We really don't want to talk about our problems
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Im sure. So hard to hear men have it so uniquely rough.
No one is saying women don't have it rough. The difference is one gender is being pushed out of society, the other is being pushed under it. Men are basically encouraged to give up and go away, maybe commit suicide or go fight in a war. Women are encouraged to find a "man" and become some tradwife who has no agency. Neither is a good thing, but don't pretend they aren't different.
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therapy also teaches a lot of sociopathic traits.
my SIL went through therapy recently (after getting into a weird polygamous relationship which allowed her the $$ to do so). she and my wife had lived through a pretty traumatic upbringing after their wonderful father died and left them to deal with a BPD mother who blew through the family money and left them to practically fend for themselves while being batshit crazy.
all the therapist taught her was to be selfish. she practically cut off contact with both her sister and mother and just got really good at doing what was best for herself and herself only. since then, her mother has become disabled and now my wife is having to deal with it all alone while the sister lives a very lavish life on a farm.
fuck therapy and fuck modern life in general. no wonder we're all becoming assholes.
If the mother is so bad and abusive then why is your wife helping her? I think the sister did the right thing here. The state has mechanisms to take care of the elderly for good reasons.
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No one is saying women don't have it rough. The difference is one gender is being pushed out of society, the other is being pushed under it. Men are basically encouraged to give up and go away, maybe commit suicide or go fight in a war. Women are encouraged to find a "man" and become some tradwife who has no agency. Neither is a good thing, but don't pretend they aren't different.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Non heteronormative women are absolutely encouraged to die.
5150 holds (local code, idk how local) are like a rite of passage.
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Non heteronormative women are absolutely encouraged to die.
5150 holds (local code, idk how local) are like a rite of passage.
I hadn't considered that. I can't say I know much of the struggles of lesbians.
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I hadn't considered that. I can't say I know much of the struggles of lesbians.
Also, heteronormative women are only valued for how they can, potentially, make more men. The platonic ideal is kept pregnant and comatose so it doesn't talk.
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Agreed. It’s more like “people would rather be lost at sea than live in a modern society”.
To be fair we were breed to be lost at sea/forest/steppe, not live in a modern society. Like that's our natural place to live and die, not a city.
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1.8/10 on IMDB
So even with bots it's only 1.8...
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You can just do that. No one is stopping you from buying a canoe and floating away
A cursory glance implies a decent canoe starts at $2000, so my bank account is stopping me, at bare minimum
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The environment we created for ourselves takes advantage of our evolution and uses our biology against us.
Food is drowned in sugar to get us addicted.
Social media is designed to keep us angry and upset.
Entertainment is a recycled polished turd, designed to take no risks and challenge nothing and leave us only with shallow amusement.We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
We have made a world of numbing poison for ourselves. A 29 day separation sounds like the most powerful “therapy” we could have tbh.
Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:
We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.
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the unexamined life is not worth living
That's snappy. You should put it on a coffee mug.
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I hate how I understand this.
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Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:
We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.
is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Thanks stranger.
I think a lot about daily life and the systems we’ve built and the way people treat each other and think about existence, and how we’ve changed and over time… or haven’t.
We’re advancing so much faster than we’re evolving.
I think that’s causing problems
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I hate this 'weak men' bullshit, sure some fit the popular definition, but do you know their pasts? Their trauma? The reason they fit such a description? I'd say it's pretty damn difficult to know these about anyone you never actually talk to.
Also, sometimes escapism works in favour of people and gets them to put their lives back together, although it can also cause negative changes as well, although it's not guaranteed. It's not a maturity or immaturity thing, it's just an act.
You have to be kidding, men don't have trauma. If they do they're weak.
Wait..
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I have a great therapist these days who has helped me a lot. I still hate therapy. I did finally figure out why, though. Because, with the exception of therapy and a couple of really great people, everyone I've ever been vulnerable in front of has weaponized it against me. So even though I know my therapist wouldn't actually do that I'm still waiting on it to come back and bite me.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]See but I had a psychiatrist as a kid that would literally report what I said to my mother (and not like harming others or myself like is legally required, just like, shit that I said I didn't like about my mom and then he'd tell her and she'd punish me about it.) Legally, he was allowed to do that since I was a child, I'm not now and so legally they can't even if they had her phone number, but now I can't trust them even if that distrust is slightly illogical. Double distrust due to incentive to make me return and keep paying, but y'know the childhood "trauma" (if you can call it that) of having it weaponized against me using the therapist is still there on that one too.
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Yes I would, I hate therapy.
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did he have a volleyball with him.
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See but I had a psychiatrist as a kid that would literally report what I said to my mother (and not like harming others or myself like is legally required, just like, shit that I said I didn't like about my mom and then he'd tell her and she'd punish me about it.) Legally, he was allowed to do that since I was a child, I'm not now and so legally they can't even if they had her phone number, but now I can't trust them even if that distrust is slightly illogical. Double distrust due to incentive to make me return and keep paying, but y'know the childhood "trauma" (if you can call it that) of having it weaponized against me using the therapist is still there on that one too.
Reminds me of the plot line in early seasons of Mad Men where Betty would go to a shrink, then later that night Don would call the doc to see what all Betty said.
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To be fair we were breed to be lost at sea/forest/steppe, not live in a modern society. Like that's our natural place to live and die, not a city.
We’re not homo naledi. We’ve been living in increasingly modern societies forever, and definitely long enough for it to be more natural to us as a species than shitting in bushes and dying of dysentery.
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29 days "lost" at sea, is therapy for all of the external bullshit we deal with every fucking day.
By "we" I mean people in society, not just men. Everyone struggles with making their way in "this world" we built for ourselves. We made it to be this horrible.
When I was deployed it was nice, I didn't have bullshit to worry about. I did my job, I ate, I took shits, and I slept.
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I don't know many people that can afford a 29 day vacation (I'm in the US, and yes I'm jealous of what I hear about European benefits)
wrote on last edited by [email protected]I was mostly joking
But also here I am with 35 paid vacation days (I also have maybe 13 paid days of parental leave left, which was initially 210 days, per child).10/10 would recommend being born here.
