What’s an unspoken rule that absolutely everyone should know, but most people clearly don’t?
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Zipper merging
lol this and bad drivers are the most reposted shit on my cities subreddit. ALWAYS zipper merging and bad drivers.
It’s sad people don’t understand the concept of zipper merging because of their ME FIRST attitude
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Not a significant number, no, but also not zero. No the common refrain is as I said it, with the implication that anyone who doesn't for any reason is a shit human being, and Iono if you know this, but disabled people are part of 'anyone' too. My whole point is that they make blanket statements about a thing that annoys them without realizing that some of those carts are out there for some pretty good reasons actually.
that is such a small edge case that it’s not necessary to talk about them
Did you manage to overlook this point?
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
I have to disagree honestly. So many times someone tells me about some question they're pondering, and when I offer some suggestion about what may be going on or how to fix it, they're like "Why are you talking about something you know nothing about? You don't have to have an opinion."
But am I allowed to? I'm a curious person. If something interesting or strange or problematic is happening in your life, the first thing my brain is going to do is start trying to explain it. So I could keep it to myself, but then since my mind is on something I'm not allowed to talk about, I'm going to sit there and be silent and then they'll be like "What? Do you have any reaction at all or are you going to just sit there in silence?"
And then I pull out my beretta...
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Remember to be kind.
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You stand on the right side of an escalator/moving walkway. You walk on the left side.
It doesn't matter if you have multiple people or luggage, the right is for standing, the left is for walking.
I would add an asterisk there and say this should reflect the driving/roads convention used in the country. Where I live, the driver's seat is on the right side of a car and on escalators most people stand still on the left, letting the right side clear for walking.
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The standard where I work is 9 hr shifts and we get these assholes pretty much every day.
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Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Likewise, "don't talk loudly on your phone in public" is a rule everyone should know, but no one's going to judge you if you're talking loudly on your phone to 911 because you just saw someone get hit by a car.
You can't call the police or an ambulance if you're at the movies!
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Push your chair in after leaving a table at a cafeteria. It blocks the path for people who are carrying trays and may not have a free hand to push it in themselves.
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I would add an asterisk there and say this should reflect the driving/roads convention used in the country. Where I live, the driver's seat is on the right side of a car and on escalators most people stand still on the left, letting the right side clear for walking.
Fair point. Although London threw me for a loop because it appeared to be the same as a right and driving. Be aware of the local customs, and be aware if you are blocking people
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I also hate when people get angry you didn’t follow their advice. Sometimes their advice was horse shit to begin with anyway. Just because someone seeks advice doesn’t mean they’re obligated to follow it. At least in my case, thank God I didn’t.
I had a friend who's latest and greatest dating advice was to go back and hangout at the college I graduated from (at the time already) several years ago.
I thought it was an incredibly disingenuous and creepy suggestion.
Him and his partner were like "it's totally fine..."
Not a single female friend disagreed with me that, that would be very creepy and I absolutely should not do that.
He got mad that I would never listen to his (terrible) dating advice.
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I have to disagree honestly. So many times someone tells me about some question they're pondering, and when I offer some suggestion about what may be going on or how to fix it, they're like "Why are you talking about something you know nothing about? You don't have to have an opinion."
But am I allowed to? I'm a curious person. If something interesting or strange or problematic is happening in your life, the first thing my brain is going to do is start trying to explain it. So I could keep it to myself, but then since my mind is on something I'm not allowed to talk about, I'm going to sit there and be silent and then they'll be like "What? Do you have any reaction at all or are you going to just sit there in silence?"
And then I pull out my beretta...
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I think it's fine to have an opinion, just qualify it with "I've not been in that situation before, but ... I think bla ... because bla."
It's just about being honest.
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When you bring your vehicle to a mechanic, please clean your nasty shit out first. It ain't gotta be totally perfect, but hell, clean your own nasty junk and bug infestation out first.
Side note: Please make sure to properly disable your car alarm before getting your oil changed. I can guarantee you that the guy working in the pit really appreciates his (/her) eardrums, and the pit is a literal echo chamber.
You want a sledgehammer to the bottom of your transmission? Sure, just let your stupid ass car alarm go off in the shop, go ahead and test your luck with the mechanic in the pit that probably already has a migraine..
Edit: 3rd respect for mechanics. Please God don't sit in your vehicle running the air conditioner while waiting for an oil change, oil gets fucking hot yo! Please let your vehicle cool off, there's a damn fine reason they have an air conditioned waiting room.
Why would a car alarm be a problem...?
Every place I've ever been, they take the keys and drive it into the garage to do any work they're doing.
Car alarm should only be relevant if the mechanic locks the car, no?
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Same for elevators!
Those in bigger space should wait on people in smaller space.
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It's the human equivalent of when dogs want you to throw the ball without taking it from their mouth. People need to exit to make room for people to enter.
No disembark! Only board.
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To add to this, last call is last call. Get what you need and finish up. "Oh but you're still open til..." yeah, that's for the people who were here at last call to finish what they got by last call.
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Zipper merging.
If your lane is closing ahead, it is better for everyone in traffic if you drive all the way to the end of the lane and cut in at the last moment.
Note that this does not apply to exit lanes. The basic rule is if late merging blocks someone from going somewhere, merge early. Otherwise, merge as late as you can.
I really can't more strongly disagree with this take.
Zipper merging is to interleave two lanes of traffic when there's one lane of traffic available ahead.
It DOES NOT matter if it's done with 3 feet to merge or 300 feet to merge. There's no efficiency gain.
What does matter is some assholes trying to merge at speed at the last possible second.
The zipper point should not be the point where there's NO ROOM to merge SAFELY without EVERYONE going 3 miles per hour.
The handful of times I've seen a zipper merge actually start to work, someone rushes down to the end of the line where the problem is, nearly causes a second accident trying to get over, and then everything starts moving at a crawl again.
You don't need to zipper merge at the "physical barrier" causing the zipper merge to be necessary.
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Merging early when at speed makes sense, because you still have a lot of lane left before you have to merge - less pressure, more time, less likely to make a bad decision.
Merging late during slow traffic makes sense, as it allows you to align with gaps in the traffic and for the traffic to make space for you without having to actually stop.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]The problem with zipper merges as this person describes them is a zipper merge is SUPPOSED TO get traffic back up to speed. However, when your take on the zipper merge is "up there where the wreck is at the last possible spot I can merge" there's no time for a human to safely merge at speed. So everything has to continue at a crawl.
So the people jumping out of their lane and "zipper merging" at the last second instead of 50 feet out or so end up making things worse for everyone.
The zipper does not and should not be at the point of the physical problem on the road. Just like you should not just drive to the end of the on ramp and at the last possible second merge into the lane on your left without paying attention.
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I’m 6’6” and my knees push against the seat in front of me even when not reclined.
I have a right to be able to travel without you causing me discomfort, and that’s a bit stronger than you having the privilege of getting more comfortable.
If you are the kind of person who asserts this “right” when someone asks you not to, you’re kind of a dick.
Nah homie, I'm also tall. Airplanes are airplanes, book the exit row. Your right to travel comfortably ends with the right to the same for the people around you. If you want more room, pay for the exit row.
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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
I had someone do the same but with fucking AI in my field of expertise
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So many of these are "Don't create obstacles or bottlenecks".
Return your cart, zipper merge, wait for people to get off before you get on, don't block doorways.
Clearly, the truest unspoken rule is "Get out of the way!"
