closer to end of life than new. Guess we will see how it goes this winter. I'm sure there will be a lot more to consider that I don't even know about yet.
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It's been about ten years in my house, the list of needed repairs is getting longer faster than I can fix them.
The house is probably at least a hundred years old, so you might not have that issue.
More frustrating: for every little thing you do manage to fix, three new jobs pop up!
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The first house our offer was accepted on had a large tree (the biggest tree I ever saw IRL besides some state parks) and had a credit to get it removed. 3 days after our offer was accepted a big storm came through and a branch fell, destroying the roof on the back half. We went through with the inspection because they told us insurance was replacing it, but we walked into a house with water going from the roof to the basement. There was even water pooling in the breaker box. We mentioned everything we found to them and they just said "well our neighbor is the contractor and he can do the roof and some of the walls. If you guys want to talk to insurance or find another contractor that's fine". We backed out after that.
Edit: There were multiple broken struts in the roof and they "didn't know about" and said the neighbor could fix them. We looked up the neighbor and he's just some guy with an LLC doing handy work. Nothing against that but when it comes to structural work, I would want an artitect or engineer to take a look, not some handyman who can "fix it" while missing a lot of the damage our inspector found.
Dodged that bullet, wow.
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Dodged that bullet, wow.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Dodged an artillery shell!
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My grandpa was a painter for 45 years and already was asking us what we want to do. Guess we need to figure that out faster
Paint it before you move in.
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eh you get used to it. for me the anxiety from first house went down within a few weeks/months after moving in.
It's still a shit process every time. so ya never get used to the shit process of selling and buying a house.
I hear some folk have sweet stories of fantasy where rainbows and birds bring them the keys but I didn't get those in my filtered reality bubble.
maybe it's them there rich folk I been hearin' bout.
Yeah was expecting it to suck ass. Two of my cousins bought houses around 2022 and I helped with some of the work at their places when they first moved in, so I knew nothing would be perfect and got an idea of what we could do ourselves/with a little help.
But yeah I happen to know a couple who had rainbows and birds deliver their keys. My SIL's SIL (there has to be a word for that) married a trust fund kid who's dad owns a car dealership. The dad was buying a house in a newly developed area, and decided to buy the house next to his and gift it. They have not been a good source for advice.
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The timeframe all depends on the house. Over the last 30 years, we've bought three homes. The first one was an absolute breeze and never caused us heartache. The second one, was a bit of a troublemaker but we just worked our way from room to room, rehabbing the entire house a little bit at a time.
This last one has been a nightmare for the 4 years we've owned it. We've blown through our savings and still don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Without going into needless detail, on top of a qualified home inspector, I would suggest going to the city/county permitting office to make sure permits were pulled for anything that's been recently done. In our case, the the biggest issue with this property was that apartment over garage was done illegally and we had to completely gut and start over. Unfortunately, the entire reason we picked this house was for that apartment as it was for our daughter to live in.
My intention isn't to scare you but just be sure to perform due diligence and don't be afraid to further investigate potential issues.
The thing that pisses me off about this, is how the previous owner who illegally modified the house isn't instantly on the hook for the amount it elevated the house price, and you would have to proactively litigate them in civil court (if that's even legal).
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More frustrating: for every little thing you do manage to fix, three new jobs pop up!
And if you're as talented as me, those three new things are a direct result of attempting to fix the first one!
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The thing that pisses me off about this, is how the previous owner who illegally modified the house isn't instantly on the hook for the amount it elevated the house price, and you would have to proactively litigate them in civil court (if that's even legal).
I agree, we had the option to sue the seller but the reality is, even if we spend a ton of money to take him to court, there's no guaranteed payment at the end. We decided to focus on fixing the problem rather than try to get compensation from them.
There is absolutely no system in place to protect people from something like this. The inspector didn't find it, the realty attorneys didn't find it, the realtors didn't find it. We only found out about it when pulling a permit for a deck.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
After you close, you’re going to start doing projects on the place. Some you’ll plan, others you’ll discover along the way. One day you’ll be out of time and/or money for more of them - that’s when you’ll calm down. Enjoy the ride!
