mentoring
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"Oh, you have goal X? Well that's wrong - you should have goal Y, and here is how I got there" is not an effective way to offer advice to anyone"
Where did you even get this? No one said this
I mean, just to put in basic terms, would you agree most young men should aim to be kingpin of their own casino, and have women falling over themselves to lick their jeans? And that anything less than that is a failure?
I’d imagine you don’t. And by that, you’re rejecting their goals. If your politics offers to people “Here’s how everyone can make a livable wage”, you’re pushing a much “meeker” goal on them than their ego is shooting for.
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Judging from what I have read before, some men genuinely think being greasy, sweaty looking and not being clean is attractive. I have read some comments in Lemmy before from men who feels like they found the secret sauce to attracting women: just being hygienic. The latter, I could pass it because they seem like they are neurodivergent. But the former? I don't even know. I heard it was more like a 90s and 00s trend. Maybe looking like you have a labour intensive job by looking greasy, sweaty and haven't showered for couple of days will turn on women, which isn't really the case.
sweaty but clean is what you want, though obviously only in specific circumstances like working and doing sport.
