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  • muji1414@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
    muji1414@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
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    I’m a 21-year-old from a lower-middle-class family, and ever since I finished my intermediate studies from a College (Pakistan) in 2023, I’ve carried a dream in my heart: to walk the leafy quad of a reputable university, to laugh with new friends in the cafeteria, to stay up late talking about life—and to build a future on my own terms. This wasn’t just my dream; it was my mom’s too. I carry her hopes with me every time I sit down to study.

    But life had other plans. In 2023, when fees and expenses loomed larger than our savings, my family couldn’t afford to send me on that path. So I put my dream on hold and took a job instead. I started at ₨35,000 per month—and over the last year, through long nights and early mornings, I’ve fought my way up to ₨60,000. I work 8 PM–5 AM, head straight to the gym at 6 AM to clear my head, grab a quick bite, and try to catch 2–3 hours of sleep before doing it all again.

    Now, at last, I feel ready to leap—and I want to enroll full-time. But the schedule I’m looking at scares me:

    Work: 8 PM–5 AM, five nights a week

    Gym: 6 AM–7 AM, for my physical and mental health

    University: 8 PM–2 AM lectures, 30–40 km from home, four days a week

    Sleep: Only about 2–3 hours a day

    Commitment: This marathon would run for the next four years

    I know the risks all too well: no safety net if I lose my job, the constant strain on my body and mind, the loneliness that comes with an upside-down schedule. And yet, every time I imagine my mom’s proud smile at my convocation, or the sense of belonging I’d feel on campus, I know I have to try.

    My questions for you:

    Sustainability: Can a nightly grind, early-morning workouts, and full-time studies truly work over four years—without burning out?

    Strategies: What practical tips can help me juggle time, health, and finances? Are there ways to carve out rest, build an emergency fund, or streamline my commute?

    Shared Journeys: Has anyone else lived this upside-down life—nights at work and days in class? How did you keep going, and what would you change if you could?

    I pour these words out with hope—and with fear. But more than anything, I carry determination: to honor my mom’s dreams, to prove to myself that I am capable of more, and to finally step into the world of campus life I’ve always imagined. Any advice, shared stories, or even just a few words of encouragement would mean the world to me. Thank you for listening.

    kami@lemmy.dbzer0.comK Z deuxchevaux@lemmy.worldD 3 Replies Last reply
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    • muji1414@lemmy.worldM [email protected]

      I’m a 21-year-old from a lower-middle-class family, and ever since I finished my intermediate studies from a College (Pakistan) in 2023, I’ve carried a dream in my heart: to walk the leafy quad of a reputable university, to laugh with new friends in the cafeteria, to stay up late talking about life—and to build a future on my own terms. This wasn’t just my dream; it was my mom’s too. I carry her hopes with me every time I sit down to study.

      But life had other plans. In 2023, when fees and expenses loomed larger than our savings, my family couldn’t afford to send me on that path. So I put my dream on hold and took a job instead. I started at ₨35,000 per month—and over the last year, through long nights and early mornings, I’ve fought my way up to ₨60,000. I work 8 PM–5 AM, head straight to the gym at 6 AM to clear my head, grab a quick bite, and try to catch 2–3 hours of sleep before doing it all again.

      Now, at last, I feel ready to leap—and I want to enroll full-time. But the schedule I’m looking at scares me:

      Work: 8 PM–5 AM, five nights a week

      Gym: 6 AM–7 AM, for my physical and mental health

      University: 8 PM–2 AM lectures, 30–40 km from home, four days a week

      Sleep: Only about 2–3 hours a day

      Commitment: This marathon would run for the next four years

      I know the risks all too well: no safety net if I lose my job, the constant strain on my body and mind, the loneliness that comes with an upside-down schedule. And yet, every time I imagine my mom’s proud smile at my convocation, or the sense of belonging I’d feel on campus, I know I have to try.

      My questions for you:

      Sustainability: Can a nightly grind, early-morning workouts, and full-time studies truly work over four years—without burning out?

      Strategies: What practical tips can help me juggle time, health, and finances? Are there ways to carve out rest, build an emergency fund, or streamline my commute?

      Shared Journeys: Has anyone else lived this upside-down life—nights at work and days in class? How did you keep going, and what would you change if you could?

      I pour these words out with hope—and with fear. But more than anything, I carry determination: to honor my mom’s dreams, to prove to myself that I am capable of more, and to finally step into the world of campus life I’ve always imagined. Any advice, shared stories, or even just a few words of encouragement would mean the world to me. Thank you for listening.

      kami@lemmy.dbzer0.comK This user is from outside of this forum
      kami@lemmy.dbzer0.comK This user is from outside of this forum
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      #2

      How many days do Pakistani weeks have?

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      • muji1414@lemmy.worldM [email protected]

        I’m a 21-year-old from a lower-middle-class family, and ever since I finished my intermediate studies from a College (Pakistan) in 2023, I’ve carried a dream in my heart: to walk the leafy quad of a reputable university, to laugh with new friends in the cafeteria, to stay up late talking about life—and to build a future on my own terms. This wasn’t just my dream; it was my mom’s too. I carry her hopes with me every time I sit down to study.

