What kinds of toxic masculinity have you encountered?
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Real men don't wipe their ass. That's touching your butt, which is always gay unless you have to scratch it.
It’s gay to even have a butt; I don’t have a body.
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Man, what a sad way to live their lives. I love "scaring the bros" music. Was watching Glastonbury festival on tv last weekend and the two best sets I caught were Charli XCX and Doechii.
Any YouTubes of their sets?
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It’s gay to even have a butt; I don’t have a body.
Bro I'm so straight I don't have a soul either. I'm just the lingering smell of a man that once existed.
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Any YouTubes of their sets?
I watched on BBC iPlayer because I'm in the UK but someone might have posted them on YT.
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There are a lot of great answers here, but I’d like to add one that I think is often forgotten in these conversations:
Purposeful incompetence around supposedly non-masculine skills.
It drives me up the wall every time I hear some dude talk about how they don’t know how to do basic tasks of living because the women in their lives take care of it for them.
Guys who act like laundry, cooking, dishes, changing a diaper, gardening, grocery shopping, etc. require arcane knowledge they just don’t possess.
That reminds me of a former job I had. I had a male coworker who refused to make coffee. It was a small company with only 10 employees and we had this really cheap machine where you just put coffee in the upper part and then let the water run through. Don't know what it's called.
Anyway, that coffee machine had ONE (1!) button: on/off. He'd always try to make me or the only other woman in the office make the coffee because "You women know better how to do those things. I never make coffee". The best part: he was one of the engineers in charge of repairing the power tools that the company sells!So, what happened if we refused or weren't there? There just wasn't any coffee! Those guys would rather not have their coffee than make it themselves!
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You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.Use your expensive/show-off devices everywhere, even if it's extremely unpractical: drive the car/take the horse to go to a place next door. Have the most expensive, top-notch devices to do the easiest and most mundane tasks.
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You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.Put on a higher weight than you can safely lift to not be outdone by the guy next to you, especially if your bro is watching.
Grunt/scream really loudly and slam the weights down, regardless of if your doing your max or just warming up.
Don't spot exercise your glutes, never stretch or train mobility or balance or cardio.
Don't wipe the equipment after use.
Don't take the plates off of the machines afterwards.
Do spill pwo and protein powder and don't clean it.
Use deodorant or body spray instead of showering after ("I already showered this morning").
Insist on jumping in between sets when someone else is working out, especially if it's a woman.
Offer (mostly poor or extremely basic) advice on technique to everyone who uses lighter weights than you, regardless of their actual form - especially if it's a woman.
Be insistent than any woman with headphones needs to take them off and pause their workout to hear the most pointless question or comment you can think of ("where did you get that?" & point to a bag clearly printed with a chain store name, or "it's good you keep your hair in a pony tail, don't want it to get stuck in the machine!", or "why do women always do that leg-kick-excercise? You don't need it, I like small asses anyway", or "have you tried this gainzzZ-drink?(hold up a half-drunk ready-made shake), it's not too chalky compared to their previous recipe").
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You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.I used to participate in r/theredpill. It's an ideology that got increasingly toxic over the years.
The part that truly made me ditch the manosphere was meeting a lady on a dating app who mentioned to me that RooshV was doing a rally near her town and that it had her fearing for her life. For the record, that was an incel/redpill influencer who was an advocate for legalizing spousal rape.
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You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.As a gay trans guy who grew up in the 90's trying to sort out the toxic masculinity/internalized misogyny while fully closeted and being unaware that other trans men exist is a trip. Like doing all that "I have no emotions and refuse anything remotely girl-coded" song and dance kind of made me into what looked from the outside like a "pick-me" for years and I was relentlessly pursued romantically by people I just wanted to hang out and drink beer with. It was isolating and fucked up even if the behaviour soothed the dysphoria.
Had to address the internalized misogyny thing first, realize that was not motivating the trans portion of the issue and then had to work on getting off the toxic sauce that felt so darkly affirming and actually spend time with cis men who had properly deconstructed their own masculinity. Now I'm generally way better off and have a bunch of folk whom I brunch with who gas each other up over cocktails.
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You can just vent if you want, but here’s more context:
We're playing a DnD oneshot soon, and the theme is toxic masculinity (particularly in a gym). We’re all playing dudes who visited the gym for a long time already. I already have some ideas for my character, but I want to collect some more stories of toxic masculinity, as I’m quite lucky that my bubble doesn’t have much of it.It wasn't over the top toxic, but I remember my old immigrant Italian landlord was on the phone with me as I called him about a repair, and after speaking to me about what I needed for a moment, asked if he could speak to my ex instead because he didn't seem to think I could take the instructions.
