Are Dating Apps Getting Worse?
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Perhaps some sort of digital glory hole could work?
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Maybe the author had been in a relationship for more than 5 years.
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Be very careful wheb defederating
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Beats me, I haven't used one in ages
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To shreds you say?
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But maybe could be a good place for furry dating.
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I think Steam is an outlier here. It'll probably get worse eventually, but it's pretty decent right now.
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Or gave up on dating apps a long time ago.
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Good thing I got married before revealing just how mono-OS I am, don't even have much Linux distro variety, everything is openSUSE.
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Hey, you can try out FreeBSD, maybe you'll find a cute little beastie.
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Not even the fediverse, I have a furry coworker, and they have a whole community thing going on. They do exist in real life, not just the weird corners of the fediverse.
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Maybe the real furries are the internet strangers we met along the way.
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as a dating app?
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Sure, why not?
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Yeah, let's try it. I'm https://steamcommunity.com/id/Gonzako
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I suggest getting a dog and giving up on dating
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The best dating app is not being interested in having a relationship and playing video games until you randomly stumble across a switch gaming discord and randomly fall in love with your best friend and they like you back 🥴
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This, I think I had over 100 first dates and maybe 10 second dates. I’m not a catfish by any means, but I think people just come off differently over text than in-person, it can be kind of a whiplash.
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Yeah, I used to want to text a lot before meeting face to face, but have learned that almost always means I start to "fill in the blanks" and the person I meet never matches up with my expectations. By meeting face to face quickly, I don't have a chance to build those expectations and am unlikely to feel "catfished" by anything other than blantant lies on their profile.
I think the bigger problem is that the apps really amplify the sense of "there's always more fish in the sea." So if that first date wasn't full of sparks, people often prefer to see what other options are out there, rather than going on second dates to see if anything develops.
With the online approach, I know I'm very guilty of focusing on the other person's "flaws", and deciding they're deal breakers. With people I meet via offline methods, we generally get to know each other a bit more organically and end up having multiple unofficial "dates" before the first official date.
My last actual date was over a year ago, with someone I met offline through mutual friends. There was definitely an initial spark, but it fizzled almost as quickly (mostly my own discomfort with emotional intimacy). We're actually still friends though, and hang out with each other more often than I hang out with the friend who introduced us. If we had met via dating apps, I highly doubt we would still be friends because we just wouldn't have any reason to cross paths organically.
