So so unfair
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There's a lot of nuance to this topic I think. In my (VERY anecdotal) experience men often have thicker hair which tends to be less brittle less quickly.
At least that's my experience as trans woman, around the time my treatment started my hair got slightly thinner and more prone to damage. So it's probably also a hormonal thing.wrote last edited by [email protected]Cis man here with long hair. My hair is super thin and breaks like crazy. I went to dermatologist (thought I was going bald lol) and it seems that hair changes a lot between people and some advice I've seen online isn't as general as much as people think, like not washing your hair everyday (she told me my hair NEEDS to be washed everyday cause it gets mega oily quickly).
But yeah, longer hair needs more care for sure, like, I had never used hair conditioner before but now it's a must, started using a hair drier sometimes too. I used to think that women taking a long time to shower and get ready we're just slow but fuck, long hair is a lot of work.
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I never expected there were so many other long haired men here secretly dealing with hair issues! I thought I'd been dealing with this alone the last few years since I decided to stop buzzcutting myself. Now I wish we had a more active hair community. Not necessarily male only, as this post seems to show we have "human hair" and not "guy hair" or "girl hair."
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Why do people put so much energy into projecting identity politics on a superfluous detail like hair? Who cares? It's all just a vanity concern, selfishly obsessed with what others think about how you look.
Does your hair make you have some intrinsic identity to others that you are or are not going for? Fuck you, I don't care.
Do you authentically care, yourself?
Maybe you care about the politics - I can understand that. There is legitimate fear around legislating serious, dangerous things to your identity (not hair). Why the fuck are you spending your time and energy on hair???
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Why do people put so much energy into projecting identity politics on a superfluous detail like hair? Who cares? It's all just a vanity concern, selfishly obsessed with what others think about how you look.
Does your hair make you have some intrinsic identity to others that you are or are not going for? Fuck you, I don't care.
Do you authentically care, yourself?
Maybe you care about the politics - I can understand that. There is legitimate fear around legislating serious, dangerous things to your identity (not hair). Why the fuck are you spending your time and energy on hair???
Do you care about your appearance in any capacity or do you just roll out of bed and go on with your day?
If so, why the fuck are you spending your time and energy on your appearance?
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So, still boomer humor based on manufactured gender division. Cool.
You’re That
GuyPerson at parties right?If you look for things to be angry about, you’re going to find them. This seems like a silly hill to die on
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It's mainly to do with longer and seldom cut hair being a lot harder to keep healthy than shorter and often cut hair is.
Being a man or woman doesn't directly dictate the quality of one's hair, rather in the current cultural environment it influences how long one's hair is likely to be allowed to get before it's cut (and how much it gets cut) which in turn influences how healthy one's hair naturally is.
Then there's also the whole concern with one's external appearence which again in present day culture is also different in average for men and women, with the latter under more social pressure to look well groomed.
Plenty of guys out there with long hair have to go to a lot of trouble to make it look healthy when they actually try to.
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The amount of upvotes this boomer shit has is just fucking embarrassing. Gender has absolutely zero impact on hair. It's all genetics. I'm male and my hair is long and thin as fuck.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Gender has absolutely zero impact on hair.
I used to think this also when I had long, wavy locks. Then met my secret new friend who was hiding away in the back of my genes "male pattern baldness" and now I know that men very much have different hair concerns than most women.
Also, it's not a joke about gender having an impact on hair, it's a joke about gendered roles having an impact on hair and how pointless a lot of the gendered expectations and marketed products are. Take a breath and learn the difference.
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Do you care about your appearance in any capacity or do you just roll out of bed and go on with your day?
If so, why the fuck are you spending your time and energy on your appearance?
I do, of course. I even do my hair. I didn't mean to imply that one should not care about it hygienically, just for your own health and personal self image.
I just don't understand the urge to thrust gender identity onto hair style and then argue about what that means to the polity online.
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Long haired cismale here. I can use the cheapest shower gel and look magnificent.
Long haired woman here: I use dr bronners and no conditioner and it suits my purposes. It does feel nicer with a deep conditioner, but it’s not worth the extra time imo
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Why do people put so much energy into projecting identity politics on a superfluous detail like hair? Who cares? It's all just a vanity concern, selfishly obsessed with what others think about how you look.
Does your hair make you have some intrinsic identity to others that you are or are not going for? Fuck you, I don't care.
Do you authentically care, yourself?
Maybe you care about the politics - I can understand that. There is legitimate fear around legislating serious, dangerous things to your identity (not hair). Why the fuck are you spending your time and energy on hair???
dayummmm take a breath lol, its just a dumb meme
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dayummmm take a breath lol, its just a dumb meme
I 100% agree with you.
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Bold of you to assume the top half of my head still grows hair.
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Long haired cismale here. I can use the cheapest shower gel and look magnificent.
Hello name sibling! I’m a long haired lady person.
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The amount of upvotes this boomer shit has is just fucking embarrassing. Gender has absolutely zero impact on hair. It's all genetics. I'm male and my hair is long and thin as fuck.
wrote last edited by [email protected]Hormones can play a role as well. Anecdotally, my wife's hair during pregnancy became fuller and less brittle. Duckduckgo "pregnancy hair". A monthly cycle, being on hormonal birth control, etc. will likely have some effect. I definitely agree that genetics does play a bigger role, but claiming that gender/sex plays no role is definitely incorrect.
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It's not about men vs. women, it's short hair vs. long hair. Most men don't have long hair, the dish soap works for short hair but depending on your hair type you want to use something better for long hair.
I wash my very long hair 2-3 times a week and often get compliments from women. Many express some variation of "I wish my hair would grow that long" but none of them like the answer. "I do nothing to it. No heat treatments, no bleach, no color, no tight braids, no styling. Shampoo approximately every other day and condition weekly."
(Dish soap would probably strip the natural oils too aggressively, even for short hair. Rough on the scalp.)
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Relevant Screaming Trees:
I nearly lost you there(Also, bring back 90s hair!)
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Relevant Screaming Trees:
I nearly lost you there(Also, bring back 90s hair!)
It never left, been rocking waist length hair since the 90s, that guy has short hair compared to me.
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I wash my very long hair 2-3 times a week and often get compliments from women. Many express some variation of "I wish my hair would grow that long" but none of them like the answer. "I do nothing to it. No heat treatments, no bleach, no color, no tight braids, no styling. Shampoo approximately every other day and condition weekly."
(Dish soap would probably strip the natural oils too aggressively, even for short hair. Rough on the scalp.)
Dish soap on hair is actually awful, leaves it dry, clumped/stuck together, and unmanageable. I got something in my hair when I was under 10, all I remember is it was SO BAD I willingly went to wash my hair.
I have a similar routine to you I don't blow dry either it is towel dry, except I condition each time I wash, and get the same responses from women who equally do not like the "I wash, condition, and cut it (well its been a few years now but) every 3 months, and do nothing else."
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Length and type of hair is what matters. Men with a typical short haircut with straight hair do not benefit from conditioner.
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As a guy with long curly hair, it is not that simple.
True, when I plan well enough it's glorious: shower the night before, CG shampoo bar + stay in conditioner and I can just run my fingers trough my hair to style it the day after
When I shower before an event it's a very thin line between too frizzy or too greasy and flat.
