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What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?

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    i guess I didn't explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

    your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources? If you want to make prinitive pottery that is cheap and a great hobby to be interested in. many other interest are more expensive. There is a reason boat owners call them 'a hole in the water you pour money in' - boats are also a fine hobby but if your success includes a boat you need more resources.

    i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck. There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn't leave you. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

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    i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

    your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources?

    I'm sorry, I'm not going to divulge my personal financial details on the open internet. Why does this number matter to our discussion? I appreciate if you're trying to offer financial or life planning advice. I don't think I'm in need, but I appreciate your concern.

    I'll say this. On this chart, I believe I am past the fourth level (Esteem) and working on number 5 (self actualization).

    there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck.

    Getting the job initially is a whole series of lucky events sometimes decades in the making.

    There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you.

    Not only do you have do work hard on keeping relationships (this is part of the 25% I was talking about) you have to live to enjoy it. Further, your mate has to live and there's all kinds of things that can happen to them through no fault of their own (this is part of the 75% luck I was talking about earlier).

    i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

    There is a tiny tiny fraction you can do to keep/improve your health vs the vast majority of the things in this world trying to kill you or make you sick/injured. I'd change the percentages on this even further: 10% in your control to 90% luck.

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      I learned a great mashed potato technique from a nurse in a care place for children:

      Nuke a potato like you're baking it. Then cut it in half, spoon it out of the skin, add butter, salt and milk and smoosh with a fork. Re-nuke a little if it gets too cooled down. Faster than boiling, and it tastes better because you don't pour flavor-filled cooking water down the drain. Also no pot to wash!

      The nurse did this for a single serving for a kid, but it's how I make any amount of mashed potatoes now.

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      Oooh good point about keeping the taste bymicrowaving them instead of boiling. Not having to use a pot is also great.

      Personally I dont even bother to remove the peel, my potato masher handles them just fine and I don't mind them in my food.

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        I learned a great mashed potato technique from a nurse in a care place for children:

        Nuke a potato like you're baking it. Then cut it in half, spoon it out of the skin, add butter, salt and milk and smoosh with a fork. Re-nuke a little if it gets too cooled down. Faster than boiling, and it tastes better because you don't pour flavor-filled cooking water down the drain. Also no pot to wash!

        The nurse did this for a single serving for a kid, but it's how I make any amount of mashed potatoes now.

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        What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.

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        • meekah@lemmy.worldM [email protected]

          Love me some mashes taters.

          Get the right kind and they basically can't overcook. I just put mine on the stove at 5pm and just do other stuff until I'm hungry, at which point I just drain the water, add butter, pepper and nutmeg and mash the potatos in about 5 minutes lol. We also get frozen creamed spinach in kind of a pellet form so that its easy to dose, throw some of that in the microwave and it's actually a solid meal. Even more so when you start playing with other things to add. I like to put some cheese in the mashed potatoes as well, especially fresh Parmesan, but I also tried adding some leftover beef stock today which was delicious. Seasoning the spinach with a little bit of nutmeg and pepper also goes a long way.

          Sorry, somehow I produced a wall of text there. Thanks for coming to my ted talk or something

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          Wholegrain mustard is also a great addition to mash. Does very well as a side to beef.

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          • K [email protected]

            For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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            That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.

            We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.

            Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.

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              Except that he thought the problem was not enough eugenics instead of a conspiracy to return the people to that state of ignorance

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              Fair enough. But the end result is the same haha.

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                That "adults" are just kids that got older. Same goes for "old people". Everyone was once a 14 year old. There is no dividing line where you suddenly become an adult, and there is no dividing line between being an adult and being old.

                We're all born, and we live a life of days, months years, decades... it's just you and your one, single life. You're always going to be you.

                Make this one life count. Don't wait. Don't procrastinate. Make shit happen. You'll regret it if you don't.

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                If more people realized this, life would be a lot more simple. I never grew up. I just got older.

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                  Shower sex.

                  In the movies it looks so hot, but in reality, you've got a eyes and mouth full of soap and your freezing. 2/10

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                  You are doing it wrong.

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                    i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

                    your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources?

                    I'm sorry, I'm not going to divulge my personal financial details on the open internet. Why does this number matter to our discussion? I appreciate if you're trying to offer financial or life planning advice. I don't think I'm in need, but I appreciate your concern.

                    I'll say this. On this chart, I believe I am past the fourth level (Esteem) and working on number 5 (self actualization).

                    there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck.

                    Getting the job initially is a whole series of lucky events sometimes decades in the making.

                    There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you.

                    Not only do you have do work hard on keeping relationships (this is part of the 25% I was talking about) you have to live to enjoy it. Further, your mate has to live and there's all kinds of things that can happen to them through no fault of their own (this is part of the 75% luck I was talking about earlier).

                    i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

                    There is a tiny tiny fraction you can do to keep/improve your health vs the vast majority of the things in this world trying to kill you or make you sick/injured. I'd change the percentages on this even further: 10% in your control to 90% luck.

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                    I don't mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don't make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

                    i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don't always agree)

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                      Nobody gives a single shit about you.

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                      It’s true I give a multiple shit about you

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                      • obinice@lemmy.worldO [email protected]

                        Nobody cares. You're homeless? Nobody cares. You just got dumped? Nobody cares. You're sick? Nobody cares. You're struggling? Nobody cares.

                        Sure you might have some friends who care in a very superficial way, but when the going gets tough, everybody leaves.

                        There's just no hope, and you're on your own.

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                        You need better friends, but I don’t want to discount your feelings sometimes it is that way, and I’m sorry for it, but there are good people out there

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                          I don't mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don't make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

                          i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don't always agree)

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                          I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria.

                          Gotcha, I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. My apologies for misunderstanding your question.

                          if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

                          All of those examples assume you're starting from a reasonably high baseline of stability, mental & physical health, resources, and likely education. My point is that you can't assume those things. Lots and lots of people aren't even lucky enough to have that starting baseline to even start working toward any of those achievements in your examples.

                          That's why I said that my particular personal goals are irrelevant, but where I've gotten most would look at and define it as successful, and that I recognize that so many points on that path I was lucky to have the "upside" outcome rather than the "downside" outcome which would have left me far less successful, or at worst, dead. It really doesn't take many of the inflection points in our lives to not go our way for us to be knocked way down or knocked out entirely. I am very lucky that hasn't been my fate.

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                            Shower sex.

                            In the movies it looks so hot, but in reality, you've got a eyes and mouth full of soap and your freezing. 2/10

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                            You start in the shower. Wash yourselves, wash each other, tease a little, then dry off, get into a clean bed and have at it. Standing sex in the shower is mediocre at best.

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                              What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.

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                              Microwaving at full power for whatever time feels right

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                                For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                I never became adult

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                                  What does nuking a potato mean? Unfamiliar with the slang.

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                                  Microwave

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                                    For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                    Life is only shades of gray it’s not a marvel movie with clear cut Good and Bad

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                                      For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i'm just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.

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                                      Every single thing anyone says or does is in self-interest.

                                      Like, I have almost never witnessed anything contrary to it.

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                                        I never became adult

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                                        "You're only young once, but you can be immature forever."

                                        Tony Perkins to Billy Dee Williams in "Mahogany." Heard that line years ago.

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                                          How easy and fast it is to cook good food. My mom acted like making real mashed potatoes was sooo difficult.

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                                          I saw someone comment that they 'couldn't cook.' I wanted to [metaphorically] slap them.

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