        But life had other plans. In 2023, when fees and expenses loomed larger than our savings, my family couldn’t afford to send me on that path. So I put my dream on hold and took a job instead. I started at ₨35,000 per month—and over the last year, through long nights and early mornings, I’ve fought my way up to ₨60,000. I work 8 PM–5 AM, head straight to the gym at 6 AM to clear my head, grab a quick bite, and try to catch 2–3 hours of sleep before doing it all again.

        Now, at last, I feel ready to leap—and I want to enroll full-time. But the schedule I’m looking at scares me:

        Work: 8 PM–5 AM, five nights a week

        Gym: 6 AM–7 AM, for my physical and mental health

        University: 8 PM–2 AM lectures, 30–40 km from home, four days a week

        Sleep: Only about 2–3 hours a day

        Commitment: This marathon would run for the next four years

        I know the risks all too well: no safety net if I lose my job, the constant strain on my body and mind, the loneliness that comes with an upside-down schedule. And yet, every time I imagine my mom’s proud smile at my convocation, or the sense of belonging I’d feel on campus, I know I have to try.

        My questions for you:

        Sustainability: Can a nightly grind, early-morning workouts, and full-time studies truly work over four years—without burning out?

        Strategies: What practical tips can help me juggle time, health, and finances? Are there ways to carve out rest, build an emergency fund, or streamline my commute?

        Shared Journeys: Has anyone else lived this upside-down life—nights at work and days in class? How did you keep going, and what would you change if you could?

        I pour these words out with hope—and with fear. But more than anything, I carry determination: to honor my mom’s dreams, to prove to myself that I am capable of more, and to finally step into the world of campus life I’ve always imagined. Any advice, shared stories, or even just a few words of encouragement would mean the world to me. Thank you for listening.

        Z This user is from outside of this forum
        Z This user is from outside of this forum
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        Sleep: Only about 2–3 hours a day

        Does not work. No way.

        Some people need 6 hours, some need 9 hours or whatever, but if you get less, then you can do that only for short periods. Not for a year or more.

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        • muji1414@lemmy.worldM [email protected]

          I’m a 21-year-old from a lower-middle-class family, and ever since I finished my intermediate studies from a College (Pakistan) in 2023, I’ve carried a dream in my heart: to walk the leafy quad of a reputable university, to laugh with new friends in the cafeteria, to stay up late talking about life—and to build a future on my own terms. This wasn’t just my dream; it was my mom’s too. I carry her hopes with me every time I sit down to study.

          But life had other plans. In 2023, when fees and expenses loomed larger than our savings, my family couldn’t afford to send me on that path. So I put my dream on hold and took a job instead. I started at ₨35,000 per month—and over the last year, through long nights and early mornings, I’ve fought my way up to ₨60,000. I work 8 PM–5 AM, head straight to the gym at 6 AM to clear my head, grab a quick bite, and try to catch 2–3 hours of sleep before doing it all again.

          Now, at last, I feel ready to leap—and I want to enroll full-time. But the schedule I’m looking at scares me:

          Work: 8 PM–5 AM, five nights a week

          Gym: 6 AM–7 AM, for my physical and mental health

          University: 8 PM–2 AM lectures, 30–40 km from home, four days a week

          Sleep: Only about 2–3 hours a day

          Commitment: This marathon would run for the next four years

          I know the risks all too well: no safety net if I lose my job, the constant strain on my body and mind, the loneliness that comes with an upside-down schedule. And yet, every time I imagine my mom’s proud smile at my convocation, or the sense of belonging I’d feel on campus, I know I have to try.

          My questions for you:

          Sustainability: Can a nightly grind, early-morning workouts, and full-time studies truly work over four years—without burning out?

          Strategies: What practical tips can help me juggle time, health, and finances? Are there ways to carve out rest, build an emergency fund, or streamline my commute?

          Shared Journeys: Has anyone else lived this upside-down life—nights at work and days in class? How did you keep going, and what would you change if you could?

          I pour these words out with hope—and with fear. But more than anything, I carry determination: to honor my mom’s dreams, to prove to myself that I am capable of more, and to finally step into the world of campus life I’ve always imagined. Any advice, shared stories, or even just a few words of encouragement would mean the world to me. Thank you for listening.

          deuxchevaux@lemmy.worldD This user is from outside of this forum
          deuxchevaux@lemmy.worldD This user is from outside of this forum
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          #4

          With that lack of sleep over such a long time, you won't succeed. You'll ruin your mind and body. You won't make your mother proud if you break down. Please look for a plan B.

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          • kami@lemmy.dbzer0.comK [email protected]

            How many days do Pakistani weeks have?

            muji1414@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
            muji1414@lemmy.worldM This user is from outside of this forum
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            Actually 5 days for me at work and university both

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