Absolutely
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For me, its them having grandchildren
Honestly thatās a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just donāt manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but Iām very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that thereās a handover coming and theyāre going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and thereās no guarantee that itāll stay a more removed relationship
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The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world
You seem to be nailing responsibility though. Good on you for having that awareness.
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Honestly thatās a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just donāt manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but Iām very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that thereās a handover coming and theyāre going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and thereās no guarantee that itāll stay a more removed relationship
That's why I love being an auntie, but don't want kids of my own. I love hanging around with the kids, but that's only because I know I can send them back to their parents when I'm tired of them. The responsibility of looking after budgies by myself for almost 15 years (more if you count the childhood family pets) was enough. As much as I miss having birds, I'm ready to retire from any caregiving commitments.
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No just too much autism and a whole bunch of other shit going on that I never succeeded in this area.
All love, fellow human, but fuck this energy.
Fight. And build. And work. And be ready to fail and try again.
fight, dammit!
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Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw Iām 28 married and have a child.
And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.
All this time Iām thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if Iām married I havenāt even had my first kissā and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.
As a 30yo unmarried asexual introvert, I also get totally thrown off when people ask if I'm married or have kids.
A few weeks ago somebody straight up asked me what my wife does for work and I had to process that for a second before I could even think of a response.
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I love finding out that someone I graduated with has a kid who is now graduating, like damn I feel so old.
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You got married? But we're just kids... oh wait...
I definitely missed the starting gun, but now I'm too far behind so I'm just strolling along and taking paths where the race doesn't go.I'm hiding in the bushes watching the race while eating a can of sardines.
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The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world
wrote last edited by [email protected]You will never "be ready". Even if you think you are - you have no idea what awaits you.
Every aspect of your life will change all the way down to your core values.
It's a leap of faith. Thatās all it is Miles. A leap of faith
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The older I get the less I understand how people are able to even get to a position where they're able to have kids comfortably. I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another, not the mention the state of the greater world
I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another
This is great preparation for having children.
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If your username checks out, I agree
Gonna create an Addams family ass kid with a name like that
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I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another
This is great preparation for having children.
Everyone has a plan till they
get hit in the mouthhave a child- Mike Tyson
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I feel like my life is just a constant mess of putting out one fire after another
This is great preparation for having children.
And very likely not something I will put into practice haha
Needing to be responsible for a child would be too much for me, I would not be able to cope. I already get routinely overwhelmed and burnt out
