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What are some backhanded compliments that are very subtle?

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    (i subtlety downvoted you)

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    And misspelled "subtly"? You're really typing with both fists today!

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    • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

      I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




      Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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      You're excused

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      • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

        I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




        Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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        This works only in Dutch. I used to work in the service industry, where every now and then you'd have rude or ungrateful people.

        In Dutch, the formal way of saying 'thank you' is 'Dank u', but that's very close in pronunciation to French 'dans cul', meaning 'in the ass'.

        So with people I secretly loathed I would thank them with an ever so slight French twang.

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        • akasazh@feddit.nlA [email protected]

          This works only in Dutch. I used to work in the service industry, where every now and then you'd have rude or ungrateful people.

          In Dutch, the formal way of saying 'thank you' is 'Dank u', but that's very close in pronunciation to French 'dans cul', meaning 'in the ass'.

          So with people I secretly loathed I would thank them with an ever so slight French twang.

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          that’s great

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          • P [email protected]

            You can express your views about these people in a dispassionate manner as well. It’s not a choice between being a dick about it or agreeing with them. Nothing good comes from passive aggression. You’d probably consider that toxic too if it were directed at you or your opinions.

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            If you don't say anything, they assume you agree with them. It's a fine line between letting them know you (maybe respectfully) disagree, vs. actively debating, but in some cases I think it's worthwhile to try to let them know you aren't inside their bubble. Agree outright dickishness is unhelpful, but so much depends on the specifics of the relationship and circumstances of delivery.

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            • O [email protected]

              You're at the top of the bell curve!

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              The best part is that it isn't really an insult.

              Statistically speaking, any given person is most likely to be near the peak of the bell curve of a given thing.

              Someone being offended by it means that they think they're above average, and you think they're average. There's nothing wrong with being average...most people are.

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                You seem like management material.

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                Try to channel your best Ron Swanson while saying it.

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                • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

                  I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




                  Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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                  "I love that you're not afraid to say just whatever comes to you."

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                  • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

                    I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




                    Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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                    One I came across in a novel I'm reading just now: "I wanted to tell her how happy she must be as a married woman now that she no longer have to bother with looking attractive".

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                    • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

                      I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




                      Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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                      The ol uncle Iroh

                      "Wisdom has been chasing you all your life but you have always been faster"

                      Bad sarcasm me and my friends do

                      Any response to "ive been thinking" that is shocked. Like "Wow. And?" Or "good for you"

                      or any form of "yeah, youre getting there"

                      Basically rember that perfection is impossible and that comparison is the thief of joy but be a dick lol

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                      • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

                        I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




                        Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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                        See you later!

                        Not if I see you first.

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                        • S [email protected]

                          You too? Haven't been able to edit for a couple of weeks. I think it has to do with a ban on some comm.

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                          It's about 50/50 if I can edit in the web UI, but I haven't been able to edit from Voyager for at least a few weeks

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                          • moondoggie@lemmy.worldM [email protected]

                            I use the blank stare with “what do you mean?” Then I continue to be clueless as they explain whatever shitty viewpoint they’re backing.

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                            This is the most fun way to see just how shitty a racist is. The ones that still have a modicum of shame end up trying to tap dance around outright saying the quiet part out loud, and making them super uncomfortable playing dumb is my favorite way to interact with those kinds of people.

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                              The ol uncle Iroh

                              "Wisdom has been chasing you all your life but you have always been faster"

                              Bad sarcasm me and my friends do

                              Any response to "ive been thinking" that is shocked. Like "Wow. And?" Or "good for you"

                              or any form of "yeah, youre getting there"

                              Basically rember that perfection is impossible and that comparison is the thief of joy but be a dick lol

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                              Whenever my wife says anything along the lines of “I’ve been thinking”, my go-to response is always “do I need to call the church?”

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                                The ol uncle Iroh

                                "Wisdom has been chasing you all your life but you have always been faster"

                                Bad sarcasm me and my friends do

                                Any response to "ive been thinking" that is shocked. Like "Wow. And?" Or "good for you"

                                or any form of "yeah, youre getting there"

                                Basically rember that perfection is impossible and that comparison is the thief of joy but be a dick lol

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                                I'm sure both of you enjoy that joke

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                                • theprogressivist@lemmy.worldT [email protected]

                                  "I hope the rest of your day is as pleasant as you are"

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                                  Awe thanks!

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                                    How are any of these SUBTLE

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                                      How are any of these SUBTLE

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                                      I think that greatly depends on to whom you are speaking.

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                                      • zachariah@lemmy.worldZ [email protected]

                                        I may need to say something that is (seemingly) nice about someone, but I’d prefer it be very subtly backhanded or nearly believable hyperbole.




                                        Edit: I realized that I was imagining something like how the Colbert Report was done where it’s easy to believe I’m agreeing when really I’m spoofing.

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                                        "I love how you can just wear whatever."

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                                        • F [email protected]

                                          The ol uncle Iroh

                                          "Wisdom has been chasing you all your life but you have always been faster"

                                          Bad sarcasm me and my friends do

                                          Any response to "ive been thinking" that is shocked. Like "Wow. And?" Or "good for you"

                                          or any form of "yeah, youre getting there"

                                          Basically rember that perfection is impossible and that comparison is the thief of joy but be a dick lol

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                                          Any response to "ive been thinking"

                                          I usually quickly respond "you okay?" in a concerned tone.

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