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For me, I would say that the magnitude of my attraction is roughly 50/50, but qualitatively, the attraction I feel towards a man is distinct from what I feel towards women.
A significant aspect that plays a role is also how I present to the world. From my appearance, most people would conclude that I am LGBTQ, and that usually means assuming I'm gay. This is useful because any bisexual's dating pool is biased towards opposite sex partners; if I want to find gay or bisexual (or pansexual or asexual) women to date, it's strategically useful to wear my sexuality on my sleeve, so to speak. This has the helpful side effects of filtering out the kind of straight asshole who says "why would you shave your hair like that? You might get more male attention if you made yourself look pretty"
Sexuality is messy. The attraction I feel is pretty equal. How the world perceives me is more gay than straight (because the world likes to pretend that bisexuality doesn't exist, and then act like I'm changing my mind when I "switch from being gay to straight" or vice versa (/facepalm). In terms of who I actually date or hook up with, the balance is probably skewed towards men. These three components (attraction, outward identification/presentation and behaviour) make sexuality complex, especially for bisexual people; I would wager that there are many people who identify as straight and have had no same sex relationships, but who experience some level of same-sex attraction. It also gets more complex when one considers that many people experience sexual attraction and romantic attraction differently. For example, I have a friend who is asexual, but homoromantic.
You might find it interesting to read about the Kinsey scale, which looks at sexuality as a spectrum, with exclusively [homosexual/heterosexual] on the extreme ends of the scale, and degrees of bisexuality between them.
I once dated this bisexual girl and she was like "if you’re hot I don’t care if you’re male or female" and that’s how I see it.
Then again, men think that a gay man immediately wants to have sex with them. Society is stupid sometimes
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your anecdotes about a bisexual person you know are worthless. worthless!
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Me to me
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I once dated this bisexual girl and she was like "if you’re hot I don’t care if you’re male or female" and that’s how I see it.
Then again, men think that a gay man immediately wants to have sex with them. Society is stupid sometimes
I've also seen that kind of homophobia amongst straight girls and women, though it manifests somewhat differently. The most uncomfortable thing about same-sex changing rooms as a person who experiences same-sex attraction isn't actually the attraction (because checking out people in that context would be weird, regardless of gender or sexuality), but people who treat you like a predator because you're queer.
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Two bisexual friends have independently told me from their own experiences that "bisexual" mostly = "gay with a dash of hetero," effectively, and that it's not at all 50/50. I wonder how true that is for the rest of the world.
It's a slider that is slid somewhere between 100% straight and 100% gay.
Every bi person is somewhere in between, and it's nobody's business to delegitimize that
For me it's like 70% i lean twoards women, but there are some men i see that really get me going lol.
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I kinda am into the theory we all are bi to a degree. Sexuality is a spectrum like autism.
Some people are definitely 100% gay, and some and definitely 100% straight, but I agree in that I think the majority of people could potentially be attracted to people of all genders.
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Not remotely true at all. Shit dumb people say.
Um, I personally know these people and they weren't trolling... Someone having a different experience than you doesn't automatically make them dumb, geez.
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It's not as simple as that at all. Sexuality is a spectrum, it's fluid, you're not always born with it, and there are social factors at play. In some societies bi people live straight lives due to social pressure. On top of that, many bi guys often have more sex with guys because it's easier and carries no risk of pregnancy. So yeah, your friend is just discriminating against bisexual people.
*friends (2 guys), and idk about them being discriminating because at least one of them is quite open and nonjudgmental. That's the whole point of why I shared, to find out how accurate or inaccurate their sentiment is. We don't have to suddenly attack them by saying they're discriminating just because their experience isn't universal (which I now know is the case, thanks to everyone here)...
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Um, I personally know these people and they weren't trolling... Someone having a different experience than you doesn't automatically make them dumb, geez.
Read again.
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*friends (2 guys), and idk about them being discriminating because at least one of them is quite open and nonjudgmental. That's the whole point of why I shared, to find out how accurate or inaccurate their sentiment is. We don't have to suddenly attack them by saying they're discriminating just because their experience isn't universal (which I now know is the case, thanks to everyone here)...
It's still a kind of discrimination when you can't imagine other people like you to be different than you. It's totally fine for them to be 80-20 gay-straight but when you make blanket statements like "as a bi, I can tell you most bi guys are actually gay" that is hurtful discrimination.
