its painful each time (┬┬﹏┬┬)
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Most people aren't ready to jump full force into a friendship like that. If they're your only friend, but you aren't their only friend, you have much more energy and motivation to start/maintain the friendship than they do.
Also fun math fact: For the average person, your friends will have more friends than you do.
i know that but shit.. thanks for reminding me what a loser i am
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This is great advice. I want to add that it helps to have the necessary social skills to make those friends. I highly recommend Dale Carnegie's How to Make Friends and Influence People. It's old and a bit hokey but the advice is solid. It helped me grow from being awkward and largely friendless to awkward with a few friends!
I'm having my daughter read that now. I hate "self-help" books, but that one is essential.
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He might have thought you were romantically interested in him, wasn't interested, and didn't know how to communicate that without being worried he might offend you.
There's this concept of a relationship escalator and everybody rightly shits on how much it fucks things up on the back end of erotic relationships.
But in pretty much every kind of new relationship, whether it's business, friendship, family, or romance, people expect to increase their commitments gradually, in coordination with the other person.
Yes, this means that most people looking to make new friends and lovers expect you to act a little less excited about getting to know them than you actually are.
️Actually, the only way I've been able to make sense of what happened is thinking that he might have been interested in me, correctly sensed I'd never be, and didn't want to be hurt.
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rotting and dying
Well there's your problem
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rotting and dying
Although I know some punk/emo folx who would probably love you
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Well there's your problem
i am the problem. stop psycho analyzing me
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Although I know some punk/emo folx who would probably love you
no thanks i like losers like myself
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Friendships require maintenance and effort.
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Friendships require maintenance and effort.
really? very insightful, didnt know that
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i know that but shit.. thanks for reminding me what a loser i am
No amount of money, friends and other things that can be observed will make you a winner or loser.
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No amount of money, friends and other things that can be observed will make you a winner or loser.
Being a content, happy and confident person makes you not a loser.i know that but shit, thanks for making me feel validated
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Actually, the only way I've been able to make sense of what happened is thinking that he might have been interested in me, correctly sensed I'd never be, and didn't want to be hurt.
Also entirely possible.
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i know that but shit.. thanks for reminding me what a loser i am
You'll get there. Just take it slow and focus on helping yourself
