Calm down
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You are getting sleeeeepy...
the suns getting real low
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The most incendiary 2-word phrase in the English language. Said by anyone to anyone.
It's belittling and aggressive and dismissive and infuriating all at once.
Even saying something as similar as "get a grip!" has a much better chance of success.
Found worse by accident. "Chill". Just, nothing more.
I really have to keep watvh on myself to not use it...it was my default...
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Thats not fair at all, you ever see a dude wanting to fight and you tell him to calm down. I think telling pissed people to cool out just fires them up.
Yeah, the only way that I've found really works is to use "I" statements.
Aiaiai, you need to calm down!
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Listen to the woman John!
Calm down! Just calm down!
I think Abraham Lincoln's head just did that.
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Found worse by accident. "Chill". Just, nothing more.
I really have to keep watvh on myself to not use it...it was my default...
How bout you chill and calm down?
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So use any one of the multitudinous other phrases available in English to actually HELP them become calmer or less agitated. Respond to the facts of the individual situation instead. "He's not worth it." "You're better than this/you have been doing so much better, don't let this set you back." "You're in a bad trip man, gonna have to ride it out as easy as you can." "Chill, dude." "Take a deep breath." (This may be followed by one loud long scream, but that's cathartic and may be followed by rational behavior)
Nobody, no matter how much they need to get control over their emotions and behavior, needs to "calm down".
It's funny how upset some get over the phrase when in fact they really do need to calm down. You need to use some roundabout term for it, "chill", even though it means the same thing.
Interesting thing
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My Anger is Just AND RIGHTEOUS! NOBODY TELLS ME TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN UNTIL I DO!
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My experience is that all upset people love to be told to calm down.
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How bout you chill and calm down?
Would work on me. Trained myself as a teen to not rely on emotions at all. Trauma aside, I do actually step back and rethink if hit with these.
Which really didn't help notice how irritating "chill" is xD
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It’s usually the person who’s screwing you over in the first place who tells you to calm down about it.
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It’s usually the person who’s screwing you over in the first place who tells you to calm down about it.
instead of "calm down" why not say "learn better coping techniques to handle my gaslighting, because it annoys me"
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My Anger is Just AND RIGHTEOUS! NOBODY TELLS ME TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN UNTIL I DO!
Clam down.
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Thats not fair at all, you ever see a dude wanting to fight and you tell him to calm down. I think telling pissed people to cool out just fires them up.
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The most incendiary 2-word phrase in the English language. Said by anyone to anyone.
It's belittling and aggressive and dismissive and infuriating all at once.
Even saying something as similar as "get a grip!" has a much better chance of success.
calm down, it's not that incendiary.
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TIL I am a woman
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I wonder if that would work, like you just start getting mad at them for how half hearted they are about the whole thing. Start saying 'if you are only going to be 10% tough about this shit you should just sit down'
I mean, I'd get madder, but anything but "I'm sorry" or "fuck you this is (and actually is) your fault jackass" is going to make me madder.
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"Pop off, motherfucker, I DARE you!"
*POW*
I keep waiting for one of these drama scenes where someone grabs another dude's gun and points it at their head to end with the guy saying "okay" and pulling the trigger.
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"relax" is one of the banned words I cannot use with my wife. If she was shouting about something and I said the word "relax", it would start a fight probably leading to divorce
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TIL I am a woman
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Happy Pride. Or Wrath as the case may be.
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Happy Pride. Or Wrath as the case may be.
Happy pride! Don't know what wraith is, but it sounds bad ass so thanks for that roo!
