I didn't spell out the connection entirely, because I thought these key phrases would be enough to communicate it:
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I didn't spell out the connection entirely, because I thought these key phrases would be enough to communicate it:
my partner was like "No, you will not."
This wasn't a statement of fact on their part, it was about forbidding me to say the thing.
But the point wasn't the waitress (...) It was about my partner who, for about five seconds, probably wanted to die.
There's the crux if it. Whether the waitress reacted by thinking I was a grown adult acting silly or was actually that ignorant, I felt no embarrassment of my own, but I knew it would reflect negatively on my partner. Think about their wounded pride of having to be seen with/connected to me, having "chosen" me. Because, honestly, my intent was to embarrass my partner by association, and I feel I probably surpassed it and achieved "mortify" status. (A stronger form of embarrassment.)
Overall, a type of benign violation, which the Lemmy hivemind, well-meaning as it may be, simply can't fathom.
Btw, your German filmmaker story was funny and cool, but as you said, your intent was different.