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    Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

    Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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      Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

      Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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      I self-censor all the time in new/mixed company.

      As an example I’ve developed a way of vocalizing to imply “fuck” without actually saying fuck and follow it with an “excuse my language” to gauge whether those present are ok or offended by it and then proceed as appropriate.

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        Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

        Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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        Literally all the time. It depends on where I am and what company I am in. I wouldn't be swearing the way I usually do with friends and online if I was in a work meeting, talking to customers, or at some kind of church/church function for whatever reason.

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          Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

          Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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          Well, yeah. It's sometimes referred to as 'tact'.

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            Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

            Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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            You have to self censor on Lemmy all the time. It's pretty gay.

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              Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

              Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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              You mean like that one time when I [redacted]?

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                Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                Everyone does, often unconsciously. You know nothing good will come out of mentioning something in present company, so you don't.

                You don't bring up politics while that weird uncle is visiting for Thanksgiving. You don't bring up stuff you know will upset your friend. You answer "I don't know" when a cop asks you if you know why you got pulled over. There's endless situations where you know it's best not to say anything, and a few where you quickly learn not to say anything next time.

                Life would be very difficult and cumbersome if you didn't self-censor to at least some extent.

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                  Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                  Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                  Before I answer: What's the difference between self-censorship and tact? Because

                  deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities... of others

                  sounds like basic manners to me.

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                    Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                    Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                    yes.

                    I have shared to my boss before how I thought they could improve team morale and boost productivity in a constructive language.

                    instead of:

                    you worthless micromanaging piece of shit. get the fuck out of our way so we can do the god damn job you fucking hired us to do. Jesus fucking Christ! Do you even realize how detrimental you are to your own success? Do you hear yourself and think, "I'm doing a great job!" You suck! You suck! You hack! You suck!

                    edit: I still have my job today, and they...do not.

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                      Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                      Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                      All the time

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                        Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                        Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                        Yes, especially on Lemmy, I have a genuine thought I can relate to a conversation I type it up and before I hit send, I know my autistic ass will get dog piled and I don't have enough energy to deal with that level of noise, so I delete the comment

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                          Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                          Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                          "I don't remember if thats classified or not"

                          "Holy shit im arguing with toddlers why am I like this? There's no way this is worth my time"

                          "Am i actually accomplishing anything by pissing in this persons cornflakes about a topic that doesnt really matter just because im right?"

                          Common reasons I self censor. Half the time im amused by and enjoy engaging with the faceless void of people and chatbots that make up the anonymous internet, half the time im just overwhelmingly exhausted with it

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                            Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                            Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                            On lemmy? Every day.

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                              Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                              Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                              On Lemmy? All the time.
                              In real life? Also all the time.

                              Always in the same way. I want to say something that would be hugely unpopular so I replace it with a softer phrasing - like not revealing all the elements of my opinion, or making it sound more similar to the majority opinion while keeping the core intact.

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                                Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                                Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                                Neurodivergent do it all the time because the truth is not casually dropped in conversations.

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                                  Everyone does, often unconsciously. You know nothing good will come out of mentioning something in present company, so you don't.

                                  You don't bring up politics while that weird uncle is visiting for Thanksgiving. You don't bring up stuff you know will upset your friend. You answer "I don't know" when a cop asks you if you know why you got pulled over. There's endless situations where you know it's best not to say anything, and a few where you quickly learn not to say anything next time.

                                  Life would be very difficult and cumbersome if you didn't self-censor to at least some extent.

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                                  Is there a difference between self censoring and "having a filter"?

                                  Like, I usually don't say the first thought that comes to mind.

                                  I have to think, often unconsciously like you mentioned, will the next thing I say:

                                  • be stupid (protect my ego)
                                  • be rude (preserving the dignity of others)
                                  • be incriminating (will I get into shit if an authority figure reads/hears it)

                                  I guess self censorship is just that last one? If something I say can later be reprimanded by the law, my boss, or even a moderator, I'd rather just shut the fuck up.

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                                    Is there a difference between self censoring and "having a filter"?

                                    Like, I usually don't say the first thought that comes to mind.

                                    I have to think, often unconsciously like you mentioned, will the next thing I say:

                                    • be stupid (protect my ego)
                                    • be rude (preserving the dignity of others)
                                    • be incriminating (will I get into shit if an authority figure reads/hears it)

                                    I guess self censorship is just that last one? If something I say can later be reprimanded by the law, my boss, or even a moderator, I'd rather just shut the fuck up.

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                                    I'd say the only difference is that when you "have a filter" you may reword the statement before uttering it, but when you self censor you omit the statement altogether.

                                    It certainly doesn't need to be incriminating. A lot of discourse about self censorship discusses how young people often don't express their opinions online, because they don't want to get into some drawn-out discussion which ultimately results in everyone still maintaining the same opinions. It's a waste of time and not good for your mental health. In that scenario the self-censorship is not about avoiding incriminating yourself, but about not triggering some situation you don't want to be in.

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                                      Yes, especially on Lemmy, I have a genuine thought I can relate to a conversation I type it up and before I hit send, I know my autistic ass will get dog piled and I don't have enough energy to deal with that level of noise, so I delete the comment

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                                      I've since totally block any community here within spitting distance of politics, it's been alot better since. Sure, I still argue with people, but it's the same 3/4 people so it's far more manageable. Like a shouty version of the cheers bar.

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                                        Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                                        Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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                                        I'm a queer socialist in Bavaria, go figure

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                                          Context: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-censorship

                                          Self-censorship is the act of censoring or classifying one's own discourse, typically out of fear or deference to the perceived preferences, sensibilities, or infallibility of others, and often without overt external pressure.

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