We really don't want to talk about our problems
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No? It's the fault of all genders. Men perpetuate ideas that hurt other men, and women perpetuate ideas that hurt other women. Vice versa is equally true.
Im sure. So hard to hear men have it so uniquely rough.
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Therepy - costs money, needs an appointment, takes time to work out issues.
Lost at sea - free, no appointment necessary, immediate relief from the burden of living under capitalism
But the ocean wants to kill you... (can't blame oceans for wanting to kill humans but it is not your fault..). Therapy can be obtained in many different ways. I think maybe going to a therapist is for people who need motivation to care for themselves, need help starting to be healthy, compassionate and forgiving to themselves and get some coaching to find good ways to get there. We sometimes are in a place too low to help ourselves and need some help, a hand... guidance, encouragement and reinforcement that we are worth the trouble and energy.
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Just get a project car. It costs money too, but you have a getaway from life, just go to your garage. And the end result is a cool car.
I ask myself spicier questions than the therapist ever will anyway. I haven't gotten a project car though, that's too much therapy. My mind already wanders far enough in any situation.
OMG that made me think of that episode in King of the Hill where Luann had to retreat into taking care of the pool when she was in an untenable roommate situation...
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men built society. whatever problems are inherent in it were practically designed by men. as a matter of fact, the further we go, the more we slip away from the feminine qualities of our humanity (our more egalitarian hunter-gatherer roots). and as it begins to collapse around us, you incels are gonna cry about how it's unfair? fuck you. put your big boy pants on and deal with it. or better yet, retreat completely from it and let the people with honest consciences rebuild it.
god, i fucking hate incels.
This is a rather bizarre response to come up with. First I am not an incel, that's a right wing ideology I don't subscribe to. I mean some of the concepts they use don't even make sense statistically - like they are logically impossible. I digress.
Women make up more than half the population. Sexism wouldn't have been as big of a problem and still wouldn't be as big of a problem if women didn't perpetuate it too. Just look at the trad wife movement or modern women who despise feminism, or like any women's beauty standards, or the whole thing about matching outfits, etc. All of these are forms of sexism that men just don't engage in to nearly the extent women do. Purity tests for butch lesbians and trans girls is another one. At least you can argue that men also do that, but they aren't the ones kicking women out of bathrooms.
Absolutely toxic masculinity is a problem largeley caused by men, but that's not the fault of the individual. Like I didn't decide that boys don't cry. Plenty of women too help perpetuate and reinforce these ideas by doing things like breaking up with men who show any vulnerability. There is a reason why gay men are better at this.
As for the whole thing of slipping further away from feminine qualities - you do know not all past societies were more feminine, right? Have you heard of ancient Greece? You do realize feminism has made large strides at addressing much of these issues? Like this all used to be much worse, things have been progressively changing for the better and still are in most places. It's only the USA that seems to have taken a nosedive recently. Even that is a push back against broader change.
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Im sure. So hard to hear men have it so uniquely rough.
No one is saying women don't have it rough. The difference is one gender is being pushed out of society, the other is being pushed under it. Men are basically encouraged to give up and go away, maybe commit suicide or go fight in a war. Women are encouraged to find a "man" and become some tradwife who has no agency. Neither is a good thing, but don't pretend they aren't different.
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therapy also teaches a lot of sociopathic traits.
my SIL went through therapy recently (after getting into a weird polygamous relationship which allowed her the $$ to do so). she and my wife had lived through a pretty traumatic upbringing after their wonderful father died and left them to deal with a BPD mother who blew through the family money and left them to practically fend for themselves while being batshit crazy.
all the therapist taught her was to be selfish. she practically cut off contact with both her sister and mother and just got really good at doing what was best for herself and herself only. since then, her mother has become disabled and now my wife is having to deal with it all alone while the sister lives a very lavish life on a farm.
fuck therapy and fuck modern life in general. no wonder we're all becoming assholes.
If the mother is so bad and abusive then why is your wife helping her? I think the sister did the right thing here. The state has mechanisms to take care of the elderly for good reasons.
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No one is saying women don't have it rough. The difference is one gender is being pushed out of society, the other is being pushed under it. Men are basically encouraged to give up and go away, maybe commit suicide or go fight in a war. Women are encouraged to find a "man" and become some tradwife who has no agency. Neither is a good thing, but don't pretend they aren't different.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Non heteronormative women are absolutely encouraged to die.
5150 holds (local code, idk how local) are like a rite of passage.
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Non heteronormative women are absolutely encouraged to die.
5150 holds (local code, idk how local) are like a rite of passage.
I hadn't considered that. I can't say I know much of the struggles of lesbians.
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I hadn't considered that. I can't say I know much of the struggles of lesbians.
Also, heteronormative women are only valued for how they can, potentially, make more men. The platonic ideal is kept pregnant and comatose so it doesn't talk.
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Agreed. It’s more like “people would rather be lost at sea than live in a modern society”.
To be fair we were breed to be lost at sea/forest/steppe, not live in a modern society. Like that's our natural place to live and die, not a city.
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1.8/10 on IMDB
So even with bots it's only 1.8...
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You can just do that. No one is stopping you from buying a canoe and floating away
A cursory glance implies a decent canoe starts at $2000, so my bank account is stopping me, at bare minimum
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The environment we created for ourselves takes advantage of our evolution and uses our biology against us.
Food is drowned in sugar to get us addicted.
Social media is designed to keep us angry and upset.
Entertainment is a recycled polished turd, designed to take no risks and challenge nothing and leave us only with shallow amusement.We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
We have made a world of numbing poison for ourselves. A 29 day separation sounds like the most powerful “therapy” we could have tbh.
Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:
We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.
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the unexamined life is not worth living
That's snappy. You should put it on a coffee mug.
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I hate how I understand this.
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Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:
We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Thanks stranger.
I think a lot about daily life and the systems we’ve built and the way people treat each other and think about existence, and how we’ve changed and over time… or haven’t.
We’re advancing so much faster than we’re evolving.
I think that’s causing problems
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I hate this 'weak men' bullshit, sure some fit the popular definition, but do you know their pasts? Their trauma? The reason they fit such a description? I'd say it's pretty damn difficult to know these about anyone you never actually talk to.
Also, sometimes escapism works in favour of people and gets them to put their lives back together, although it can also cause negative changes as well, although it's not guaranteed. It's not a maturity or immaturity thing, it's just an act.
You have to be kidding, men don't have trauma. If they do they're weak.
Wait..
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I have a great therapist these days who has helped me a lot. I still hate therapy. I did finally figure out why, though. Because, with the exception of therapy and a couple of really great people, everyone I've ever been vulnerable in front of has weaponized it against me. So even though I know my therapist wouldn't actually do that I'm still waiting on it to come back and bite me.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]See but I had a psychiatrist as a kid that would literally report what I said to my mother (and not like harming others or myself like is legally required, just like, shit that I said I didn't like about my mom and then he'd tell her and she'd punish me about it.) Legally, he was allowed to do that since I was a child, I'm not now and so legally they can't even if they had her phone number, but now I can't trust them even if that distrust is slightly illogical. Double distrust due to incentive to make me return and keep paying, but y'know the childhood "trauma" (if you can call it that) of having it weaponized against me using the therapist is still there on that one too.
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Yes I would, I hate therapy.
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did he have a volleyball with him.
