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How much of a deal breaker would be a high body count for you?

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  • F [email protected]

    Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

    When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

    tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT This user is from outside of this forum
    tabbsthebat@pawb.socialT This user is from outside of this forum
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    #3

    Not a deal breaker at all :3

    Honestly makes it more fun uwu

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    • F [email protected]

      Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

      When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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      #4

      I know for a fact my wife has a higher count than I do, how much more? No clue, because I never asked and it doesn't matter.

      Everything she's done up until I met her, made her the woman I love today.

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      • F [email protected]

        Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

        When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

        F This user is from outside of this forum
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        #5

        If there are no STI's involved, I fail to see how it's anyone else's business. Unless your partner decides to willingly divulge this info, of course.

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        • F [email protected]

          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

          stinerman@midwest.socialS This user is from outside of this forum
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          #6

          So "body count" in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.

          I can't answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question...if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.

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          • F [email protected]

            Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

            When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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            #7

            Personally I'd start to have an issue if they've been with over double my count as I think its indicative of a mismatched libido that could lead to problems.

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            • F [email protected]

              Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

              When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

              spankmonkey@lemmy.worldS This user is from outside of this forum
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              #8

              I know for a fact that I am completely comfortable with low double digits and the numbers really aren't that important. I'm not a high scorer by any means, but never really thought about the numbers. Can't remember ever asking for a count.

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              • F [email protected]

                Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                #9

                I don’t ask for that information. As long as he has shown himself to be a good, loyal partner, his sexual past wouldn’t matter to me unless he did something unethical to achieve it.

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                • F [email protected]

                  Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                  When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

                  primarilyprimate@lemmy.worldP This user is from outside of this forum
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                  #10

                  I have low numbers and it is a non-issue for me... NO STI!

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                  • stinerman@midwest.socialS [email protected]

                    So "body count" in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.

                    I can't answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question...if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.

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                    #11

                    Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.

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                    • F [email protected]

                      Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                      When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                      #12

                      If you have a problem with the number of people your partner slept with prior to meeting you, you really shouldn't be dating, as you need therapy to work through your issues before you start mucking about with other people.

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                      • F [email protected]

                        Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                        When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

                        libb@piefed.socialL This user is from outside of this forum
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                        #13

                        I'm not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand 'body count'?

                        Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don't give a f... I mean, I don't care. It's not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.

                        The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.

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                        • F [email protected]

                          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                          #14

                          Body count is stupid.

                          As long as someone is honest with you, cares about you, and gotten tested so they aren't spreading anything... who honestly gives a shit?

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                          • libb@piefed.socialL [email protected]

                            I'm not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand 'body count'?

                            Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don't give a f... I mean, I don't care. It's not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.

                            The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.

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                            Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.

                            If this is in any other context than sex, I'm concerned

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                            • F [email protected]

                              Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                              When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                              For me, I don’t care to know the details of their past relationships. It’s none of my business. If anything, sharing body counts is just another way to shame a partner for something that should not be held against anyone. So what if she sucked 37 dicks? Doesn’t matter if it was in a row or not.

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                              • F [email protected]

                                Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                #17

                                I’m married so it’s moot, but I’m gonna go against the grain a little bit here. I don’t know that it would ever be a dealbreaker but it might signal a fundamental incompatibility because of me. I recently discovered the term “demisexual” and that describes me pretty well. I’d say I’m somewhere between demi and flat out asexual. So yeah, I wouldn’t judge a high number from a partner but I would worry that we wouldn’t work out, if that makes sense.

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                                • B [email protected]

                                  Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.

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                                  Because a linguistic association between sex and murder is so adorable, especially when it comes from kids!

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                                  • F [email protected]

                                    Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                    When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                    Not only do I not mind, I would hope that my perspective partner would have enough sexual experience so that we would both enjoy ourselves.

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                                    • F [email protected]

                                      Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                      When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

                                      jerkface@lemmy.caJ This user is from outside of this forum
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                                      #20

                                      Not a factor at all, but using the term "body count" is enough on its own to lose interest.

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                                      • F [email protected]

                                        Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                        When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                        I have no qualms about the past of people I am sexually active with as long as they are clean and safe. Considering how many people I have been with, I would be a hypocrite if it mattered to me.

                                        As far as when it is appropriate to share, I would say as soon as one is comfortable if at all. At the end of the day even a romantic partner does not have a right to every piece of information on you, and if a lot of sexual partners is a deal breaker to anyone involved the relationship shouldn't continue in the first place. Incompatible values tend to ruin relationships.

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                                        • F [email protected]

                                          Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?

                                          When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?

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                                          #22

                                          Context not included, the number itself doesn't matter, but the context with the number can potentially matter. For example if they had sex with 50 people and thought they were in love with most of them, then how can i feel like their love for me is real and going to last? But if they had sex with 1000 people when they were being sex trafficked against their will, then (aside from concerns about possible related trauma) the number wouldn't matter at all.

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