When do you finally calm down after buying a house?
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
It goes away, I spent ~11 months doing a complete DIY remodel after my partner and I closed so that whole year was stressful, but now that we're moved in it really ain't that bad.
Chill, you'll feel better soon
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a bill for several hundred dollars
After a few years I was able to sell it to someone else as their starter home, and use the equity I built
What boomer bullshit is this. Its 2025 you have got to be dreaming.
wrote on last edited by [email protected]Huh? I bought my first house in 2020. It was $200,000 for a run-down house in a bad part of Minneapolis. It was my first home, so I could use the first-time home buyer benefit to only need $10,000 for the down payment, which I had built up over a few years of saving. While in the house, fixing my garage door when it broke was $250, and repairing my AC and Furnace each time they broke was $300-500. Stuff that was bigger than that was covered by insurance. I fixed everything else myself, however poorly. The money I got for selling the house in 2023 for $230,000 was enough to afford the down payment on the next place after paying back my first mortgage and the realtor fees.
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When you're tired from work but you've still got to clean the whole thing to 'protect your investment'.
Also because it's nice to live somewhere clean and tidy?
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What's that sound? Is it supposed to make it? Did it make it before? Is that wet? Why is it wet? That bug is new, haven't seen one like that. Electric bill is higher this month. Got the escrow statement; it went up again. That crack... Seems longer. Door squeaks again. Was the drain recessed like that? Are you sure? That's loose, should probably do something about it. Gotta run to the hardware store. They're backordered on that thing that melted in the fire. The AC is dripping again. Is the water pressure lower than usual? What's that smell? Is it coming from under there? Why is the milk spoiled? Is the fridge warm to you? Grass is long again. Sprinkler got run over by a neighbor. We need to do something about the dead tree.
Literally things said at my house IN THE LAST THREE WEEKS. Holy shit why.
Gotta love having an old house. It's simultaneously reassuring and deeply stressful when a professional looks at something that seems really bad and just says, "Well, I can tell from the layers of paint that's been there a long time. So if it hasn't become a problem in all that time, it's probably fine. But give me a call if your house starts falling apart."
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I fixed most of the rainwater drainage issues 2 years ago and I STILL check the basement for leaks every time it rains. Homeownership is a constant battle against water and water is one sneaky bastard.
Water is entropy manifest to constantly remind you that anything you do is temporary and laughably futile on geologic timescales.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
Everything you're feeling is normal. Stay optimistic. We were in your shoes not that long ago and went through the same thing. Keep breathing, deep breaths, maybe take up some breath focused meditation for 15-20 mins a day. Or even some yoga can calm your nervous system. There will be unexpected setbacks but you're going to work through it all and come out the other side just fine. Personally, I've had to redirect my attention to just tackling one thing at a time and keep plugging away so I don't get overwhelmed with the magnitude of all the issues together.
How does one eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
Our house has a partial park view. It's nice. And, in about 3 years we'll have a full park view because the pipeline running through the city is undermining the foundation of every house in the neighborhood and we're all slowly sliding into the park.
But you're going to be fine...
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About 2 year mark things start to fall in place at year 4 it will truly feel like home. It's
It is what?
I'm dying here with anticipation.
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My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.
I know buying a house is a top "most stressful thing" an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn't downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.
Congratulations! May your new life as homeowners bring you happiness!
Make sure you know where the water shutoff valves are, and that the electric breakers are labelled. And do not, I repeat, DO NOT start any DYI project on a Friday afternoon.
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It is what?
I'm dying here with anticipation.
It's... is what happens when you are at year 5 in your home and hear the pitter patter of 2 small feet getting into something they shouldn't.
