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Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw I’m 28 married and have a child.
And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.
All this time I’m thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if I’m married I haven’t even had my first kiss” and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.
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For me, its them having grandchildren
wrote last edited by [email protected]I knew someone who had great grandparents who were younger than my mom.
The person was like 3 years old at the time... But given that family, by now she might have kids. -
Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw I’m 28 married and have a child.
And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.
All this time I’m thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if I’m married I haven’t even had my first kiss” and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.
In my social circle in the UK everyone got married in their 30's and started having kids mid to late 30's. It's not a race to get married, but the biological clock is there for having kids.
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In my social circle in the UK everyone got married in their 30's and started having kids mid to late 30's. It's not a race to get married, but the biological clock is there for having kids.
True but also I’ve known I don’t want kids for a long time.
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My humble contest entry: Twice divorced, two teens old enough to drive, I'm still in my 30s (for awhile yet, anyway).
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True but also I’ve known I don’t want kids for a long time.
It's a personal preference, no children deserve my free time.
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Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw I’m 28 married and have a child.
And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.
All this time I’m thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if I’m married I haven’t even had my first kiss” and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.
Different people have different lives. My ex was a married mother at 17, I was married with no chance of children at 27, my brother in law is pushing his luck with how old his wife and him will be when they're ready to have kids. Sure my ex was too young, but I've known a 21 year old pregnant with her second that honestly seemed ready, though her husband could pick up some slack from how she told it.
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My younger brother got married, had kids, got divorced and I don't even have a girlfriend.
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It's a personal preference, no children deserve my free time.
If your username checks out, I agree
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Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw I’m 28 married and have a child.
And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.
All this time I’m thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if I’m married I haven’t even had my first kiss” and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.
To quote T Rex: Feelings are boring, kissing is awesome.
Unless you are totally ace or something.
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My younger brother got married, had kids, got divorced and I don't even have a girlfriend.
You got married? But we're just kids... oh wait...
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To quote T Rex: Feelings are boring, kissing is awesome.
Unless you are totally ace or something.
No just too much autism and a whole bunch of other shit going on that I never succeeded in this area.
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No just too much autism and a whole bunch of other shit going on that I never succeeded in this area.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Best of luck dude
Edit: dammit, gender non-specific dude
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Best of luck dude
Edit: dammit, gender non-specific dude
Thanks, also dude is correct hehe
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People are aiming to have kids at like 35 these days. This is the cutoff point, where pregnancy complications start getting more likely. Gotta get your life in order and get some stability. That may have been easier in the past.
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People are aiming to have kids at like 35 these days. This is the cutoff point, where pregnancy complications start getting more likely. Gotta get your life in order and get some stability. That may have been easier in the past.
The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world
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For me, its them having grandchildren
Honestly that’s a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just don’t manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but I’m very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that there’s a handover coming and they’re going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and there’s no guarantee that it’ll stay a more removed relationship
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The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world
You seem to be nailing responsibility though. Good on you for having that awareness.
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Honestly that’s a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just don’t manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but I’m very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that there’s a handover coming and they’re going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and there’s no guarantee that it’ll stay a more removed relationship
That's why I love being an auntie, but don't want kids of my own. I love hanging around with the kids, but that's only because I know I can send them back to their parents when I'm tired of them. The responsibility of looking after budgies by myself for almost 15 years (more if you count the childhood family pets) was enough. As much as I miss having birds, I'm ready to retire from any caregiving commitments.
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No just too much autism and a whole bunch of other shit going on that I never succeeded in this area.
All love, fellow human, but fuck this energy.
Fight. And build. And work. And be ready to fail and try again.
fight, dammit!
