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Expectations vs reality for those who moved from a city to a small town?

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    The slutty farmer’s daughter is usually ugly but always a great lay.

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    Username totally checks out.

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      The selection shrinks... on everything. 30 beers on tap at that nice brewhouse becomes 3 at the local watering hole. 20 different unique restaraunts becomes a subway and a chinese place. Groceries? Sure, enjoy your walmart and dollar general.

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      Bar culture is a waste of money anyways.

      You can get more variety at a cheaper price from grocery stores. It doesn't make sense to pay more money to drink at a bar with people who you're not close enough to visit each other's homes.

      Anyone who spends $7 on a shot when an entire bottle costs $12 isn't using their brain.

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        My only surprise was how shit every nearby restaurant is

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        Doesn't surprise me that the main thing city people complain about is they need more places to spend their money.

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          I'm experiencing the exact opposite, personally.

          My neighbors have been extremely kind and generous, on a level that couldn't even be dreamed of in the city.

          They've literally helped me cut my grass on several occasions out of pure kindness because they have a riding mower and I have a push one. And that's just one family.

          My car has also never been broken into after years of living here. In the city, all of my friends' cars have been broken into.

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            Bar culture is a waste of money anyways.

            You can get more variety at a cheaper price from grocery stores. It doesn't make sense to pay more money to drink at a bar with people who you're not close enough to visit each other's homes.

            Anyone who spends $7 on a shot when an entire bottle costs $12 isn't using their brain.

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            I was with you until you said grocery store beer. No selection at grocery stores in my area unless you want a lager.

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              I was with you until you said grocery store beer. No selection at grocery stores in my area unless you want a lager.

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              I'm mostly referring to liquor because it's the most economical way to get drunk.

              My local Walmart has a decent selection of beers, but I've been to HEBs that have entire sections devoted to craft beers. It may depend on the grocery store in question.

              You can still get a better selection at a cheaper price at liquor stores than bars.

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              • socsa@piefed.socialS [email protected]

                Small town only feel safer until you end up pissing off the wrong person with the right influence. And then it feels like living in some Mafia nightmare. It doesn't even take pissing people off either. Tell someone you are gay in secret? Now half the town thinks you are a pedophile.

                Small town "safety" is a myth for the privileged. The crime gap is also kind of a myth. Most small town police departments won't even write a report for domestic violence unless someone ends up in the hospital.

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                I'm sorry you have had bad experiences and they've stuck with you. I wish you the best in the future!

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                  A lot of people from California come to the smaller cities near bigger cities in southern Missouri. What sucks is that they're driving up the costs of homes and real estate. Wish I could go somewhere that's still kinda nice and get a bigger nicer house for 1\4 the cost and retire early.

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                  I get it, I often daydream about life as a member of the lucky sperm club lol

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                    - **Less Police Presence**. Crime rates drop inordinately as the population decreases, and with that, you see a lot less "boys in blue" - furthermore, because it's usually just a few people, you get to know them and have less anxiety with interactions.

                    That’s not the impression I got from Twin Peaks 🧐

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                    • lennybird@lemmy.worldL [email protected]

                      How small we talking?

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                      Around 2,000 people

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                        Around 2,000 people

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                        Oh wow, yeah, truly small. It depends on your own outlook and how willing you are to assimilate, or if you're okay with being kind of an outcast who sticks to themselves. If for instance you're a young progressive atheist moving to a rural Tennessee town of deeply religious conservatives, yeah that's not going to be fun. Small Vermont ski town? You'll fit right in. Alaskan town? They'll be conservative, sure, but given the weather and isolation, people have a tendency to rely upon each other and that brings the community closer together.

                        I grew up rural just outside a town of about 30,000 that was just transitioning to a formally-designated small city. You could go to the grocery store and not see people you knew 2 out of 3 times, I'd say. It's not always bad. We're social creatures and the internet has gotten us away from that, somewhat detrimentally.

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                          Bar culture is a waste of money anyways.

                          You can get more variety at a cheaper price from grocery stores. It doesn't make sense to pay more money to drink at a bar with people who you're not close enough to visit each other's homes.

                          Anyone who spends $7 on a shot when an entire bottle costs $12 isn't using their brain.

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                          Meeting people at the grocery store: 😰

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                            The slutty farmer’s daughter is usually ugly but always a great lay.

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                            Yeah. She will always be there when nobody responds to your booty call. Sluts are the real friends in your life.

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                            • socsa@piefed.socialS [email protected]

                              The pond gets small really fucking quick. You will run into someone you know almost every time you leave the house. You can't just blend in and get away from anything. Including whatever reputation you develop.

                              It's honestly fucking awful.

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                              Y'know, that's the primary thing people cite as being nice about a small town. Interesting it was a nasty surprise for you.

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                                Meeting people at the grocery store: 😰

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                                Yeah, I'm a pretty cheap person, but I don't go to a bar to save money, I go to relax and socialize.

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                                  Y'know, that's the primary thing people cite as being nice about a small town. Interesting it was a nasty surprise for you.

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                                  He couldn't hide his reputation enough lmao

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                                    Meeting people at the grocery store: 😰

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                                    If you're not living a boring life, then you should naturally come across plenty of different people with plenty of different opportunities to make connections.

                                    "Meeting people at the grocery store" is a lazy and ignorant excuse to justify going to bars. If you think those are your only two options, then you're the problem and I pity anyone who gets caught in your web.

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                                      Y'know, that's the primary thing people cite as being nice about a small town. Interesting it was a nasty surprise for you.

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                                      "Why don't you go to church?" gets tedious after the 14,000th time.

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                                        I'm mostly referring to liquor because it's the most economical way to get drunk.

                                        My local Walmart has a decent selection of beers, but I've been to HEBs that have entire sections devoted to craft beers. It may depend on the grocery store in question.

                                        You can still get a better selection at a cheaper price at liquor stores than bars.

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                                        If you think the only use of a pub is to get drunk then I think you're using them wrong...

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                                          If you're not living a boring life, then you should naturally come across plenty of different people with plenty of different opportunities to make connections.

                                          "Meeting people at the grocery store" is a lazy and ignorant excuse to justify going to bars. If you think those are your only two options, then you're the problem and I pity anyone who gets caught in your web.

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                                          And you don't understand that some people prefer the bar. But I guess you have the only right way to do things.

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