Minimum dating standards
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We have a TTRPG store, so that'd be a possibility, but my comic store doesn't have meetups afaik and everyone I've seen there my age is Comic Book Guy from The Simpsons.
Huh, are you my brother or something? Family says same, I say she'll figure out I'm not religious pretty fast lmao.
wrote last edited by [email protected]may need to hit multiple stores. if your favorite hang out isn’t promoting their game nights in meet up and such, they are losing out on a valuable marketing possibility. i can only hope that more women see it as a possibility, now that d&d streaming is getting more popular.
also biking is a terrible place to try, everyone’s too busy breathing to talk
buti look in the meetup app for things… too bad it’s a “professional ladder climbing” and “timeshare/market share/pyrmid scheme” app nowadays…
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may need to hit multiple stores. if your favorite hang out isn’t promoting their game nights in meet up and such, they are losing out on a valuable marketing possibility. i can only hope that more women see it as a possibility, now that d&d streaming is getting more popular.
also biking is a terrible place to try, everyone’s too busy breathing to talk
buti look in the meetup app for things… too bad it’s a “professional ladder climbing” and “timeshare/market share/pyrmid scheme” app nowadays…
We only have the one comic store, mycomicshop made sure of that.
Idk if the TTRPG store advertises, but I haven't seen it if so. Maybe I'll just give them a call.
Ahh well sounds like meetup is out for me lol, anything that begins with "install app" is pretty much a no from me dawg, I got grapheneOS and don't want to install the crap I intentionally kicked off my phone lol.
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Never heard of meetup.com, are they privacy invasive? I too do not use facebook or any of that mess (see my previous question haha).
As to your local groups, do you remember how you found any of them? While I may be in a different locale it's possible the same or similar discovery techniques will work for my area.
Meetup.com has been around for years. I think it was founded after 9/11 and the owner was like "what am i doing with my life? i want to meet people". I knew a bunch of people who worked there, and they were always sad that such a good idea wasn't managed better. I go to one local meetup for board games, and I used to go to another one that was just "brooklyn outdoor hangouts".
So far as I know they're not particularly privacy invasive. They make money by charging the people running the meetups, so there's less incentive to screw with the attending users. My friends don't work there anymore though, so I'm not up to date on their latest.
Another vector for finding stuff was location based. Like, looking up places and seeing what they're offering. There's a community center not far from me, so I looked up what kind of stuff they do. They have recreational sports, book clubs, some sort of ballroom dancing class, and more. The local library also does events. I went to a couple of those I found on their website. There are board game cafes near me that do regular events, though you often have to pay so I don't go to them much. Prospect Park (the big park in brooklyn) does some events too, but those seem to be mostly one-off. For making friends and finding partners you want recurring encounters.
I know bars are a cliché, but some do events you can enjoy without drinking booze. One near me does D&D nights in the back. I didn't join but I chatted with them, and they meet on the regular. Trivia nights are popular, though I found that works better if you bring at least one existing friend to get started.
For new york, there are also websites like https://donyc.com/free-events-nyc . I haven't used this much, but a friend swears by it. I don't think it's as good for making new friends, because of a lot of the stuff is like big, impersonal, events. But your local city might have a similar publication.
Less useful for getting started, there's also word of mouth. A friend of mine told me about a local recreational sports league they play in. Someone else told me about a bird watching club that meets in the mornings.
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We only have the one comic store, mycomicshop made sure of that.
Idk if the TTRPG store advertises, but I haven't seen it if so. Maybe I'll just give them a call.
Ahh well sounds like meetup is out for me lol, anything that begins with "install app" is pretty much a no from me dawg, I got grapheneOS and don't want to install the crap I intentionally kicked off my phone lol.
wrote last edited by [email protected]well the meetup app is mainly a portal to the web page. so i would give that a try instead. my warning about the professionals meetups are not to push the idea that you would be catfished or anything, just don’t be surprised that a lot of area meet ups may be for that, but are usually blatant in their posting
we got to be careful. i constantly fall into the trap of hopelessness and kill ideas before their hatched. trying to be better, i think i would make a great partner! i just have to give myself a chance
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Meetup.com has been around for years. I think it was founded after 9/11 and the owner was like "what am i doing with my life? i want to meet people". I knew a bunch of people who worked there, and they were always sad that such a good idea wasn't managed better. I go to one local meetup for board games, and I used to go to another one that was just "brooklyn outdoor hangouts".
So far as I know they're not particularly privacy invasive. They make money by charging the people running the meetups, so there's less incentive to screw with the attending users. My friends don't work there anymore though, so I'm not up to date on their latest.
Another vector for finding stuff was location based. Like, looking up places and seeing what they're offering. There's a community center not far from me, so I looked up what kind of stuff they do. They have recreational sports, book clubs, some sort of ballroom dancing class, and more. The local library also does events. I went to a couple of those I found on their website. There are board game cafes near me that do regular events, though you often have to pay so I don't go to them much. Prospect Park (the big park in brooklyn) does some events too, but those seem to be mostly one-off. For making friends and finding partners you want recurring encounters.
I know bars are a cliché, but some do events you can enjoy without drinking booze. One near me does D&D nights in the back. I didn't join but I chatted with them, and they meet on the regular. Trivia nights are popular, though I found that works better if you bring at least one existing friend to get started.
For new york, there are also websites like https://donyc.com/free-events-nyc . I haven't used this much, but a friend swears by it. I don't think it's as good for making new friends, because of a lot of the stuff is like big, impersonal, events. But your local city might have a similar publication.
Less useful for getting started, there's also word of mouth. A friend of mine told me about a local recreational sports league they play in. Someone else told me about a bird watching club that meets in the mornings.
Cool thanks! This could be helpful, I'll check it out!
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Your cuntry boy
I didn't write these rules. They are imposed
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Last time I met up with friends in a park, we were interrupted by the cops because you apparently have to pay the city to use the picnic table now.
Here you CAN reserve the covered picnic tables for parties, but they put up a sign that says "reserved" on the ones that are, and only the covered ones can be, there are still lots of benches and tables.
So, like, if you were sitting at one someone did pay for they could ask you to move, but it wouldn't involve the police.
I love the park here that is run by the city, not the county. There are always men playing soccer, people having parties with music, and on Wed evening there is a group of high rolling Pokemon go players there for Raid day, go play with them and you cannot lose, it's great. And when it floods in the summer it is gorgeous.
Parks are "third spaces" for sure.
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Here you CAN reserve the covered picnic tables for parties, but they put up a sign that says "reserved" on the ones that are, and only the covered ones can be, there are still lots of benches and tables.
So, like, if you were sitting at one someone did pay for they could ask you to move, but it wouldn't involve the police.
I love the park here that is run by the city, not the county. There are always men playing soccer, people having parties with music, and on Wed evening there is a group of high rolling Pokemon go players there for Raid day, go play with them and you cannot lose, it's great. And when it floods in the summer it is gorgeous.
Parks are "third spaces" for sure.
I think it depends on the city. This particular instance was in a city-owned park, but it's got water access and there's a ton of luxury apartments around. I suspect one of the rich fucks called the cops on us because they do have a really nasty habit of thinking that public park should be their private playground. They tried to ban the playing of Pokemon Go just because it brought too many people to the park for water types, and it was making the richies feel "unsafe" with so many "potential criminals" running around.
Cops are often wrong about the law, and it probably didn't actually require a reservation, but if they say need to move and you don't, you can get arrested and hang out in jail for a while until the charges get dropped for being bogus.
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I think it depends on the city. This particular instance was in a city-owned park, but it's got water access and there's a ton of luxury apartments around. I suspect one of the rich fucks called the cops on us because they do have a really nasty habit of thinking that public park should be their private playground. They tried to ban the playing of Pokemon Go just because it brought too many people to the park for water types, and it was making the richies feel "unsafe" with so many "potential criminals" running around.
Cops are often wrong about the law, and it probably didn't actually require a reservation, but if they say need to move and you don't, you can get arrested and hang out in jail for a while until the charges get dropped for being bogus.
Aargh what fuckers. If the park is public, it is for us to use. Wasting police time too.
If you are feeling up to it, complain to the city government. Tax money pays for these spaces and you pay taxes.
